when to decide to shut your mouth for a long time...

Dont feel bad. I too am a "social butterfly" (thats what I call myself)lol. People may not admit it but everyone enjoys gossip in one way or another. I have had many jobs where gossip was an issue. The trick to this is to realize that most likely there will be gossipers around and to know how to beat them at their own game. If you are talking with them about someone else, imagine what they say about you to someone else. Its human nature to be curious. Its unforgiveable to be hurtful. Just remember if they are talking about you they are giving someone else a break. My advice to you is dont tell any one of your intentions and just stay out of it. Its hard, but at the end of the day you can go home and relax. Otherwise, you will always have some sort of drama in your life. I hate to say it but usually what happens is you will be the one blamed for what someone brought to you. Its like when a couple is arguing and they want advice. Ninety percent of the time you are the a**hole and everyone ends up mad at you. And all you did was listen to the crap and respond in a helpful manner. Or so you thought. Trust me. Been there and done that! Dont ignore them, just use small talk and get to work. Good Luck!

If it is just gossips, I guess there is no malice. It becomes pain only if it ends up in personal attack. When this happens, I would think it is not appropriate to keep quiet. I would be a silent agreement and they might be more aggressive or arrogant.

When gossipers take your very frank oppinion and misrepresent those views to people you didnt mean to hurt at all-these are people you need to shut up and close up comletely on if you are to have peace.

i know its annoying ourselves to live on those environtment which like to do gossiping each other. sometimes, when i arrived at office, i just wanna be silence and didnt wanna talk more or giving any commenting,but do you know how they would think about me if i did that? they would have opinion that i m gonna report these things to the boss. oh c'mon, i m not kind a person who really wants credit from my boss. i know which is needed to tell and which is not. its really upseting me much, you know. fhhuuuhhh, gossiping wont be end till we take ourselved far away from that

Hello eyewitness,Thanks for your discussion and if you dont mind I have some suggestions for everyone who becomes victims like you andthere are just few rules to be followd strictly, firstly in office never ever discuss about your personal life/relationships/family problems with any body,also dont show any interest in any gossip sessions or gossip groups during break hours, just reach office in time, mind your own jobs with a smilling face and get out of your office once your official duties are over.If someone really needs your help let him/her approach you directly, then if its a health issue or some thing really honest cause then help him/her with your best ability and contacts .I think your problem will be solved and finally in your personal life if your friend or friends talking against you in your absence then he/she is not your real friend, stay away from those friends, mix with them as you follow the rulesin your office and search for real friends who never talk against a friend in his/her absence but says straight what he/she dont like about you or where you are right or wrong,and that friend will stay beside you even if the rest of the world leaves you alone .Thanks.

waahhh.....If you are really a gossip qween then you did the right thing. Keeping your mouth shut is better than making enimies in your work place..!! I decide to keep my mouth shut when I am in anger..!! I really decide not to talk to any one when I am angry. I only talk to those peole who don't mind me to whatever I say because they understand me very well that I am in anger at that time. BUt if some body provokes me to speak when I am in anger then I just can't stop yelling right to that person whom I am angry on. I must control my anger but sometimes my friends can get on my nerves!!

"I'm gonna tell I'm gonna tell I'm gonna holler and I'm gonna yell I'll get you in trouble for EVERYTHING you do I'm gonna tell on you" from a song, TRAD