daughter to mother

December 12, 2007 3:30am CST
is it okay when at times your raise your voice to your mom, but deep inside your heart you are not really intending to hurt her? for me i guess so, it is just you have to explain to your mom why it happened, maybe because you were pissed off or just down and were not in the mood for anything else but to be alone...
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6 responses
13 Dec 07
obviously no one would like to hurt his/her mom and also dad. dauter or son should respect hie/her mother and never forget that due to her he/she is in world.so be polite to her even she is hard to u
@jazzygunz (178)
• United States
13 Dec 07
I never want to be ina position to disrespect my mother because I love her dearly. But sometimes you have to put your foot down and as you grown you learn ways to do it without raising your voice. It is hard because you feel like if you arent being heard then the corect thing to do is talk louder and stronger then the other person.But, we humans arent a pack or brown bears and we can be more civilized so, take it easy next time and just listen because yo uwill be surprised how much more communication can get done.
• United States
13 Dec 07
I think that its ok sometimes. Maybe if your trying to get your point across. But i think we also need to be careful what kind of tone of voice we use. I know sometimes its hard to put up with your mom. But im sure when you get older it will be different. At least i know it was for me.
@nkhanna (922)
• India
13 Dec 07
well normally the relation of mom and daughter does ont tend to be a friendship relation.there always exist a generation gap.children at the young age are of a very repulsive nature.they think what they are doing is correct which is definately okay from theri point of view,however parents being matured and more experienced knows how to handle a situation but due to generation gap they are not able to explain this to their children.well i think many a times i also used to raise my voice when i was young but later used to repent and say sorry to mom.i know my mom is very loving and just used to forgive me.might be she would have forgot all my harsh words as she is mother,but those words are still in my memory.so i think rather than raising the voice its better to talk to her politely.i know its tough but this is the right way.since if one is hurted or feeling low it does not mean that he or se will make others unhappy too.
@dzevce (41)
• Macedonia
12 Dec 07
Hmm I left this times behind Now i have my own family and a daughter When i was living with my parents i was yelling at my mom often the most of the timed i didnt thought in real the things i was saying And 5 min after i felt so bad and i was trying to explain her my reasons for that kind of behavior If i can go back, i think i will think twice before i tell something bad to my mom bcz she havent deserve it
• United States
12 Dec 07
When I was younger, about 13-16, I would always have problems with my mom. I would get her sad cause I would raise my voice and get mad her and I didn't have any respect. And I ran away from home, I was gone for 2-3 weeks at a time. It really took a toll on her, I am her first baby girl. I was a miracle baby. It hurt her so much she ended up having a mild stroke and people were calling me and telling me she was in the hospital. At first I didn't believe it but then when I hurt my friend in the hospital I started to cry and I went over there. I felt so bad I started to cry cause I felt like it was all my fault. After that I never ran away and I wasn't exactly perfect. I raised my voice a little but I listened. I think It hurt her when I rose my voice all those times, cause she would look at me. But my dad was the main reason why we would all fight. He always had something slick to say. So my mom, my little sister, and I moved to canada cause my mom had a job transfer. Then 3 weeks later she had a seizure and she turned out to have an aneurysm in her brain. It was the most scariest thing I've ever seen before in my life. She had a seizure, no one knew what happened at first, they transfered her to a neurological center would specialized in those treatments. Next thing you know she's having brain surgery. My dad was living in the U.S. because he has a record and Canada wouldn't let him in. So he made an appeal and they got him over here in 24 hours. Then when he came, she had to get brain surgery. This happened 3 months ago. We stayed there the whole 12 hours. It was AGONIZING. You never know what could happen to her. You never know when she or anyone else could go. That's why every second now I make sure she knows I love her and she knows what's going on in my mind. I never hide anything from her anymore. If I'm mad I never take it out on her, and If she wants to know, sometimes I tell her, or I go to take a nap in my room and chill out there with the computer and lock the door. But when she needs me, she knows she always has me there for her.