My wife is leaving me!

@webeishere (36353)
United States
December 5, 2007 10:12am CST
Well this is it. She has finnally did it. She is saying good bye for who knows how long. My wife is leaving me dang it. I am heading to the airport very shortly to drop her off. She is flying to visit her dying brohter before he leaves this world. I hope she has a safe flight and all. She is scared to death of flying and now she has to do it alone. HHee hee hee. I am hoping things go well and quickly during her visit so to speak. I love Debbie a lot and will miss her dearly. The worst part is not knwoing when she'd return. Ever have a family emergency like this where one spouse had to leave the other for an unspecified time? HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
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@gabs8513 (48710)
• United Kingdom
5 Dec 07
Awwwwwwww Grandpa Bob I am so sorry to hear about her Brother I really am You are in my Thoughts and so is Debbie as it can not be easy for her at all And I hope that he will not suffer to much either
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@webeishere (36353)
• United States
5 Dec 07
It's not easy at all for her. She has him and an older sister left is all. Her parents, and grandparents are all passed away. She doesn't associate with cousins, Aunts, Uncles or nephews. Now maybe this will bring her brothers 2 sons and Debbie closer. I am hoping it will as she really has no family left so to speak. Thanks a lot friend. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
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@gabs8513 (48710)
• United Kingdom
5 Dec 07
I really hope so to she is in my thoughts very much and so are you Grandpa Bob
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@webeishere (36353)
• United States
5 Dec 07
Thanks again. I just talked to her. She arrived safely and her sister and her sisters husband and their daughter picked her up. She cried saying she missed me. It's only been 5 hours. hee hee. I miss her as well and I let her know this. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
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@micamyx (916)
• Philippines
5 Dec 07
Hi Grandpa Bob! This is actually my first time to reply to a discussion you started and it seems like you have a lot of friends here in mylot. That's sad, but just think that she'll be back soon and she has to be with her brother. Shell be back :)
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@webeishere (36353)
• United States
5 Dec 07
I've quite a few friends here as you say. And most have been very supportive and loving in this whole ordeal with her briother dying and all. This is a great community and has become my cyber world support group. Thanks for youtrr time and words here as well. Take care. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
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• United States
5 Dec 07
Tell her to have a safe trip. I'm scared of flying too so I hope everything goes well on her flight because I'm sure she's nervous. I hate she has to do it alone. My husband's step-mother had to leave my father in law for several weeks because her mother was dying of cancer. It was close to Christmas in 2005 so my father in law had to do all the christmas shopping and he wasn't used to doing that by himself so he just took us with him to help out. LOL He depends a lot on her and he saw how it is to be by himself for so long and then it made him realize how much his wife does for him. But she stayed there until her mother passed away and then she stayed a little longer to help her family get everything settled before she came back home. She just wanted to be there with her mother in her last days and I thought that was very sweet.
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@webeishere (36353)
• United States
5 Dec 07
I already told her that. HAHAHA! Her flight is taking off in about 15 minutes from the time I am typing this. I have to be off line in an hour to wait for her call as she gets into Detroit Michigan. We have mnever been seperated more than 3 days in our 35+ years together so this is really hard on us both. Plus she is the bread winner and the time off kills us kind of as well. But we will make it through this all I am sure. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
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@jillhill (37379)
• United States
5 Dec 07
Hope all her fights are safe and that she has a speedy return home.....hoping your brother in law doesn't have to linger on and on...God Speed to both of them.
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@webeishere (36353)
• United States
5 Dec 07
I talked to her shortly after her flight arrived in Detroit. Things went well she says. She is with her sister and her husband, and her niece also. They should be at her brothers by now. She is calling in the morning again. I wanted a call tonight but noooo! HAHAHAHA!! HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
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@webeishere (36353)
• United States
5 Dec 07
I know that she needed time with her family and all. But I still wanted to talk later tongight. Maybe, just maybe I'll at least get an e-mail tonight. I won't hold my breathe for that though. HAHAHA!! HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
@izathewzia (5141)
• Philippines
5 Dec 07
I know how it feels. I always feel it everytime my husband leaves me to work abroad. He is in contractual basis. And he only stays with us for few months. But don't worry, it is for goodness sake. You will be with your wife soon.
@webeishere (36353)
• United States
5 Dec 07
It's going to be lonely with her gone and just my dad and I here. Sigh! HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
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@humbleme (1004)
• India
5 Dec 07
Hello webeishere,Thanks for your discussion and according to me she has taken absolutely right decesion to visit her dying brother even when she gets scared of flying only because she loves her brother and she is doing her responsibility as a loving sister and a dying bedridden person misses and expects the presence of all whom that dying person loves and she will be back as soon she will feel her brothers health improves as like you she will miss you too from her heart as she loves you as a wife.Thanks.
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@webeishere (36353)
• United States
5 Dec 07
Thank you very much.
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@Polly1 (12647)
• United States
5 Dec 07
I would be scared too, is someone picking her up from the airport. Is she flying into Detroit? It a good thing the flight will be quick. I do feel sorry for both of you. It will be tough being without your Debbie, but you will survive, hehe. I feel really sorry for Debbie, she was supposed to be going to save her brothers life, now she is going to say good bye. I was just in Ann Arbor today for a few hours. Just down the street from the UM hospital at the VA hospital. Take care.
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@webeishere (36353)
• United States
5 Dec 07
The flight is little over 90 minutes I think. She arrived safely in Detroit. Her sister and husband, and her niece picked her up. I talked to her about 15 minutes ago. Things went smoothly she says. I lived and worked in Ypsilanti back in the early 70's. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
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@JoyfulOne (6242)
• United States
5 Dec 07
I'm so sorry to hear about the transplant being cancelled and the state of her brother's health. I've also missed a few of your discussions and was dismayed to read about it in this one. My prayers go out to her brother and her, and for the family. How sad. I know you'll miss Debbie dearly, but she's right where she's still needed for now.Blessings to you GrandpaBob.
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@webeishere (36353)
• United States
5 Dec 07
No problem about missing some discussions. Thanks for the prayers. My wife arrived safely. I just talked to her maybe 10 minutes ago. Once again thanks for the prayers etc. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
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@Zelmarq (12368)
• Cebu City, Philippines
5 Dec 07
That happened to my father when we were kids, mother left us for two weeks to go to an emergency in the province, it was hard when all the young ones were left with the father. Father is the head o fthe family type and for that two weeks he was alone to take care of 7 children was a sure struggle for him. But im glad he had a different approach in dealing with kids and he was able to teach us cooking and discipling functions while mother was away, though I can say that it was a more martial law type but it was somthing new and we enjoyed the somewhat military approach. Take good care of your self grandpa bob, she will be back as soon as things would be alright, I hope her brother would not feel so much pain and her care could sooth the pain. Have a nice day and happy mylotting.
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@webeishere (36353)
• United States
5 Dec 07
I had a hard enough time raising my two children. I know I'd be crazy now if I had to raise seven. YIKES! Hahaha. very good of him though. I couldn't do it I don't think. Thanks also. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
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@Zelmarq (12368)
• Cebu City, Philippines
5 Dec 07
Hhehehehe, he was a tough dad grand pa bob and a great disciplinarian but he was with the help ogf mother which mde it all handy for him. Though i admit we were really naughty kids way back then and surely we have given them pain in their necks. Iam just thankful they were able to raise us well.
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@chrislotz (8200)
• Canada
6 Dec 07
I have had to leave my hubby for three weeks last year. I didn't know at the time how long it was going to be, either. But as it turned out it was just over thre weeks and I was back. My hubby showed me his appreciation for me for about three weeks after I got back, but then things went back to normal again. Not that I'm complaining about him, it was just extra nice when I first got back. So be extra nice to your Debbie when she gets back. Show her how much you appreciate her and everything she does for you.
@Kate324 (46)
• China
6 Dec 07
Wow,your wife is leaving for sad news,I am sorry to hear that.Hope it is not awful long time,wish his brother will be well soon,and you can see your wife very short time.
@mamasan34 (6521)
• United States
6 Dec 07
Not as of yet. I have had to go on a family emergency, but I pretty much knew when I had to be back home. I really am sorry that your wife has to fly alone when she has a fear of it and of course having to fly for these reasons doesn't help. I truly hope that will be ok during this time. Keep us posted.
• India
6 Dec 07
You do have a weird sense of humor. They way you phrased the post, I thought like she was leaving you for good. Anyway, I have never had a situation like this for an undefined period, but my hubby did leave me for short periods of time like maybe a week for office purpose. I felt absolutely miserable and alongwith with a son who just cant sleep without his Dad, my misery knew no bounds. I can understand exactly how you feel and on top of that someone close is on deathbed. Couldn’t you have accompanied her?
6 Dec 07
Don't worry take it as positive.
@someonesmom (5765)
• Canada
6 Dec 07
Hi Grandpa Bob, Sorry I'm getting to this so late, but am trusting by now that your wife's with her family, and all went well with her flight etc. I know it'll be hard for you having her away, so hope and pray that she returns to you quickly, so you can be together through all of this. Take care.
• India
6 Dec 07
I did't get married but the wife is half of u da
@Celanith (2334)
• United States
6 Dec 07
Hi Bob I will say a prayer for Debbies safety and safe return home. Yes I had to go and help my mom about four years ago with packing up her home for a move. It was the last time I saw her alive. I spent a whole week with her. She passed away unexpectedly April 5th, 2005 a day before she turned 75 we were enroute then to stay the week with her and her birthday which never happened instead we had her memorial service. Another time I had to stay at Shriners Childrens hospital when our second oldest son had spinal surgery and be there for two weeks. We were not sure how long I would be gone either time.
@MisterPlus (1917)
• Philippines
6 Dec 07
I thought she's leaving you for good. It seems like this is the first time she'll leave you for a long time. She'll be back because she'll miss your loving arms I know.
• India
6 Dec 07
Hi Grandpa Bob, Your title scared me! I thought something else, and hurried over to offer my sympathies and kind words. This is the first time I am responding to a discussion you started and I am glad to do so. I am really sorry about your wife's brother and the fact that you wife has to leave you for an indefinite time to be with her brother. I am really sorry about the brother too. This must be a trying time for the whole family, and you have my love, prayers, and wholehearted support though it is only online! Wish you all the best...
@KrauseHome (36746)
• United States
6 Dec 07
Well, at least it is for Medical reasons why she is gone from you for a awhile, and not something else. I was a little worried when I first read your title, and thinking a lot worse. Will be Praying for your wife's family and Praying for a speedy return. Just remember God is in control, and it is all for the Best.