Child care confusion...

@peedielyn (1207)
United States
December 4, 2007 12:11pm CST
I have four children, one of whom does not live with me. MY daughter lives with a guardian at this current time. We are going back and forth with custody. MY concerns are great but one sticks out at this point. I live in Ohio where state certified child care is a big industry. The guardian (now temporary custodian) signed court papers stating that she babysits for my daughter and only my daughter. The state pays her about $120 a week on average in a monthly check. I looked into this and talked to my lawyer. I put it like this, " The state does not pay me to babysit my own children, so why does she get paid to babysit what the ohio state law says, her child?" By ohio law she is the "parent or guardian" of this child reguardless of biology. She now has temporary custody because we had the guardianship terminated. She went to child support in December, 06 and they granted her the request. When I did the digging in this case I found that she hand wrote a document that was submitted admitting that my child is her only child and that she gets paid to "sit for myself" for one child. Can someone help me out here? I have been fighting this woman for 9 years to get this child back and even though she has not proven me unfit, the courts are allowing her to use my child as a meal ticket. More details to follow.
3 responses
@loralee (542)
• United States
19 Dec 07
I just finished reading what you are going through. It sounds so bizarre and unbelievable, but since I have a friend going through a similar situation I know how truth can be stranger than fiction. My friend is completely devastated that she has not seen her daughter in over a year and a half and has not talked to her in almost a year. She was conned in a similar way. It hasn't been until just recently that the courts began listening to her. I am sorry to hear that you had such a long time away from your child. It sounds like you'll be getting her back soon. I wish you good luck on this and hope your child is doing ok.
@peedielyn (1207)
• United States
19 Dec 07
I understand the truth thing. Somedays I can't even imagine what I am dealing with. It's so stressful all of the time. About 2 months ago the guardian walked right into my house and pushed my mother (step) around. She started cussing and screaming and we called the cops. She jerked Eva up by the arm and left. I had yet to have visits with her until 2 weeks ago when the courts decided we could not get her for contempt at all, and shortened my visits from 10 am Saturday to 7pm Sunday. I thought this bizarre. This is insane. I went to get her that weekend and Eva refused to go with me saying that her g-ma told her I was violent and would cut all of her hair off, the whole time Sue the guardian was standing there with a smug smile on her face. I left crying and my other children were just numb. They don't understand that why Sue is being this way. I am keeping my head up and May God Watch over all of us. I will pray for your friend. I am sorry any of us is going through this. And it kills me, everyday a child is abandoned or abused by a PARENT that doesn't want or deserve them and then there is your friend and I who want our babies and can't have them. I hope all is well with you and your friend. God Bless!!
@loved1 (5328)
• United States
4 Dec 07
I think we are missing some pieces to this puzzle. Why have you been fighting to get this child back for 9 years, yet are fit to raise the other 3 children? If you have not been proven unfit, then why can't you get this child back? That makes no sense. It sounds to me like this woman is receiving compensation for providing foster care to your child. That is very common and is intended to help her cover your child's expenses. I am also a registered home daycare and have questions about why it is an issue that she is only watching one child. Why would she have to sign papers stating there is only one? Maybe if you can fill in some of these gaps I can better understand and help you. Could you give more information?
• India
5 Dec 07
i like to spend a time with childrens and i will care of child safety and child's mom should see care upto age of 10.