Falling for a Straight
@DarkDraiodoir666 (39)
Philippines
December 4, 2007 11:37pm CST
If you are gay and you fell for a straight person, when and how do you think should you tell that person about your feelings? Or is it even a good idea to tell that person? Why or why not?
2 responses
@II2aTee (2559)
• United States
5 Dec 07
Dont tell them
Trust me on this one.
If they are straight, they are straight and there is nothing you can do about it.
I know, it hurts, but thats part of the heartbreak that comes along with being gay. Wanting someone you know you could never have.
Just cherish your friendship with that person, if he/she is your friend.
@II2aTee (2559)
• United States
6 Dec 07
Thats pretty optomistic, and although thats a nice thought, the chances are stacked against that possibility.
Some straight people, even though they are accepting of gay people, would be very upset if they thought a gay person was trying to recruit them.
Its a judgment call, really. My personal experience is to keep my mouth shut... I lost a great friend because of this.
But it could go either way really... some straight people might be flattered... so again, it really all comes down to a judgment call. Personally, I have learned to ere on the side of caution.
@Latrivia (2878)
• United States
5 Dec 07
Boy, this brings back memories. In my senior year in high school I became infatuated with a girl I worked with. We had been friends for a while, though I wasn't sure as to what her sexuality was. Since I didn't want to damage my current relationship with her, I weighed my options and decided to wait and learn more about her sexuality. I later learned that she was very straight, and very catholic. So after I recovered from my severe disappointment, I picked myself up and continued my friendship with her - never once telling her how I felt. My feelings have since faded, and while I wouldn't mind dating her still, I'm no where near as passionate about her as I once was.
That said - the best advice I can give is to weigh your options. Is your current relationship with them worth losing if you end up confessing to a person who is not only uninterested, but aren't very "gay friendly"? A confession of "love" can ruin even the most solid of friendships.
Eventually your feelings will go away, if left unreturned. A friendship, however - well that can be terminated quite quickly, and is very hard to get back.
