My brother will be married to a girl

You must have a very deep reason for not wanting to marry and start a family of your own, whatever that is try to sit down with your father and explain your side to him. It is understandable of course on the part of your father and his brother to be concerned about your stand of not marrying especially that all of you his children have the same opinion. Personally, it's quite unusual you know, but of course everything has a reason.

look there may be some thing common in society. as of now most of the people marry and start their own family. But nowadys, outlokks are cahnging as well as choice. Some people really don't want to marry and don't get into the hassels of married life. May be they are more inclined to their career. Sit with your father and let him know your views clearly. Hope he will understand

I don't know if this is just coincidence; but I find it very amusing to know another family who have children whose ages and order of birth are approximately the same as ours. The difference which I see is that, I am the eldest of four siblings; and I'm 32 years of age. I'm already married but I'm still their big sister. The sibling next to me is a year younger than me and an unmarried male; which is same as your brother. The sibling next to him is a female and aged 26. I guess you're the youngest. But in our family, the youngest sibling that I have is 20 years old. So in a way, I could say that we've got a connection. Anyway, I believe that everyone has a right to his or her own opinions and decisions. Whatever one person decides to do with his life, it's his own and aside from he has a right to; he should also be responsible for the consequences of his actions. I guess anyone should not be forced to marry someone else. It is best to have a heart-to-heart talk with your parents to impart your reason why you choose not to marry. But in doing so, you should also be open to what they have to say. Hope you and your folks do reach a compromise and understand each other better. God bless and take a lot of care.

Hello dear yaq. I think that you could explain to your father that you still need time for your career. As I guess that you pay more attention to your career rather than marriage from the context. It is still not late when you get married at the age of thirty or more, as this is the best time for every one of us to do a good business, especially for men. When you have laid a very solid foundation in finance, it would be time for you to take time to consider your personal marriage and it is not late for you. Because you would lead a better life when you have made enough fortune for your married life. But anyway it is not a good idea not to get married all life long, as you know we still need our own family to give us comfort and we need a warm home of our own. So I suggest that you think that it is time for you to get married, just do it and I wish you happy as always, my dear friend.

It is so hard to persuade China parents on this point.In their eyes,it is a tradition and they want to have many grandsons and granddaughters.They belive that everyone should like this. But you should talk to them patiently to bring him round.Let them know that you will also be happy without marrage.I think they will yield to the reasonable demand. Failure is the mother of success.Best wishes:)

You must be happy that your brother is marring a girl. You are not so old, so unless you plan to stay young for ever you should start lucking for a guy, you are young and you have more option so chose one who will treat you like you will treat him. And if you will not chose the right one you should be open minded and see where you made the mistake. But don't be worried one thing is sure your marriage will be a disaster like the majority, this is life. So when you will find yourself in dis situation be happy and don't be depressed and if you will have a child learn them to not have your life, a life without a purpose, a life lived like an animal.

I am sorry but I dont understand what's so wrong and bad about getting married. All this time i thought, normally people want to get married and settle down with a family. But, if you are so against about marriage, you must have a very good reason. So, i think you should talk to your father frankly and convince him that you dont want to get married. If your bro want to get married, that's his problem. He is 31 and i dont think he is that old cos i have heard that people of over 80 years of age getting married. Also, if someone falls in love, no one can stop. (I secretely hope that you will also fall in love one day!) Good luck & Take Care.

I don't know why that is your custom there in China, that everyone has to marry. Anyway, tell him that you're still young. Assure that him that you will marry later on. He should stop bothering you for some time. Use that time to find a great guy and if you love each other, take a chance.

hi yinaiquan.iam not able to understand as to wy you and your brother donot want to marry.because i guess every man or girl does want to have a family of their own at one or the other time of life.did someone betrayed you?i think if you dont want to marry then talk to your father for once and tell him the reason why you dont want to marry.probably he can understand you.however i personally think that all parents want their children to be well settled in their life in regards of career as well as marriage.