how can i be a good daughter?

Philippines
December 5, 2007 8:44pm CST
all this time ive benn trying to be a good daughter to my mom. but its like all my efforts aren't enough. im doing my best to please her but i end up hearing these words : "how can you be so useless?" :((
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@mizrak07 (557)
• Philippines
6 Dec 07
That sure hurts a lot, and you should discover where those words are coming from. No mother could intend to hurt her daughter unless she's mentally ill or overly frustrated over something. In your case I feel that it's more of the second reason so I think you should have a heart to heart talk with your mother. She may have hidden frustrations that she lets out on you.
• Philippines
6 Dec 07
im scared
@mizrak07 (557)
• Philippines
7 Dec 07
Just try, if nothing good comes out of it then what else is new. If she opens up then that is good because your questions will finally be answered.
• Philippines
7 Dec 07
thanks mizrak07 :)
@nkhanna (925)
• India
6 Dec 07
hey crazedmuch.you are just thinking like that only.i think its just the generation gap that is between you two.if still you feel that your relation is not working the way it should work then i will suggest you that you talk to your mother calmly.you can ask her as to what all does she expect out of you and if at anything worng you have done unknowingly.dont lose heart everything will be ok with time.
• Philippines
6 Dec 07
but im really scared, she might just laugh at me
@pilbara (1436)
• Australia
6 Dec 07
There are a couple of things you could do. Firstly you could try talking to your mother and explain how much she is hurting you. Alternatively if you think that won't work, or you try it and it doesn't work then maybe not trying so hard would work. I'm not saying cut her out of your life or anything like that, but be less involved in her life, and maybe she will realise what you do for her. Maybe nothing will work, but at least if you have minimal contact, she has less opportunity to hurt you. I know that's not ideal but you also have to consider what is best for you as well.
• Philippines
6 Dec 07
thanks pilbara, ill try doin that
@lilaclady (28227)
• Australia
6 Dec 07
I think that is called the generation gap, every generation has its own ideas and every generation doesn't understand where the other is coming from, your at school and your main job is to learn and later on you will be far from useless....
• Philippines
6 Dec 07
thanks lilaclady