Do You Say Hello To Strangers on the Street?

@Hart57 (359)
United States
December 12, 2007 12:33pm CST
If you cross paths with somebody on the street, do you say hello to them? I try to, but I must admit, I sometimes neglect to. If I don't, it's usually because the person doesn't look friendly, or looks the other way, or keeps their head turned down. How about you? Do you always say hello to strangers on the street? Do you feel uncomfortable doing so? Do you think it's rude when you pass a person and they don't say hello? What are your thoughts?
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@makatas (1098)
• Greece
13 Dec 07
Well i dont do this.Crossing a street with a stranger, why say hello to him?If i did it, he would misunderstand me for danger, or just think i am someone he knows and will attempt longer talk.Has happened one or two times. There are times when i have greeted people on street, but that was when i was walking a really isolated part of blocks and wouldnt see people for much time.When you are all alone sometimes you feel like greeting the one that might come across you
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@Hart57 (359)
• United States
14 Dec 07
I could see how that could happen, makatas. Especially if it's dark outside and nobody else is around. One has to be judicious in such circumstances. Thanks for a great response.
@whywiki (6066)
• Canada
12 Dec 07
I usually try and get eye contact first and if they look me in the eyes and not away I say Hi. I find men say hi to me more than women. I live in a pretty friendly town overall. I find when traveling to other parts of the world it doesn't seem as many people say hi.
@Hart57 (359)
• United States
13 Dec 07
Getting eye contact first is a good strategy, whywiki. I do that as well. That's an interesting observation you make about men being more friendly to you than women. Thanks for responding.
@thekiwi (588)
• United States
13 Dec 07
I either tell them hi, or give them a smile and a nod, unless something is on my mind, then i forget to, cause i am too worried about thinking whatever it is i am thinking about.
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@Hart57 (359)
• United States
14 Dec 07
I'm the same way, thekiwi. I sometimes get so lost in thought that I forget to acknowledge the people around me. Thanks for responding to my discussion. Come back again.
@ersmommy1 (12588)
• United States
12 Dec 07
I try to. sometimes it is hard. Also depends on my situation. If I am in a hurry, I do forget. But it is a good practice to get into. Spread some cheer. It may be passed on. Not really uncomfortable with it. Unless my daughter is with me. Trying to practice Stranger danger, and don't talk to strangers. I always try to say have a good day to Customer service people though.
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@Hart57 (359)
• United States
13 Dec 07
Good point regarding your daughter and "stranger danger," ersmommy1. Oh, and by the way, it's great that you're friendly to customer service people -- if anybody needs some "cheer" it's customer service reps! Happy Holidays!
@macobex (108)
• Philippines
13 Dec 07
I'm a magician, a card enthusiast. so as far as I can, I'm trying to say hello and greet people in the street, even if it's creepy. But greeting strangers sometimes feels so good, especially if those strangers were beautiful girls. =)
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@Hart57 (359)
• United States
14 Dec 07
Oh, I couldn't agree with you more, macobex. It's always a great pleasure to greet a beautiful girl. Now, if only it were always reciprocated. LOL.
@lorelai (1558)
• Italy
12 Dec 07
I study in a town with 400 000 inhabitants and I never say hello to people I don't know just to those who live in my building. My parents live in a place with some 1000 inhabitants and there I always say hello to everybody because it's just something that everybody more or less does.I do it even if I have never seen them before. I think that if I wanted to say hello to everyone here where I live now I would have to say hello every secon and people are not used to that so they'd all look at me in a strange way.
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@Hart57 (359)
• United States
13 Dec 07
Sounds like there are a lot of people out on the streets in the town you currently live in, lorelai. In that case, it would be unrealistic to say hello to everyone you pass, I agree with you. Thanks for responding.
@missybal (4490)
• United States
13 Dec 07
I'm a small town girl and I've always said hello to everyone that I pass on the street. Most of them are the same people I pass by all the time that I still don't know their names but I say hi. When we lived in Maryland for a year it was a highly populated area and I must say that when I flashed my smile and said hello down there I did get an aweful lot of ugly looks, but every once in a while I would get a smile back and they would say hi back. I think it helps put me in a good mood. I sometimes comment on the wonderful day too and have a little conversation with the strangers.
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@Hart57 (359)
• United States
14 Dec 07
I would never give you a dirty look if you smiled at me, missybal! Thanks for an excellent response.
@youless (112103)
• Guangzhou, China
13 Dec 07
I won't say hello to the strangers on the street. As nowadays the crimes seem to be much more serious. So I will try to keep alert when I am outside. I am not comfortable to contact with the strangers on the street.
@Hart57 (359)
• United States
14 Dec 07
Hello, youless. It's always wise to be cautious. But what if they say hello to you? Will you respond? Thanks for your response.
@jHoEn16 (2043)
• Australia
13 Dec 07
i do if i know that the person is looking at me and smile at me... but most of the time they say it first then i reply with hellos too :)
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@Hart57 (359)
• United States
14 Dec 07
I'm the same way, jHoEn16. Thank you very much for responding to my discussion. Hope to see you around these parts again.
• Indonesia
13 Dec 07
When passing the street, I used to meet many people with many characters. Sometime, I say hello to the people which I feel offering friendly face and the we make a small conversation then. But sometime, I also didn't say hello with people that I met in the street if I feel the situation was not good to start conversation or just say hello to them.
@Hart57 (359)
• United States
14 Dec 07
I apporoach it the same way you do, trisna3105. I need to get some kind of cue that the person is receptive before I will extend a friendly gesture.
• Canada
13 Dec 07
When I cross paths with somebody, I usually either nod in their direction or say hello, or attempt to acknowledge them in some way. I have to admit that sometimes I am preoccupied, and I forget to do so. Some people do not acknowledge you, ignore you, or seem annoyed, but most people will be friendly. I think that it doesn't hurt anyone or cost anything to show a little courtesy,and it can help to make the day more pleasant for many.
@Hart57 (359)
• United States
14 Dec 07
I also forget to do so at times, cathy_mahoney. I can get so lost in thought that people disappear momentarily. And that's probably not a good thing. You're right, most people respond favorably to friendliness and kindness. Thanks for the great response.
@kianli (546)
• China
13 Dec 07
I tried but failed. I'm a Chinese, when i did this people thought i was a bussinessman who wanted persuade them buying goods. Chinese people are not as open as westerners so strangers are still strangers. Sometimes when a foreigner say hello to a Chinese, that Chinese will smile back and simply keep on his walk. But things are getting better here, people are getting used to saying hello to a stranger.
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@Hart57 (359)
• United States
14 Dec 07
Well, if that's not ethnic profiling, I don't know what is, kianli. It's good to know that people are becoming more open to saying hello over there. Thank you so very much for responding to my discussion. Come by and visit again.
@xunyicao (45)
• China
13 Dec 07
I only say hello to known people.I feel very strangely to say hello to stranger,although like this is not unfriendly ,but I can smile to them.
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@Hart57 (359)
• United States
14 Dec 07
Smiles are always good, xunyicao!
@zhwbeast (326)
• China
13 Dec 07
i never said hello to a stranger on the street,because i an a shy boy, and i don't think it is a rude activity.on the contrast i think it would be a rude thing when the one which i say to is thinking something.also,i think if we do it usually it's a good way to communication between people.
@Hart57 (359)
• United States
14 Dec 07
I think a lot of people are too shy to acknowledge strangers, zhwbeast. You're so right, once the ice is broken, the communication that results can be great. Thank you so very much for responding to my discussion.
@Calais (10893)
• Australia
12 Dec 07
I live in a small country town, so everyone says hello to everyone, its nice.
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@Hart57 (359)
• United States
13 Dec 07
It must be nice, Calais. Living in Los Angeles most of my life, I have no idea what that's like. Happy Holidays!
@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
12 Dec 07
When I am exercising and walking a bike trail, I always say hi to those who are walking the opposite way or to those who I overtake. Sometimes they smile or nod when I say "morning" which is nice and it makes me feel a little safe when passing them. It's only when they look at me the same time I am looking at them, its then I say hi or nod or even smil.
@Hart57 (359)
• United States
14 Dec 07
You make eye contact first. That's what I usually do too, maddysmommy. Thanks for your response.
@Modestah (11179)
• United States
27 Jan 08
I am originally from the North East - generally when you greeted someone on the street like that it appeared suspicious, so I was not accustomed to being greeted - though I often would acknowledge others not by words but a nod of the head or a quick smile. I moved to oklahoma 13 years ago and everyone greeted everyone warmly on the street - or if you were driving by and they were sitting on the stoop or walking on the path, it took me a good while to get used to it - at first I kept trying to place where do I know these people from.... once when we first arrived we were speeding down the road (straight roads with little traffic it was too easy to do) a state trooper came from the other direction smiling and waving at us with a chuckle = I looked at the speedometer and saw we were going around 80 mph! I have since gotten into the habit of greeting strangers provided they look like they will be receptive to it... who knows it may be the hilight of their day :) (I did not mean for that to sound conceited) it makes me happy anyhow - it must boost seratonin or something.
@mummymo (23706)
27 Jan 08
If I don't say hello I always try to smile - it is amazing how even somebody who looks quite unfriendly can change when someone smiles at them - my favourite quote is "Smiling is infectious, go out and infect the world" . xxxx
@eyewitness (1575)
• Netherlands
12 Dec 07
I don't say hello to strangers unless they look at me and then i say hello or they say hello to me first.But i almost never do that.Except when i am working in the store. I'm afraid of talking to strangers.That's why internet is easier.
@Hart57 (359)
• United States
13 Dec 07
Establishing eye contact first is a good approach, eyewitness. That way, you know the person is receptive to a friendly hello. Thanks for your response.
@peedielyn (1207)
• United States
5 Feb 08
I have a naturally bubbly "smile", so I tend to use it as often as I can. I can't help but to smile at someone and see how they react to it. Sometimes if you smile once in a while, that person just might smile back or pass it on. I say hello! from time to time and a "how are you, today?" People immediatly warm up to you. I wasn't ever really shy, but in my younger days it used to freak me out when people do that. Actually, today, I went to walmart on a mission and a nice man came out of the customer service area and said "Hello young lady, how are you today?" I thought WOW! I like that attitude. I told him that I have what I thought was the flu and came to get meds for it. He walked me to the pharmacy and talked to my the whole way over there and recommended a med that his wife uses. He was so genuinely nice and just overall courteous(sp) that I had taken a 2 minute run to about 15 minutes. I was cool as a cucumber the rest of the day. God Bless him!