What age should you take away the pacifier?

@dayzz25 (552)
United States
December 10, 2007 11:29pm CST
I think they should have the pacifier taken away atleast by the age of 2. My half sister was around 5 and still sucking on her pacifier. It embarassed me when I would take her places because people probably thought bad of me. With the kids that I've known to still have their pacifier at a late age is because their parents were to lazy to figure out a different way to soothe their child. What's your opinion on this? How old do you think a child should be when they give up their pacifier?
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17 responses
• United States
11 Dec 07
I think age one, if the bottle is taken away at one so should a pacifier, I really hate those things in general.
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@tiffiny (872)
• United States
11 Dec 07
I wouldn't call the parents lazy but maybe they just caved in you know. I think that two is a perfect age to get rid of the pacifier. Thankfully though I never had to really deal with this issue becuase my kids didn't like it. But my nephew is three and still has it. It makes me want to take it from him and throw it in the trash. Lol But every kid is diffrent and every family is diffrent. Sometimes the child will just not give up and the parents can't handle the screaming and tantrums any more.
@imadriscoll (2230)
• United States
12 Dec 07
All three of my children had pacifiers when they were babies. We are having another child in about 3 months and I'm sure that we will at least offer that child a pacifier. We made sure that all of our kids stopped using a pacifier at the age of one. Part of the reason is that when I was a child I sucked my thumb until I was in the third grade. My parents offered me a bike to stop and I did. I don't want my kids to be attached to their thumb so we gave them the pacifier instead. I still have a slight gap in my teeth from sucking my thumb for as long as I did and I didn't want my children to have the same problems. I don't see any reason why a child needs to have a pacifier longer then a year. When you take it away at a year you don't have to worry about any fights because they can't talk yet!
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• United States
12 Dec 07
We are having a boy which will mean that we will have two girls and two boys. We're very excited!
11 Dec 07
My son only had his dummy until he was 4 months old because he didn't want it after that. Even before that he only had it to calm him down when nothing else worked when he was tired and refusing to go to sleep. Although all children are different, so they want them for different lengths of time. I would try to take a dummy away by the age of 1 because by then they don't really need them and they get reliant on what they have and the longer they have them, the harder it is to take it away. Dummys don't help with the growth of childrens teeth either. I've seen 7 year olds walking around shops with dummies in their mouths before and in my opinion that is just way too old. ~joeys wife
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@dayzz25 (552)
• United States
12 Dec 07
My daughter quit taking her pacifier around four or five months also. She still liked it to chew on but she never sucked on it. I wasn't even going to give her one so it would be one less thing to break her of but she was born 12 weeks early and the NICU staff give them to the babies. Have a great day.
@ersmommy1 (12595)
• United States
11 Dec 07
I can only tell you how I dealt with this.My daughter, now four spent a bit of time in the hospital when even younger. Her "binky" gave her alot of comfort while there. So i didn't feel right taking it away and traumatizng her further. At around two, she was really developing teeth. She bit through the nipple..in the trash it went. We talked to her about it. the gist was when you have bitten through them they are gone. Choking hazard and all. It worked by around 21/2 no nore "binky"
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• Canada
24 Feb 09
I have a 1 year old baby and as of 1 year old EXACTLY to the day, there were no more pacifiers!!! I find its alot easier to remove at this age because they havent become attached to it quite as strongly yet. Also it is much better for the development of the teeth.
@bfarrier1 (2082)
• United States
12 Dec 07
I believe it should be taken at the same time as the bottle, that way the baby don't have to be stressed out twice. It's hard enough breaking the bottle so if you do both at once you and your baby only have to go through it once. Have a great day
• United States
12 Dec 07
I have come to the conclusion, that there is no right answer. Some kids need it longer and if you take it away, they go for their thumb or another oral fixation. Of course dentists will tell you differently because of development of their teeth but they don't have to deal with a child that is upset and can't calm themselves down all day. Both my children are thumbsuckers, I don't like it and have tried all the rewards and gadgets. They just need it and have stopped a couple of times but go back to it in times of change like moving.
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@moneyandgc (3429)
• United States
11 Dec 07
My son who is 10 and my daughter who is now 6 both loved their pacifiers when they were little. My other two children didn't like them. They ones that took them both gave them up when they were about 3 years old. When they got a little older we had two rules. 1. No taking the pacifier out of the house. 2. No talking with the pacifier in the mouth. They were little, so of course they would forget sometimes. Especially the talking rule. I was there to remind them though. I am not the type of person to just take away my child's selected source of comfort. On the other hand, I didn't encourage it either. What I did was stop buying them. When they got down to only having one left, they sucked on that same one until it started smelling and looking not so tasty. I remember to this day when my son popped his in his mouth and decided it tasted bad. He took it out and looked at it disgusted. He walked to the garbage and threw it in. When he asked for a pacifier later, I gently reminded him that he threw it away because it was "yucky." I only had to remind him a couple of times and all was fine.
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@karinna (233)
• United States
11 Dec 07
i took my first off at age 1 she had no prblem giving it up, my second daughter never took to a nuk, she was 2 months premi and in the nicu for a month, when she came home i just didnt bother with the nuk she never caused a problem as in wanting it. i guess i got lucky. but i think 2 is a good age to rid of it, but i think some parents get overwhelmd at times and the nuk is all thats left. i guess it realy depends on how that certain family is, sometimes with as busy as some ppls lives ar its harder. im a stay at home mom so alot comes a bit more easy for me but there are alot of moms that have to work.
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@musicman6 (2399)
• United States
11 Dec 07
We decided to take away the pacifier, at the same time we took away the bottle! And we took away the bottle when they started eating solid food! And when they started getting teeth they started eating solid food! We decided this because when they got teeth, they would tend to chew the nipples!
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• United States
11 Dec 07
I agree with you. I think it should be gone by the age of 2. Trying to get kids off of it at a later age just makes it more difficult to do so, not to mention, the kids never learn how to soothe themselves whenever they are stressed or upset. So, the kids just constantly want something to suck on, because that's the only calming thing that they know. I wouldn't say the parents are lazy when they refuse to get rid of the pacifier, I just think they don't want to hear the kid cry and whine about it once it's gone, so they cave in and give it back because it's easier than listening to earth shattering crying.
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• United States
11 Dec 07
A parent does not have to be lazy for a child to love a sucker. I have not had this problem with my daughter. A bit over 8 months I asked my doctor how to get her off. he said pop a hole in it to remove the air. The man was right she would not suck that flat thing again. I also never bought one again either. I think the child should use it until comfortable to let go. It beet sucking a thumb in my book.
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• United States
11 Dec 07
The earlier the better! I don't think there is a right or wrong age, but, from experience, I do know that its much harder to help a child rid themselves of a "binky" after prolonged use. Not to mention, it could be detrimental to the growth of their teeth. I think 2 is an appropriate age, but I also don't think its wrong to have a pacifier longer. I just think that they should be used when necessary, in moderation, in effort to prevent an addiction that can be very difficult for a child to beat!
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• United States
29 Apr 09
I think when they start getting teeth, they should be weened off the pacifier. At least try to start them getting used to not having it, that way by the time they are drinking out of sippee cups they will no longer need them
• United States
10 Feb 08
I have always hated pacifiers. I never used one with my child. Thanks Goodness! I didn't have to figure out how to take it away. If you ask me, take it away as soon as possible. A five year old sucking a binky is ridiculous. I think there is a website called binky heaven that you can send it to. Good Luck and good riddance to binky.
@aseretdd (13732)
• Philippines
12 Dec 07
Before my baby was born... my husband and i decided not to use the pacifier on her... and it actually worked... she is not a pacifier dependent baby... so it was quite a relief because i saw what my two sisters went though in terms of cleaning, buying, and weaning my niece and nephew away from sucking pacifiers... So when i have another baby... i will not even consider using the pacifier...
@SHAMRACK (8586)
• India
11 Dec 07
Hi, I hope pacifier is not all needed if the child has not addicted to it. Still it is might be given for comfort of child later they may create more difficulty if the child is addicted. Hope variety of various methods other that this also available that is much better. Hope a child specialists could give a better advice.