What if your only two roomates don't get along well with each other?

China
December 2, 2007 9:22am CST
I'm a university student and I live at school.There are 3 members in our dormitory.I was once proud of our relationship.For we love each other.We laughed loudly almost everyday because of something really funny.We had dinner together,go shopping together. But now,we have little time to do things like that.And the worse is that sometimes A couldn't put up with B.And I'm the person between A and B.I cannot find a good way to make us be we once to be.The atmosphere once appeared was wanted forver. How can I do? Have you any suggestion? Thanks a lot!!!
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9 responses
@kgwat70 (13392)
• United States
2 Dec 07
If they are not getting along with each other, maybe you should ask the person in charge of the dorms, if you can move to another room and have different roommates. Other than that, I think the only thing you can do is talk to your roommates and try and get them to work things out and get along while the three of you are living together. They have to be willing to sit down and talk about their issues with each other and make some sort of compromise. Otherwise you may need to ask to move to another room with different roommates.
• China
3 Dec 07
Thanks for your idea.But the problem is that they have talked to each other but they didn't find out a good way.A is easy to be angry and B is sensitive to things like that.As B said something that she is interested in A found it boring and some kinds of laughted at B.But actually they are kind. I hope them to be friends forever and I donnot wanna leave them...
• Singapore
3 Dec 07
I think that would be the most drastic course since it would involve the school officials. :(
@fanji008 (782)
• China
3 Dec 07
Hi,there! Well,it's really not easy to stand between the two who have problems with each other.I can understand your feeling. I used to have many roomates and we had a good time with each other during the unversity life. Some of us also had problems with each other sometimes,but the very good thing for us was that:whenever we had any problems,we talked to each other and very openly say things in order to find solutions. So I suggest that you three calm down and sit together to talk about the issue,find out what's wrong and see what you can do to solve all that:) Hopefully that could help you a little bit.I always think communications are helpful and useful. Good luck and best wishes for you and your roomates^_^
• China
7 Dec 07
^_^
• Singapore
3 Dec 07
Maybe you can just leave them alone.:P But if you want to salvage the 3 musketeers relationship, then I guess you need to try harder playing middleman. Put your mind to it. I am sure you can manage it somehow. Good luck! :D
• China
7 Dec 07
Thanks! I will try my best:)
• Philippines
3 Dec 07
That is hard on your part. I think you can talk to each other about the situation in your place. You can bring them together to a place where the three of you could bond with each other and have fun. I think if you will do that later you will be comfortable with each other.
• China
3 Dec 07
Watched pot never boils. Take it easy and everything goes well.
• China
3 Dec 07
We have the same problem. There are four in our dorm. We three are together while other one is not getting well with us... Once a time,we don't like her very much. But after a year,we will gratuate so we think it's not good for us three to ignore her... so now actually we laugh and study together...
• China
3 Dec 07
Yeah, maybe time cures everything.
• United States
3 Dec 07
There is not much that you can do if your two roommates do not get along. The only thing you can do is to talk to them both and ask them why they do not get along, and then see if you can work something out with them.
• China
3 Dec 07
Thanks much.I would try my best.
• United States
3 Dec 07
No one ever said that roomates have to love eachother, if its affecting your ability to live their or put up with it, I would ask to be moved to another dorm, if its just simply you miss the glory days, unfortuantely there isn't much that can probabaly be done.
• China
3 Dec 07
We hope three of us to live happily.I not only miss the days but also want them to live forever.
• United States
2 Dec 07
I say if the issue is not yours. Don't stress it too much. They have things they need to handle. Don't run away from a problem that will just follow. it's great to even have these great times to remember. Your living among people from all walks of life. You just have to learn how to handle situations. Try having the two of them go out and just talk. I don't know the weather where you are. A nice park bench can do the trick. Just sit down and clear the air.
• China
3 Dec 07
Aha, we've just decided to go out for relax. I think you are right.GOD BLESS ME!
@carolbee (16231)
• United States
2 Dec 07
Sounds like it would be easier for you to change to a different dorm room and start fresh with two other roommates. It's difficult for 3 people to get along because someone feels left out. Alot also depends on the different personalities. You do run the risk of this situation happening again if you decide to move. Have you tried talking to your 2 roommates, at the same time, and see if they can vent and get things out in the open? Might be able to settle whatever issues are causing the friction. Good luck to you.
• China
3 Dec 07
Maybe the friction is easy to disposed of if we find out a good way.Thanks a lot!