Family members with depression

United States
December 10, 2007 11:23pm CST
How can you help a friend or family member with depression when they blame all the problems on you and try to make it seem like you have the problem instead of them ?
2 responses
@besthope44 (12123)
• India
10 Oct 10
Well, sometimes its unavoidable that we feel depressed for the day..but for the health its not a good side, i believe in Meditation which will balance our mind and helps to be normal at situations. and even i sleep at times.
• United States
11 Dec 07
Uh- I know that feeling all to well. That is very tough, and I think it depends on the individual(s) involved. I personally had that issue before and eventually, I just had to be completely blunt and straight up about it. If you don't think it would be too harsh, perhaps you could just come right out and say, look, its not fair to bring others down just because you are down. Its really difficult, and I don't think there is an easy way to deal with your situation, but sometimes being rough on them snaps them out of it--- at least, that worked for me-- and that was my last shot, after many failed attempts. But, I noticed, that when you aren't blunt, you could condone their rude and unwarranted behavior. I noticed that I would feel bad and put up with the attitude and the stress that the person inflicted upon me simply because I felt sorry. I realize I was only enabling the drama. Goodluck!