Playpens - Baby Jail or Parenting Necessity

United States
November 30, 2007 5:29pm CST
Do you a playpen is a necessity for your parenting style or feel they nothing more than a baby jail? How do you use them? Why? How often?
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@coffeebreak (17798)
• United States
1 Dec 07
Depends on how you look at it. You can't hold the child 24/7. The child needs time to play on its own. The child needs something to occupy itself while you do other things. Safety is the first concern. I see nothing wrong with play pens. Give the hcild some toys and let them learn how to entertain themselves and use their imagenations and have fun. While they are doing that, you can be doing the dishes or vacumming or paying bills. Better than having them moving around the house and the only words he/she hears is "don't touch that!" and "Get away from there" and "don't do that" and "I told you to stay here" and on the list goes. Better than them crying for attention and you fussing at them to be quiet and stop crying.
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• United States
3 Dec 07
I prefer to baby proof my home so she can move around it without me telling her no all the time. There are a few things she is told not to touch though and I feel it is also good for her to learn that somethings are ok to touch and some are not.
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@coffeebreak (17798)
• United States
4 Dec 07
I did both ways. I baby proofed the house, but also use the play pen for the reasons stated above. LIttle ones need 100% attention and if you have something else to do, they dont get your 100% attention and that is when things happen. IF the parent doesnt' make a big deal about being "in jail" or "caged up" the child isn't goig to have a problem with it.. it will just be a place that has alot of cool toys to play with all he wants to !
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• United States
1 Dec 07
Some parents may feel a little guilty putting their baby in a playpen with wooden bars and a vinyl-covered, padded bottom. It may seem too much like a padded 40-by-40-inch prison cell. But these days, your child's playpen, sometimes called play yards, is more likely to have features such as toy bars with removable soft toys. It may play classical tunes, lullabies and nature sounds to entertain and soothe your baby.Many playpens may also be used as bassinets or changing tables. But Nychelle Fleming, the public affairs specialist for the U.S. Consumer Product Safety Commission (CPSC) in Bethesda, Md., says consumers need to use extra caution when it comes to multiple-use playpens. "The thing for consumers to keep in mind with multiple-use ones [is that] a lot of them have warning labels and instruction use labels on when to use, how to use, age, [etc.]," says Fleming, who used a multiple-use playpen when she had her daughter. "Each one will differ from one manufacturer to the next. For instance, I know they have the new built-in changing table on one side and then the other side may be a bassinet for a younger age, and when you reach a certain age they tell you to remove that completely."
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• United States
1 Dec 07
I absolutely agree that if you use them, they should be used properly. But I am strictly referring to the "playpen" function. How does everyone feel about using it? Is it right?
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• United States
4 Dec 07
Jail cell? It's a baby. I doubt they even know what it is. No child has ever been damaged because a child was left in a play pen for too long. Some parenting "experts" have way too much time on their hands to dream up BS like this.
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• United States
13 Dec 07
You mean to tell me that a child who is left in a play pen for 10 hours a day is getting enough love and interaction let alone room and freedom to move, learn to walk and explore? I'd hate to be your kid.
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@jmcafam (2890)
• United States
1 Dec 07
I have a pack and play but I have used it twice since getting it. Mainly got it for when my girls are at my sisters house and my little one needs to lie down and take a nap.
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@coffeebreak (17798)
• United States
4 Dec 07
They make great "extra" beds for home and travel!
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@lilybug (21107)
• United States
1 Dec 07
I jokingly call my daughters playpen her baby jail. She really does not spend much time in it. She will occasionally play in there when she is sleepy and refusing to sit down and keeps bumping into things. It keeps her contained long enough for her to calm down and take the nap she is fighting. If I don't put her in there she will walk around bumping into things. I think they are fine for an occasional use, but they are way over used by some parents.
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• United States
3 Dec 07
That's a good use! I hate when my daughter throws a temper tantrum and hit her head because she is flailing.
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• United States
1 Dec 07
Well when my son was born I went out and brought one of them pack and play playpens. Just so that I could have something to lay him in if we were going to be out all day such as my sister's house etc.. He hated the thing. If I tried to put him in it he would start to cry instantly. so This 100 dollar playpen that you could fold up and take everywhere ended up being a toy box for the longest time for all of his toys. My sister son is about to turn one and he hated the playpen as well. I have never known any kids to actually stay in one. Personally I think they are just a waste of money. Money that could be well spent on something else
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• Singapore
4 Dec 07
Yes, same here, my playpen comes with a bassinet and I thought it was a good idea, but my son hates it. He can't lie there for long and will start crying. AFter examining it, I realized that it's not 100% flat and it's slanted after prolonged use.
• United States
3 Dec 07
My son would never ever stay in a pack n play unless it was for a nap. So it was used every now and then when he needed to nap and we were out somewhere. My daughter - born 8 years later- got one at the baby shower. It has a basinet attachment that I thought would be really useful. She wouldn't sleep in it. She spent the first couple of months sleeping in her carrier/car seat or sometimes in the bed with me. Then she transitioned to her crib. The pack n play hasn't been opened since. If she needs to nap while we are out, she sleeps in my arms or on my back in a carrier.
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@blueunicorn (2401)
• United States
1 Dec 07
There are times when a playpen is a definite neccessity. For example, when I was a first time mom I could never figure out what to do with my little one while I went to the restroom. The baby went in the playpen. There are just somethings that baby does not need to join in on! Cooking was another time that I just felt uncomfortable letting my baby be on the floor. The playpen came in handy then, too. I didn't always use the playpen, though. Sometimes I would set the kids in their bouncy chairs on the floor near me, or the exersaucer, or any number of different ways to keep baby safe while I did what I had to do. I would never put the baby in the playpen as any sort of punishment and never for long periods at a time. I would say 30 minutes at the most while I was cooking a meal.
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• United States
3 Dec 07
I've always just brought my little ones into the bathroom with me. To me it isn't a big deal. As for cooking, my husband does that, so I just occupy the baby to keep her out of the way when he cooks, but if I had to cook, I would probably have my son who is 9, keep her busy. I've never tried putting her in a playpen, but I don't think she'd do anything but scream. She likes her freedom.
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@coffeebreak (17798)
• United States
4 Dec 07
blueunicorn - my sentiments exactly. They are useful when you use them intelligently.
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• United States
3 Dec 07
I brought my daughters into the bathroom with me most of the time, but there were just sometimes when I wanted more security than them crawling around on the floor while I did my thing. There were many days when my daughters were young that my husband would leave for work at 5 in the morning and arrive home at 6 pm. I often felt like a single mother. During those times I play pen was a neccessity. They, too, liked their freedom, but I needed to know they were safe and not under foot in order to care for the household and get everything done that needed doing.
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13 Dec 07
I think they are good for times when you need to do something in the same room as the child or at times when you want to have something to eat and you don't want your child to hurt themselves. You can still watch them while they are in them, you just don't have to chase after them aswell. I haven't used one before, but i've always thought they could be useful for occasional use. I would only use the kind that have soft sides and no cover over the top myself, but thats only because i would prefer to still see what my son was doing instead of being in one that has a cover which is more like a tent.
• Pakistan
19 Dec 07
No a playpen is not like a baby jail. The children want to come here and want to enjoy the different games. They also pay for games in our town. So we should not call it a baby jail. Playing is a need of children. They want to enjoy the beginning of their life. And here they come and enjoy it well.
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• Pakistan
16 Dec 07
No a play pen is not like a baby jail. The children want to come here and want to enjoy the different games. They also pay for games in our town. So we should not call it a baby jail. Playing is a need of children. They want to enjoy the beginning of their life. And here they come and enjoy it well.