any other horrible bio-moms?!

December 6, 2007 9:13am CST
OK, as a stepmom, I want to know if any of you other stepmoms deal with unfit bio-moms?! My sd's bio-mom sucks. She can't keep a roof over their heads, can't keep a job, can't keep a car or a phone #. When they had a place to live they couldn't keep the water or lights on. We have my sd every other week plus every day after school on their weeks. We want to go to court for custody, but it is a little risky. My sd begs me not to send her back! Anyone else deal w/ stupid bio-moms? Does other stepmom have primary custody?
2 responses
@speedy1279 (2665)
• United States
6 Dec 07
Hey sweetie, Well as you know I am a step-mom to my husbands son and yes I have to deal with her stupidity all the time. I know my situation is not as bad as yours but I still know what you are going through. Here recently my stepson failed a hearing screening at school and was sent to a hearing specialist. The specialist said he had damage to his inner ear probably do to a past ear infection. He said he would need to sent in the front of the class. When we told his mom, she had a cow. Her response was "No, my son is not going to be made to sit in the front of class. He will be picked on and it will make him feel bad." My reaction was "What!!! you have got to be kidding me." His mom is more worried about herself and having her son be popular in school instead of concentrating on his school work. My husband and I actually went back to the attorney six months or so ago and had the custody arrangements changed. I was really suprised the bm went along with it. So we now have shared primary custody were he is here a week and then over there a week. So, keep your chin up and as always you and your family are in my prayers. God Bless!
6 Dec 07
so, is it worth the court battle to have her all the time? I mean, we'd have to give her up for 3-4 months. grrr!
• United States
6 Dec 07
I know it would be tough to have to give her up for a couple of months, but in the long run it would be worth it. I really believe you have a strong case against the bm and you should win. Those 3 to 4 months will seem like an eternity but after that you should have her and then you will know that she is being taken care of properly, plus being loved so much. Your in my prayers.
• United States
6 Dec 07
Here there. I am not a step mom but I do have kids. I know that if I were in that situation I would do what ever it took to keep my child safe. step ot not. If that means loosing her for a few months to get her in the long run and know she is safe and taken care of then that is what I would do. Just keep our head up and remember that even the time that you do have her is doing her good.