Giving Up for your Love because there is no reason for you to stay

@jona06 (78)
December 10, 2007 2:03am CST
.....sometimes i have to give up on loving someone who doesn't love me back not because i start to feel i'm hopeless... but because.. i run out of reasons to fight for what i really feel... is giving up the right decision???
7 responses
@ssh123 (31073)
• India
10 Dec 07
Never feed such things as hopeless. It is only a temporary feeling when things go wrong in all fronts. Never you should feed your mind withn egative thinking,because even if it is a reality, you should gather strength to face the realities of life, because that is life. We do lot of things, good ones, bad ones, ones which have no effect of good or bad. But what is important is self confidence. YOu should never allow that to erode. Just ignore the person who is not loving you. Wait for some days. When you want something badly, it goes farther away from you. When you ignore it falls at your feet. In my life, I always followed it plus I added one more feature. Not to have attachment with anything in this world. That does not mean I donot like anything. Not much. The attachment breeds misery.
@whyaskq (7523)
• Singapore
11 Dec 07
ssh, indeed nothing is permanent. Suffering exist because of attachment to desires :)
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@ssh123 (31073)
• India
12 Dec 07
Yes, this is the essence of teachngs of Buddha. The less we desire for things, the happier we will be. Regards.
@nkhanna (922)
• India
19 Dec 07
well love is a feeling which can come only from heart.you cannot persuade a person to love him or her.and if love is not both sided then it becomes a burden for both the peole.rather i think having friendship is much having single sided love.and thats why i feel that person should confess their love to other person as soon as they feel so,since it really hurts when one starts dreaming and the dream gets shattered.giving up love in that case is much better than trying to stay with it,since its going to make both of you happy.i think what you did is absolutely correct.
@jona06 (78)
19 Dec 07
i guess so.... but then it still hurts.... i just hope that this feeling of mine would fade easily....
@whyaskq (7523)
• Singapore
10 Dec 07
I am sorry you have to give up just because you think run out of reasons to fight for what you really feel. May I ask what do you really feel after you have given it up? Happiness or Regret? There is no right or wrong reason why one gives up a relationship. In my opinion, if you feel that you are not growing or cannot grow, or in fact get stumped by the relationship, it might be wiser to let it go early.
@theprogamer (10535)
• United States
19 Dec 07
Well part of this is you shouldn't give up if you feel its worth it. However, there is a time where it gets futile and you should not waste yourself, your energy, your time, your life on something that is ultimately futile. Life can hold a lot of hurt but also a lot of promise. You may find the true love you seek, or it may find you when you are simply living and being.
@irene_27 (542)
• Philippines
13 Dec 07
Hi jonah! i feel that you've been bitten by love bug your discussions are mostly love related, go easy girl. Anyway, bear in mind that being in a relationship should give you much more happiness than worries. And being in love should make you hope for the best instead of being hopeless. Try to weigh things before deciding on giving up. If it weighs towards the negative side then get out of the relationship. Don't subject yourself to further emotional trouble. You're still young to be worrying about things like that. Who knows that person isn't the one meant for you yet.
• Philippines
11 Dec 07
when you don't find yourself any better in that relationship, then perhaps there's reason of staying :-)
• Philippines
11 Dec 07
i mean no reason for staying ;-)
@sunita64 (6469)
• India
10 Dec 07
I feel giving up is not the right decision. A man's reaction to love is different as compared to women. Both have different ways of expressing that is why most men/women end up in feeling that their counterpart does not love them. I feel you must read this book men are from mars and women from venus. It has given a clear cut demarcation between the loves of man and women. Read this your attitude will change I am sure.