will you change yourself for your lover?

China
December 2, 2007 3:20am CST
different people have different habits and hobbies,especailly men and women or girls and boys,such as boys usually like watching sports programes,but girls love cosmetics or foods or clothes or operas,so will you change your hobbies for your lover?
12 responses
@mirrorzy (71)
• China
3 Dec 07
I have been thinking of this question these days and came across your discussion a minute ago! I do not want to change by others, but I am willing to change for my loved one, and I think it is necessary to adapt my partner, both us two. People have different habits and I think we need to change in some extent. However, do change totally, or you will not be yourself!
• China
3 Dec 07
I meant do not change yourself totally. I missed a 'not'.
@rb200406 (1825)
• India
3 Dec 07
I guess everyone has to change soemewhere for your partner.The man changes for the woman & woman changes for the man.It is not the person but some habits which can irritate can be changed like man's habit of waking very late can be irritating for the wife can be changed by the man & so on.
@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
2 Dec 07
When I get married, if there are things that I feel that I need to change about myself for compromise and such, yes I will change them. But, I will not compromise who I am to please anyone.
@sang2k2 (1834)
• India
2 Dec 07
Yeh i will as a woman has to according to me after marriage or even in a relation.as if i love the person and i wish to be with him forever than i shall definately change for the better but not for just he is asking me to some thing which is required than i may go for it.As if i change without he asking me for than he would notice than and may try and change a few things in him for me
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@lucy67 (819)
• China
2 Dec 07
perhaps i will change some of my hobbies if they really bother him too much and i can change those habits without much pain. if we love someone, we should allow them to have his/her way of life and at the same time, we should change ourselves for our beloved ones but i don't think it right to change ourselves completely because if in that way we will lose ourselves.
@anjuscor (1266)
• India
2 Dec 07
Obviously yes when it is annoying someone else's happiness. When you fall in love you are committed, you have to live for each other. So if my guy doesnt like my hoobies i would definitely change them if they are not good.
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• India
2 Dec 07
Hello angela2006, If the request is reasonable I will change myself or otherwise I will convince that the request made is not genuine. Afterall understanding each other is what is called love.
@niranjans87 (1078)
• India
2 Dec 07
Well if she really loves me then she will love me for what i am and not for what i can be or not for what she could turn me into...i know when you get into a relationship there are a lot of compromises but these should never be major ones...if she wants me to change something that defines me then there is no point in the relationship at all..
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@diillu (5128)
2 Dec 07
I think I would be glad to change myself to some extent for my lover. It's just seeng the happiness in my lover makes me feel so happy. But there will be the limit of changing myself. I don't want to be comeplete change for the sake of my lover. But I would like to change some of my bad habits or other things that my lover would dislike and would be very glad if I don't do it.
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25 Oct 12
Well for me I can change myself, my attitude. if my wife want to.. I love her and I believe she knows what the better for me. Happy mylotting!
@muscare (3069)
• Australia
3 Dec 07
That really does depend on what needs to change! If I have any little habits that my wife really doesn't like, I will try to change them. I do watch chick flicks with her, but only very rarely, as they aren't always easy to sit through. So I guess that I can change some things about me, and I can try to change other things, and in the end, my wife is still happy with who I am, so Maybe it's better not to change too much at all!
• China
2 Dec 07
Yes, I will change something for him... But I hope he can also change for me..