How can I have a boyfriend

Philippines
December 11, 2007 2:55am CST
Im already 28years old and no boyfriend yet. Because I dont know how to be involved with. Im afraid of it.Im the type that I want a mutual feeling. How would I know if somebody likes me. Sometime I have a crush but I dont think he likes me. If I feel there is no magic, or the guy dont like me. Then I just end up my feeling. no time and effort at all. I dont know really why other girls have a few guys or they can have boyfriend after the other. Very easy to shift.
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14 responses
@steney (1418)
• Philippines
11 Dec 07
Hi! All I can say is, take your time. In love, there's no need to rush. Don't mind the age factor. If it's the right time for love to come your way, then there's no stopping it. You'll be surprised because it will come at a time you least expect it. There are no hard and fast rules, you just let it be. No need to memorize anything. Just relax and take it easy. Let love find its way to you! =)
• Philippines
11 Dec 07
Thanks a lot.
@jarves (814)
• Philippines
12 Dec 07
It is not that difficult to have a boyfriend my dear! There are lots of guys out there but you got to be careful in choosing one. Some boys are on it just for fun.
@youless (98356)
• Guangzhou, China
12 Dec 07
I think sometimes the right one needs to be patient to find out. Don't worry that you haven't a boyfriend right now. Enjoy your single life because it is very precious moment. Marrying to a wrong person is much more suffering. So please be patient to wait for the right one shows up. And at that time you will believe that it deserves to wait for him.
@kurtbiewald (2628)
• United States
12 Dec 07
hey don't feel so bad I'm 44, and I like a girl who is old too she really seems almost perfect for me, in so many ways but, I can't get with her at all it feels like then why do we have life even, its mean and unfair I guess we just have to wait and hope and maybe somebody we like likes us too maybe not though, so sad
@scoles (65)
• Philippines
12 Dec 07
i think there is no need to rush you know age 28 is the ideal age for love there is no need for you to be afraid or something... you know the saying right? "age doesn't matter" go firl live life fully and enjoy it... and have fun to your fututre boyfriend...
• United States
11 Dec 07
I may be reading you all wrong, but I think you are shy, bashful and would never approach the guy first. You probably didn't have any sisters or close cousins about your age to hang out with where you would discuss boys and maybe hang out with some guys also. As a result, you have no confidence in yourself as it pertains to boy/girl relationships. What you need to do is look at what your hobbies and interest are and how you can apply that to meeting guys your age. I.E. If you really enjoy reading, maybe you should go to the library more or join a book club.If you attend church, there are many social programs and the list is unlimited. All you have to do now is build up your self confidence because there is a Mr. Right out there somewhere waiting for Ms. Right.
@Estina54 (389)
• United States
11 Dec 07
I don't want to scare you, but you have a good reason to be afraid if you are not experienced. SOME GUYS ARE MEAN! Other girls have a few boyfriends, because they are picky enough to choose somebody that won't be mean or deceiving. You should be pickier too and you have to know that somebody feeling too excited about you will soon disappear into space, he will forget you. I would say many things about fake love, but there is not enough space.
11 Dec 07
First, you have to be happy with yourself before you can expect anyone else to be happy with you. Men can smell desperation like dogs do, no purfume will hide it! If men see you as being confident and happy with yourself, you will soon find you get more interest, confidence is VERY attractive in a mate. There is no one way to be 'involved' with someone. Every relationship is like a finger print, unique. You cannot create chemistry, only see if it's there. But first deal with your own unhappiness.
@mcjeannie (704)
• Philippines
11 Dec 07
Hi there!If you're looking for one and wondering why you don't have a BF yet, maybe it's time to assess yourself.Having a good social life is a good step to meet people.Remember, acquaintanship is the initial stage of a love relationship.Then, have your interest and other guys interest attract you both. In that way, same hobby would create an interest to let each other spend sometime together.Otherwise, blind dating sometimes would also be an option. Although I don't advise matching yourself you don't get to know because sometimes it lead to disasters. Then, one you meet new people in your life, you could actually choose whom you're interested to, and by the time you knew it...love would be knocking at your doorstep.Just have the initial step, but do not haste being into a relationship. the best I can share you is this, lest you are sure it's love, go for the GUY.But always remember, to love sometimes is not all roses.It has its risk, sacrifices and pains to deal with, as well as responsibility.If you're aware of this then you're most likely ready to have one. Goodluck!
• China
11 Dec 07
First,just think you want to make a common friend,don't think you are hunting a boyfriend.thus you can know a lot of friends,maybe you can find your Mr.right among them. Second,try to remember that guy whom you have good feeling on your first sight,maybe he is your Mr.right.
@geekut (26)
• Azerbaijan
11 Dec 07
it is very good to have a boy friend , it makes lot of good to a girl if he and she is a good ,healping person
@shahmeerx (368)
• Pakistan
11 Dec 07
Chances never come flying away to us ,we have to go and get them.With your situation i would suggest to make a move ,people say love is two sided but actually its rarely possible that two persons love each other at the same time ,we have to take our chances express our love and make them fall in love with us or we will never be blessed with the feeling.
• China
11 Dec 07
i think everyone will have his or her best half or mr. right. so, don't worry, your mr. right will appear someday. just try to communicate with your friends nanturally and make friends. sometimes boyfriends can be selected from your friends. wish you good luck.
@tryxiness (4548)
• Philippines
11 Dec 07
There are moments like that in a girl's life when you wish you meet the guy whom you will fall with and be happy (despite the uncertainties). Do not look for magic, magic sometimes can be very pocketbookish. Not all romantic stories started with magic, but, when the time comes when you are ready to have a relationship, then you know that magic is not really a first time thing... Magic exists during the time you spend your moment with that person... it's an everyday effort. :) Anyways, someday, you fill find the person whom you will fall inlove with... but do not pressure yourself much. Also try to meet people -- new set of friends. :)