ex husband's

@bfarrier1 (2082)
United States
December 6, 2007 8:03pm CST
My ex after 22 years has some how made his way back into my life,he now lives with our oldest daughter so now every time she comes to my house he seems to be with her. Not that I hold any hard feelings toward him but I feel he is intruding into my life. Should I feel bad for this or am I right.
3 responses
@Malyck (3425)
• Australia
9 Dec 07
I don't think that you should feel bad for this at all. When you ended your relationship it was the end for both of you, so naturally he is now intruding on your life by coming around whenever your daughter does. I know what it's like not to hold a grudge, but still rather no longer be affiliated with a person. =)
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@bfarrier1 (2082)
• United States
9 Dec 07
Thank you because I relly do feel he is intruding, and know I am wondering where he was when they were growing up and if he would have been there for them maybe things wouldn't have been quite so bad, now I even have to share the grandkids in my eyes that just isn't fair.
@tiffiny (872)
• United States
9 Dec 07
I thinkthat you are totally justified in your feelings. I think that you should talk to you daughter and be like once in a great while could you just come over here with out him? Or just talk to him and be like dude leave me alone some times! Lol I hope that you don't feel like he's being shoved down your throat and that you are able to resolve this with out hurting anyone.
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@bfarrier1 (2082)
• United States
9 Dec 07
Thanks for the comment, I do feel he should realize I don't want him at my house all the time even if we get along now, I hope I can get this resolved without a big family blow out because after all he is her dad.
@EEYORE35 (15)
• United States
7 Dec 07
Your ex staying with your daughter is ok, but when he starts coming to your house where you have started a new life is over steping the boundaries. If it make you feel like he is intruding you should ask your daughter to not bring him around and if that don't work tell him yourself "Look this is home and I'm not comfortable with you coming to my house all the time". And if that don't work just get mean, make him rembeber why he's an ex...
@bfarrier1 (2082)
• United States
7 Dec 07
One thing I am afraid of is that if I tell her that then she will stop coming because she already said she don't want to leave him alone, also my new husband is not real happy with this situation either good thing he is a very pleasant person. I am more upset than he is.