Baby having difficulty sleeping

Singapore
December 10, 2007 5:00am CST
My 2 month old baby seem to have problem going to sleep during the day. He would cry and I would pick him up to pacify and soothe him. But immediate I put him down in his bed when he's drowsy, he will fall into light sleep and then will wake up again crying. This happens during the day. The good news is that by night, he will be too tired due to lack of naps in the day, and he would go to sleep at night easily (but sometimes, still have problem getting to sleep). I wonder what is wrong? He can't calm himself down to sleep. Any advice?
5 responses
@bethyboo (399)
• United States
10 Dec 07
Some days, my baby does the same exact thing. If I try to put him down for a nap, he starts fussing, but if I stay with him and interact with him, he's just fine. He just wants to experience everything there is around him, is what I think. Now, there are studies which have shown conclusively that that old wives tale -picking babies up too much will spoil them- is simply that. An old wives tale. In the first six months, you cannot spoil your baby by picking him up too much. On the contrary, this shows baby that you will be there for him later on in life, and usually leads to better emotional development. Sometimes baby just does want to be cuddled, and the best thing you can do for him is give him that. If he was hungry, you wouldn't say "It does him good to cry, I don't want to spoil him by feeding him every time he gets hungry" would you? So why ought this to be any different?
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• Singapore
11 Dec 07
I see...i will remember that. Thanks for the advice. Being a mom isn't that easy. First of all, don't understand why he is crying, that makes it hard. Sometimes when he cries, I pick him up and he cries even harder. :(
@bethyboo (399)
• United States
11 Dec 07
What I usually do is hold him as close as possible and just rock him. I put his head close to my heart so he can hear it. After all, thats what he heard for a long time inside me. Also, I will softly talk or sing to him. At that age, they just need to comforted.
@Gemmygirl1 (2867)
• Australia
12 Dec 07
Unfortunately, babies don't just cry for the sake of crying - sometimes they just want a cuddle but as i said, they always have a reason. More often than not, i found my daughter was very stubborn with bringing up her wind - so she would often have a tummy ache which would let her dose off lightly but be awake after a very short while. Try rubbing his belly in a clockwise direction, i'm not sure how it works but a friend of mine told me about it & it always seemed to work - something to do with keep the belly contents of the belly on 1 side but helping the air to come out. The other things that worked (if the belly rubbing didn't) was a product by 'Brauer' it is called Colic Relief - now, they don't have to have colic to use it or anything but if you have problems with sleeping because of an upset belly, then i believe it was 1ml (it's on the bottle) & in about 10 minutes, the air in the belly would come up & my little one would be asleep shortly after. I never had a problem with daytime naps though, my little one was a night owl! Although, by 2-3 months she was sleeping most of the night anyway! Good Luck & maybe speak to the chemist & see what they have to say!
• Singapore
12 Dec 07
Thanks for the tip. I noticed something that really soothe him just yesterday. After I lay him down, I talk to him softly and stroke his hair. He will then start feeling relaxed and drowsy. Really funny and adorable!
@moneyandgc (3428)
• United States
10 Dec 07
I personally don't believe in letting a baby "cry it out". I have 4 children and none of them were left in a crib to cry alone. They didn't grow up to become needy toddlers or children, quite the opposite. They were secure and independent. Your baby is only 2 months old, he is unable to calm himself down at his age. Do you have a baby swing? My children would sleep in the swing pretty easily for short naps. Do you swaddle him? Also, laying him flat may be causing him to reflux, which is painful and making him unable to sleep. Contrary to the beliefs of some, you are not going to damage your son or do him a disservice by picking him up when he cries.
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• Singapore
11 Dec 07
I tried swaddling him initially. It's really funny! I bought a small size swaddle blanket and thought he would be a small baby. Turned out he was an above average and after using the swaddle blanket a few times, he can't fit in anymore and yes, he slept better with it. But subsequently, he didn't like it because it restricted his movements as he just wants to wave his arms and kick! Real active.
@Sillychick (3275)
• United States
10 Dec 07
He needs to learn to soothe himself to sleep. Being overtired can actually make it more difficult to calm down and go to sleep. Try laying him down before he is extremely tired. Let him cry for a little while, then go in and soothe him without picking him up. Maybe some music will help. Continue to go in to soothe him, but wait longer in between each time- and don't pick him up. A few days of doing this, and he should be able to go to sleep. Once he gets better at naps, he may sleep better at night.
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• Singapore
11 Dec 07
I will give it a try. Starting with 15 mins and let's see how.
• United States
11 Dec 07
My son is two months as well, I use the lavender baby calm lotion by johnson and johnson, and right before bedtime I give him a massage with it, then feed him and rock him to sleep, he now sleeps for a 5 hour span at nite then wakes up for a short feeding. Try a good bedtime routine you can stick to that may help.
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• Singapore
11 Dec 07
Do you feed lesser during the night feed? I was told to reduce the night feed and eventually, they will stop waking up at night. I give the exact same amount during the day and night, and wonder if I'm doing it correctly.