Meeting at school about my daughter's parapro!
By babyangie27
@babyangie27 (5176)
United States
December 14, 2007 5:31pm CST
I have a child with special needs as most of my friends on here know,well my daughter needs a parapro to complete tasks during her class in kindergarten.
We have been talking(me and the parapro) in a journel that is set home everyday,and yesterday I recieved this note...
AS EXPECTED AJ refused to do her work in class,and was screaming during potty time..Ect.
I mean As expected! If you expect my child to behave badly everyday,she is smart enough to pick up on that and continue to behave that way. I was so mad,and when I brought it up at my daughter's IEP meeting,all her other teachers(PT,OT,Speech,ECT)
and the princepul,they were shocked and are planning a meeting with her soon.
I do know my daughter can be diffcult at times,but come on,I have heard nothing but negative things for over a month,there have been no postive things in her journey.
I mean does this seem like something is up with her or what?
How would you feel if you read this about your child with special needs?
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5 responses
@xXxMikesWifeyxXx (3072)
• United States
14 Dec 07
Well me myself if i was in your sitation, i would meet with her myself..because i would want to see wqhat type of vibe i got myself by her.because i wouldnt want just anyone working with my child, i need to know that they are fit for that position,and that she is ganna be impatient and not want to do the work with her.and then write letters home saying SHE is the one who refused. for over a month that is crazy!!!.... i would wanna meet with her and let the princible as well. and then one day show up to the school. and look into the door window she if she really is wokring with your child.
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@babyangie27 (5176)
• United States
15 Dec 07
I have seen the woman many times,the last time in fact was yesterday morning,and if looks could kill she was trying with her eyes,she had the nastiest look on her face. And then after she spoke to Angelina before the bell rang(angelina my daughter) had a dirty look on her face,so I really think this woman is not the right parapro for her.
everyone else in the school just loves my daughter,they call her they special girl because she is alway happy,and bubly,except for a few times here and there when she is having an off moment.
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@xXxMikesWifeyxXx (3072)
• United States
15 Dec 07
well then i think there aught to be someone else helping your little girl, i would simply say to the princible, she is not to "help" my daughter with anything anymore i would like someone else, you daughter just might be refusing to do her work just isnt comfterble around this lady and with your daughter being special needs mabey its that she shes other kids not needing a parapro and doesnt wanna show this lady how much help she really needs because shes fearful of this lady being mean to her because of it you know... thats why it is really important that ur daughter has someone she likes and is comfterble with... and if this is really whats going on and you find one she really likes, then she will be more willing to do her work and learn and possibly even be more excited to get things accompollished that she has been afraid to because oif the other teacher..
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@raychill (6525)
• United States
15 Dec 07
That's really sad. You're correct. Kids are smart, whether special needs or not...and if you expect a kid to do something, they'll do it...simply because you expect it! so that's really sad that she wasn't working with your daughter right and has nothing but bad things to say. I'm sure your poor daughter isn't that bad and I hope things get resolved
(and no worries, I'll answer your CSI post, i just taped it and haven't watched it yet!)
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@babyangie27 (5176)
• United States
15 Dec 07
Thanks,I know my daughter can be a habdful at times,but after everything she has been through and continues to have to struggle with she is a really happy girl who tries hard at everything she does.
I figured that is why you hadn't responded yet to my CSI post. It was a good one.
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@raychill (6525)
• United States
15 Dec 07
I've known a few special needs kids in my life. I have a cousin with autism and a cousin with downs. I also used to help out with the special kids in my school and i've helped special olympics. most of the time those kids are the nicest kids and really intuitive kids you'll ever meet. So I have no doubt your daughter isn't the one with problems. Maybe her helper just needs a break and I hope youfind a better one.
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@ducttape789 (1)
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15 Dec 07
ouch, im am only in high school but that really upsets me to think about
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@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
15 Dec 07
First, why is your daughter acting up? Does she do this at home? If not, why here. Does she not like her para? Are they not working with her at her level? Is she frustrated or being difficult? Do not let it go on. Go to your meeting, with an open mind, not ready to pounce on anyone. Ask if anyone knows what is setting her off? What is their opinion? What can we all do to try to get her to quit acting this way? How does she react to her parapro. Something needs to be done, get a plan. Try their suggestions, if that doesn't work, demand a different teacher or parapro, whichever one that you feel could be the one that is setting her off. Let me know if I can help. PM or Email me and we can talk more. We had school problems for the last 2 years, and this year seems to be alot better.
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@babyangie27 (5176)
• United States
15 Dec 07
Yea we discussed many things we are all going to try to do,mostly her parapro is trying to make her use the potty when she doesn't need to go(my daughter is starting to understand her body more and when she needs to do) also she gets a bad vibe from the teacher because I know I do,I have an open mind abot the whole thing and I hope the steps we talked about today will improve these things,thanks!
@vivasuzi (4127)
• United States
17 Dec 07
It does sound like this person, and maybe others, are just expecting your daughter to act up and are not trying anymore. I hope you get a new parapro to work with her that can help. I am sure there has been at least a few positive things they could have written home about, sounds like they just don't care.
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@babyangie27 (5176)
• United States
17 Dec 07
Well all of her other teachers,and she has quite a few,have good things to say about her,and ways to help when there is something that she may need to work on,this lady seems to only concern the notes home to everything negative,even when my daughter does use the potty at school,there is no praise in her note, just a she used potty at such and such time,while she screamed,in the beining she would make smilely faces,or give her a sticker.
@nmhschic2004 (1238)
• United States
15 Dec 07
Your probably right about her not being the right parapro for her. I would say get someone else. If she was my daughter i would not put up with people (especially teachers and what not) saying negative things about her. Thats just not right.
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@babyangie27 (5176)
• United States
15 Dec 07
Yea I really think my daughter would be better off with another parapro,the one day her parapro wasn't in school.my daughter came home and said she had a really great day at school,I don't hear that on days that lady is there.
