Let's talk about love... hehehe

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And neil gaiman said... “Have you ever been in love? Horrible isn't it? It makes you so vulnerable. It opens your chest and it opens up your heart and it means that someone can get inside you and mess you up. You build up all these defenses, you build up a whole suit of armor, so that nothing can hurt you, then one stupid person, no different from any other stupid person, wanders into your stupid life...You give them a piece of you. They didn't ask for it. They did something dumb one day, like kiss you or smile at you, and then your life isn't your own anymore. Love takes hostages. It gets inside you. It eats you out and leaves you crying in the darkness, so simple a phrase like 'maybe we should be just friends' turns into a glass splinter working its way into your heart. It hurts. Not just in the imagination. Not just in the mind. It's a soul-hurt, a real gets-inside-you-and-rips-you-apart pain. I hate love.” -- I am now processing a friend whom I believe is still in a denial that she was left by her husband for another girl. Seeing cry, and rant, and blame, and develop insecurities really is sucking the energy in me. I have met lots of women who went to a shelter because they were physically and psychologically abused by their partners, and each time I meet with my friend, I can see these women in her. I do not want to be cynical about love... I still believe in love… I know, it could tear your soul apart, but then love also is the reason why one can be whole. HUGS. Sometimes, the love that one strongly feels is romantic, thus, makes one blinded with the fact that love is so like the kind of choices we make... If we allow that person to hurt us because we love him or her, then I think, we are abusing love -- not just love per se romantic but also our love for ourselves. :)