Can you tell me what kind of person am I?
By LadyLudie
@LadyLudie (359)
Philippines
November 27, 2007 5:16am CST
Because sometimes I really hate myself for being so patient to anybody.although that they are abusing me and sometimes they are torturing me mentally still i just keep quiet,I just let them nag,for me as long as they are not hurting me physically and nothing is being ruined or destroyed so far i just ignore it but deep inside me i am angry and disturbed.I am not a coward to fight anyone,but I only fight only in a extreme situation,i don't waste my time talking odd words and after everything is okay.I also don't give a smile but deep inside i hate to do it.Sometimes people misinterpret me that I am hard to befriend,but once they knew me they say I am a kind warm hearted person.is there anything to change my character?
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9 responses
@sherinek (3320)
• United States
27 Nov 07
You are a reserved person like me. People think I am proud but after being with me a while, they get to know me. But now i have changed my self to a cheery person. At work, i never get angry with anyone cos i know they are not my own. I just turn away and let it go. At home i am different. I show my emotions and finish it off. This is because, i have now learned that by covering our emotions to the family, they will not understand our problems and we will never be relaxed. Now i dont do that mistake anymore. Why dont you also try that? you will feel more relaxed!
@wisedragon (2325)
• Philippines
27 Nov 07
I think it's better to be like that rather than the abrasive, confrontational type. I'm actually trying to develop the patience that you have, because my temper can be so explosive. So when I am p_ssed off at somebody, I try to just stay quiet and walk away. Try doing that - walking away from the people that p_ss you off. It's their loss anyway.
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
28 Nov 07
To me, you sound like a very kind warm person who is just really tired of getting taken advantage of. I used to be that way also and I still am a very kind and warm person. I now find that I do feel better when I speak up and tell whomever that I will not tolerate being treated poorly. If someone is abusive i do everything to avoid them and so should you.
@BayleighGray (4334)
• United States
27 Nov 07
Hi LadyLudie,
My sister is like this, and she is always getting hurt because she is just so nice and sweet and doesnt complain or say anything to anyone. I always encourage her to speak up and dont take no sh!t! Thats how I am.
I really dont think its a terrible characterisitic to have, you just have to know when to speak up and when not too. Definately dont let people bully you in anyway. I dont think you really need to change yourself, just be more selective and speak up when its really important to you. Love yourself for who you are, your this way for a reason I do believe. It doesnt sound like to me that you need to change a thing. Being a kind warm hearted person has many benefits in life!
Bay Lay Gray xx
@Aussies2007 (5336)
• Australia
27 Nov 07
While you may not be a coward... you do not like the idea of getting into a fight... particulary a physical one.
You keep quiet in order to not worsen the situation... as you know that you are dealing with a bully who is likely to do you some physical harm.
My advice to you... and I strongly suggest that you follow it... if you want to be happy...
Is to remove those people from your life and never have anything to do with them again. It might be hard to get ride of them. But you must make it perfectly clear to them that you do not want to see them again.
Once you did so... you will experience a great relief and you will be a much happier person.
@Mike227 (155)
• Australia
27 Nov 07
Hi LadyLudie,
Just be a little bit patient with yourself, you deserve at least the same treatment as anybody else, don't you think? Hating is such an unpleasant feeling and for all "they" do to you, you only hate yourself?
I am sure you do have someone you can talk to, who understands you; let it be friends or family.
I can't tell you, what kind of person you are, because I don't know you more than a few lines...
I just know one thing, that the people who matter don't mind and the people which don't mind, don't matter.
After all, they have to spend 24 hours every day with themselves, maybe this is the reason for their abusive nature?
@ilsksaa11 (36)
• China
27 Nov 07
you are a welldoer,i am the same kind of persion of you are~i hate myaelf too~ how can we protect ourselves from being framed by others!i think we must be stronger,as i am older, i realize that people use our patient never maind hurt us!
