What is the greatest lesson you have ever learned?

United States
December 2, 2007 5:42pm CST
Of course we all learn through our mistakes. What is the biggest one or the one that has had the most impact on your life? For me the lesson is that I should trust myself. If something doesn't feel right for me, it probably is not. It may be right for everyone else in the world, but each of us are unique and have different needs.
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• Australia
3 Dec 07
Probably to trust in others. it is something I have always had trouble with, but I've gotten there in the end!
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• Australia
4 Dec 07
Even in my darkest hours, I have tried to find something positive and cling to it. i might be small, but no one is using me as a door mat! lol.
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• United States
4 Dec 07
You have such an awesome positive attitude! That is great to see.
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• United States
3 Dec 07
That's great, new. It seems most people have the other problem of trusting too much too quickly. It's great that you have seen the good in people and have learned to trust. It means you've had good experiences lately, I think!
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@chrislotz (8137)
• Canada
4 Dec 07
We all have life lessons that we learn from our mistakes or from others mistakes. That's what life is all about. I can't think of any one in peticular that I have learned from, though. Just maybe being too trusting of others. I have been burned many a times by trusting too much. Okay I can think of one, I met a new friend through another friend and that person ended up stealing my money out of my wallet when I asked her to keep an eye on my purse while I went to the bathroom. Now if someone else came along they would of stole my whole purse, and not just opened my purse, took out my wallet, opened it and stole my money, then close my wallet and put it back into my purse. No-one would have that much time without being seen by her.
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• United States
5 Dec 07
Ouch. I hope your friend apologized to you for not believing you. You are a good friend to be able to go through that and continue that original friendship!
• United States
4 Dec 07
That sucks, chris. Hopefully you told your other friend about what happened.
@chrislotz (8137)
• Canada
5 Dec 07
Yes I did, but at the time she never believed me. Now we are still friends and she is not friends with the other girl anymore because she did the same thing to another girl.
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@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
23 Dec 07
The greatest lesson I have learnt in life is to not get into another relationship and to stay single. I have wasted 9 years of my life through relationships which have been both controlling, manipulating and abusive. I am a stronger man through it however but it has taught me one heck of a lesson, to keep my independence, my freedom and sanity is to spend the rest of my life alone, I will die single and I wouldn't have it any other way, it's just a shame that I wasted so much of my life coming to this conclusion.
• United States
23 Dec 07
Oh, wolfie, that is a terrible lesson to have to learn. I wish you didn't feel the way you do about relationships, but I can understand where that is coming from. I hope you still have lots of friends and share your life with someone that way. Just to let you know, though... not all women are manipulative and controlling. Again, I understand where you are coming from. It just makes me sad.
@theprogamer (10534)
• United States
6 Dec 07
I don't think I have a "greatest" lesson. I believe mine would be that life is evolving and I must evolve with it in my own fashion. There is also learning to trust my own instincts above all else. Meet general society and frames of mind with some or a lot of skepticism. A human's "impossible" only means no one discovered a way to make it possible yet. When one refuses to learn one refuses to live. Everything has a dark side (or downside). And about yours blue, thats exactly how I feel. And hopefully people know it or will take it to mind with my responses.
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• United States
9 Dec 07
I like that "A human's "impossible" only means no one discovered a way to make it possible yet." That is so true!
• Philippines
3 Dec 07
hi blue. i miss responding to your discussions. one of the lessons i've learned is never trust people easily. there are lots of them who are good in acting just to earn one's trust easily - like crying or making stories that will make you pity them. and as soon as they do, they'll borrow money or anything without paying, or even backbiting you.
• United States
3 Dec 07
Hi red. It's good to see you again! Yes, trusting someone is always taking a chance. I have had many lessons in that. I am always afraid that I am going to go too far, though, and never trust anyone again. I don't want to form a cold heart, but I don't want to get run over again either.
• Malaysia
15 Dec 07
Don't ever trust somebody else easily. Even true friends betray us at the last moment.
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• United States
16 Dec 07
It is sad and unfortunate that this is a lesson you have learned. Unfortunately I feel the same way. It seems that we never do know who a true friend is. There always seems to be an end. You would think that true friendship would never end.
@tildy12 (760)
• United States
4 Dec 07
The Greatest Lesson I've learned is no matter how big problems and issues may get in life ,the one person who can bring me out as a Survivor is God all I need to do is just put all my trust in him.
@LittleMel (8742)
• Canada
3 Dec 07
Not greatest lesson, but my favorite: Never get mad, but always get even. I've learned a lot of things and still learning. My hunch is not always right so sometimes I listen to it, sometimes not. All I have to do is take everything with a grain of salt and always have plan B just in case. Of course then sometimes I fail that one too
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• United States
3 Dec 07
I agree with the not getting mad part. The getting even I'm not so sure about, though! The way I see it the best way to get even is to do whatever it is the other person was trying to stop you from doing. Having Plan C does come in handy once in awhile!
@jeanbug23 (992)
• Philippines
3 Dec 07
I think one of the best lessons I learned in life is never trust people easily. Even a close friend who wants something from me concerning money matters have failed to be trusted. She knew I have present money problems but still I managed to lend her a big amount and return the promised date. But she never returned. It has happened to me many times and they are even my friends. As the saying goes, "If a man deceives me once, shame on him, if twice, shame on me." I should not easily trust people again.
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• United States
3 Dec 07
I have had to learn the hard way not to trust so easily, too. That hurts. My dad used to always tell me when it came to lending anything: Only lend what you can afford to not get back. Assume it is a gift. If they pay you back, great.