Not a very Good situation

theres not much you can do they are going to do what they want to do. and you have to accept it your powerless over what other people do things are gonna turn out they way they are supposed to.

Even though a situation is sad, we can't tell people how to live their lives. We can offer advice and help but they have to want to accept it. If you push your views too hard they will pull away from you and then you won't be able to help when they truly need it. You're going to have to be patient and let them decide how to handle the situation. You can't always save people from their own bad judgement. Good luck!

Well there is not a lot you can do at the moment. I guess you have to wait until the baby is born and see how she copes with it all. I understand why you are concerned because I would feel the same way. If I were you I would be vigilant and if you think there is anything happening that isn't right, then report it to the necessary people. You never know though, this could be the thing that makes her get her act together.

I don't think there is anything you can do with this one other than be aware of the situation and remain close with them. I am sure her doctor is aware of the issues and will also be keeping an eye on the situation. Sometimes a baby will cause people to pause and re-think their lifestyles and motivate them to change. Actually this happens an awful lot and is often a real turning point in the parents life. You can only pray this will be the case in your brother in laws situation.

the best thing you can do is let them live their lives and go from there...

Indeed this is not a very good situation (especially for that child!)... sadly, there's not much that you can do... Your brother-in-law really needs to keep a close eye on her to make sure she's not on pills during her pregnancy and to make sure that she doesn't go into prenatal depression or postnatal depression once the baby is born. All you can do is be there for them and hope for the best. She's going to need a lot of support to go through all these changes.

Something like this i think can change ANYONE - maybe a child will bring a little joy to her life, make her feel like she has something to live for & make her want to be a better person - all the for the little baby she has inside. Unfortunately, as hard as it is to not say something, it's probably not going to change anything, even if you do manage to talk to your brother in law. This really is their decision to make & if your brother in law is a responsible guy, he'll be able to help this girlfriend of his become a better person & if she happens to go down hill for some reason, he'll be there to raise the baby. You just have to trust that your BIL is a responsible guy & that he'll do everything possible to make sure the child is well taken care of. Sometimes, you just have to have faith that other people are as responsible as you are!