Online Dating...

Well not dating exactly, but i have met in real life girls i had come across in chatrooms.One of them we met and didnt go really well, she was much younger and not my syle, also i wasnt hers, so we didnt meet again.The other, though, we kept talking for 3years before we managed to meet each other for some minutes and she was my style.I still speak with her, but she lives pretty away and shes dating someone else i guess. Both meetings could lead to dating but it didnt...

I met my husband online back in... 1998? That's been a long time ago now! :P We weren't actually on a "dating" site... just a chat room for college students. When we started talking, I was tentatively seeing someone at my school, and I wound up dating or almost dating several other people while talking to vorbro (which is the username he uses here as well as the one he used in the chat room where we met)... but at that time we were just friends. He didn't think that I was seriously interested in him because I did talk to so many other people, and I didn't think he was seriously interested in me because... I'm a nutcase. :P I had told a mutual online friend that I liked him, and then sometime in the middle of my talking to him online our mutual online friend wound up moving across the country to be with his best friend, who also lived in the same apartment with vorbro. So suddenly our mutual online friend was right there in the same place with him, and she wound up telling him I liked him after he had a particular bad day one day. It kinda snowballed and then... I wound up having to quit school because of illness, and didn't have anywhere to go. So I came to Michigan where vorbro was. And I've been here every since. We didn't technically get married until 2004, but we've lived together since May 1999. :)

Of course it is always possible for someone to portray themselves as they are really not. But on-line dating is only a start point and as long as we keep that in mind it is perhaps far better than any other way. You can meet so many people this way. As long as you know you must get together before you can really know what that person is like you will do fine. Following my first marriage I was not sure I would ever find anyone again. I was 61. I put my profile out there and met two women locally that I dated. But the one that really caught me was in another city 250 miles away. We ultimately met and while it was a weekend romance for awhile I finally moved down and in with her. We married after about 6 months. There is really no difference with internet dating if you keep in mind that you must finally meet and be with each other before really you know that person. It can happen and does all the time. And your options increase greatly.

You know, I noticed something, reading your responses here. Everyone keeps stressing how you have to be careful because people can portray themselves as something they are not, online. Well, how is that different from dating in the real world? That "doctor" you met at a bar? Could be a college dropout who skimmed a couple of med school texts for big words before he hit the watering hole that night. And this would be no more difficult than typing something false online. So I believe the two are much closer than people think. It so happens I met my husband online, on a game. And we just felt that connection, like everyone always says- "You'll just know, when it's the real thing." Well, it was, and we've been married for a year now, and our first son just turned a month old. So virtually, or in real life, you just have to keep holding out till you know it for sure.

i actually have a pretty good story about online dating. in february of this year a guy messaged me on myspace. he seemed pretty nice and sincere - unlike all of the other pathetic messages i'd get from guys on there - so i replied. i'm glad i did. we started talking. a lot. all of the time even. as months went on we got closer and talking on the phone. we ended up talking everyday possible, even for 12hours straight a couple of days! we just loved one another's company. then on october2 i went down to kentucky to meet him, i lived in michigan. i stayed at his place for about 8days and then we went up to michigan and stayed at my place for about 5days. then we came back down to kentucky, got an apartment and have been living together since - and plan to marry on the 29th of this month! yes, it's all really fast.. but that's how we do things, haha. although i have to admit, it is really easy for someone to pretend to be someone they're not online so i always caution people to be careful. don't ever just meet random people. i talked with my boyfriend everyday for hours at a time for 8months before meeting him. he wasn't just some random guy from a chat room or something. he was, and is, my best friend.

I met my beloved through a site called " Match Doctor ". I've been with him for a year now. Our meet date was December 8th. I lovr him with all my heart so I KNOW these sites work.. just gotta weed out the bad seeds. I met a couple before meeting Ted. I can't imagine life without him now :D

I definitely think it's easy for someone to pretend to be something or someone they are not. I actually had that happen to me once, and it wasn't the best experience. I did date someone I met on myspace, and ended up marrying him! We've been married for nine months now and are wonderfully happy. I'm not at all against online dating. One just must be careful and extra cautious.

Well, first off meeting and dating in real life, isn't much different, other than it starts out in person. I met a wonderful man 2 1/2 years ago, we were in a chat room for police and fire personel. It has worked out great we are still together. We started chatting one on one, then exchanged phone numbers, and then 4 weeks after we met online he flew down to spend a week's vacation with me. After he flew back home, I found myself putting things in storage at my mom's, giving things to my daughters, and packed what I could in my car, and moved 1600 miles to move in with him. So, we met online Feb 21st and I arrived at his house April 28th, but 10 minutes into our first chat, we both knew we would be together. Yes, it is easy for people to pretend they are something or someone that they are not, but since I stayed mainly with chat rooms having to do with firefighting, it was pretty easy to figure out the fakes. I will say that meeting someone online is not for everyone and I would have never thought I would have met more than just friends, which I made a lot of friends and met some in person, but I met the most wonderful man.

Well, I've relayed the story about my husband and I but I wanted to add that in real life people pretend as well.

I tried it about 7 years ago because I was sick of meeting the wrong guys. I tried a site that at the time was free and was recommended to me by a guy-friend. I took my time to fill out all the questions and I was very strict with my criteria and it only came up with 4 or 5 matches. I decided that I would not even consider anyone who did not take the time to answer the questions as to me that shows they are not seriously looking and just trying to find flings. I took the initiative to write the the guys that I found I was interested in and would email them for a month or so before considering to meet them. I dated one for a short while, he was ok but liked his cats way too much and it kind of creeped me out and I'm allergic to them. I dated another for 2 dates and was so disappointed because on paper we were perfect for each other but I felt no sparks. I had about given up when my last choice asked me out and I just decided to go and be done with it so I can say I gave it a try. Well I tell you, it was love at first sight and we were never apart from our first date forward. We are married with kids and he still gives me butterflies when I think of him. People laugh sometimes when I tell them how we met but I'm not embarrassed. We would have never met otherwise, since we are both more on the shy side. I'm all for it, but you have to be very careful and not jump into meeting someone quickly. I did fall for someone chatting, he seemed like Prince Charming. In the back of my mind I knew it didn't add up but I wanted it to be true so I continued. It took months of losing sleep because of late night chats, many phone conversations, cards, gifts, dreams shared...then I found out he was married with children and was MUCH older than he said. You've heard of buyer beware, chatter beware too!

I don't really into an online dating. Even I did join one site, but it was like 3 years ago. I feel like so desperate by going into an online dating sites, for me it's like admitting to myself that I'm so desperate, and I don't want to see myself like that. Besides, I found that many people on the online dating didn't give their real information about who they are. If they making nickname, then I have no problem with that, but giving a fake information that's different. So..I guess I couldn't trust an online dating service.