idependance or marriage. Can a woman do both?

United States
November 27, 2007 2:41pm CST
My husband and I had a talk the other day about stay at home moms vs the working woman. I use to be a a working woman and know it has its rewards. However now I am a stay at home mom. that also has rewards. The transition was very hard and, my husband thinks woman should be equals to men but, never lose sight of what a woman was originally suppose to be. A Companion to men. Are you independant or a stay at home mom and what are your rewards? Do you believe that we are equal or should we remember our place?
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@palonghorn (5483)
• United States
27 Nov 07
I must say, your husband seems to have double standards, in that he says women should be equals but she should keep in mind to remember her place and that is at his beck and call. I've been married 3 times and so has my s/o, we have been living together for over 2 years, and in many ways that's the same as being married only minus the ring and the paper. I am independent, I work full time for the forestry service, my dream job, but I also take care of the house. He also works full time and then some in law enforcement, but he also helps out around the house. He is proud of me for being independent, because he knows that if something were to happen to him (God forbid) that I would be able to get through it. And he made a comment to my daughter that the gift I gave him last Christmas, he knew had to have taken most of one of my paychecks, and that made it even more special to him. I think we can be companions as well as equals, he and I are living proof. I have never felt that I had to have a man in my life to make me whole, it's just a bonus to have someone to come home too, to share things with, and to be there for each other.
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• Lampe, Missouri
28 Nov 07
I think men and women should be treated equal but in most casses they are not. i am a stay at home mom but also have my own buisness as a Passion Parties consultnat i make 40% of what my sales are. we have 3 children together as well ages 3, 5, and 7 and my hubby keeps them for me while i am out doing show's and parties. my hubby works for his brother most of the time but together we run our own buisness doing land scapping, rock work, machanics and much more. no some how the house work dose seem to be more on me but i am home most of the day so no big deal. he dose help with the house cleaning from time to time. my hubby has even kept two of our girls so that i could go to florida to visit family. and he is planning on keeping them all this coming march so that i can go to vegas for convention with Passion Parties. so if you would together it can and will work.
@blueunicorn (2408)
• United States
28 Nov 07
I am a stay-at-home mom, but I also believe that I am independant. If I had to live without my husband it would be a struggle, but I would be able to do it. As a stay-at-home mom I do believe that it is part of my job to be a companion to my husband. I care for the household and most of the child care needs while my husband works outside of the home to provide for our family financially. I believe we are equals as far as that my needs and thoughts are just as important as his are. Both of us have taken a turn at being the stay-at-home parent while the other works outside of the home. I must say, the pressure of being the working parent was a lot! My husband makes sure that I have plenty of outside interests if that is what I wish to do. I think that a woman can be both- independant and a companion to our husbands. In our family that is what works best. It's not for all families, though.