Dealing with a lonely christmas

@Myrrdin (3599)
Canada
December 1, 2007 11:17am CST
This is the first christmas I will be "celebrating" since the break up of my marriage. As per our arrangement our daughter will be with my ex this year. Christmas eve and boxing day I will have her at my parents, but christmas day I will be alone with nothing to do. How do you deal with being alone on Christmas? Christmas has always been a big family holiday for me, so not having my daughter is going to be rough.
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@Ngippol (567)
• Philippines
1 Dec 07
Life is tough really. I'm sorry to hear that from you! Before you posted here in mylot, have you talked with anybody else about it? Why not consider God? You might as well end up having your family together, complete and happy. Jesus is the keeper of broken hearts!
@Myrrdin (3599)
• Canada
1 Dec 07
First off I am not looking to reunite with my ex. It won't happen, neither of us want that, and it is not in the best interests of our daughter. As for god, well I am not a religious person, a long time ago I discovered religion did not hold any answers, that my life and my destiny is in my own hands. As for talking to others, I've talked to my parents a bit about it, I've briefly discussed it with my girlfriend. None the less it changes nothing, I will most likely be home alone for christmas day.
@Ravenladyj (22908)
• United States
7 Dec 07
oh wow can I ever relate! I have spent most of my Xmas' (before kids) alone and after kids I spent every other Xmas (for the entire week) alone because my kids would go up to their dads. It was a fair arrangement but the yrs alone wihtout my kids were hell for me..Hell I didnt like my kids being gone for a weekend during regular times in the yr but when it came to their dad having them for Xmas, birthdays etc it was so hard on me.... Unfortunately I dont have any solid advice. I use to handle it in a very negative fashion (getting drunk and stoned in order to cope) but Xmas has also always been a very bad time of yr for me so not having my kids etc just made it all worse ya know...Best I can suggest is to reach out to family and friends, if you've been invited to visit ppl etc take them up on it ya know. Take the time to visit family etc OR you could spend the time alone and just reflect, make a game plan for coming yr (becuae I'm sure this won't be your first "alone" on an important date ya know)...Sorry I dont have better than that to give you but like I said I always use to handle it in the worst of ways..Hell I've spent more Xmas' in bars or alone in my hotel in my 37 yrs than with anyone....
7 Dec 07
Hey! i'm Ben i'm so so sorry to hear that from you. yes, life is always tough and cold-blooded.but even you are alone now ,please don't feel lonely.think about your friends. and i, as a new friend of yours(if you like), will always be there for you , even we are from different nation,i believe we have the same aim that to live better. best wish to you !
@deebomb (15313)
• United States
2 Dec 07
Spending Christmas with out the kids isn't any picnic. What you might do is volunteer at a soup kitchen, check out a hospital and go read and spend time with some of the ill children, do the same at a nursing home. Go and just visit with some elderly people that don't have any family to visit them. There are a number of things you can do so that Christmas won't be so lonely. Adopt a child for the day. I'm sure that there is something that you can do for the day.
• United States
1 Dec 07
My first year after my children were grown and left home I was alone on Christmas and instead of spending it alone or looking for something to do I went on a vacation to a tropical resort and spent 9 days in the sun, sure it was not the same without them, and not the same since it was not a family Christmas that I had grown to love, but it was one that I will always remember ... sipping fruity drinks with umbrella's in them on a sunny beach!! Life can be grand, if it make it that way! Be well, my friend!