If your friends is in love
By nesher
@nesher (237)
United States
December 16, 2007 12:52am CST
If your friend is in love, but you could see that the object of his passion does not deserve it, you could foresee that the relationship will not last long, should you tell that? Or just let it be, as you can loose a friend, and he/she will go with this relationship anyway?
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10 responses
@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
20 Dec 07
Put yourself in your friends place. As you say, it won't last long. It's best to stay out of these situations as it's just between the 2 people. Any interference by you could well estrange your friend.
There must be some reason your friend is attracted to this person...keep your distance and be ready to step in if your friend needs you. It's a bit hard to say without knowing the individuals personally.
@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
30 Dec 07
That could always be a possibility. What you see maybe your friend doesn't see. What is your wife's opinion of this person? Does she agree with you? The only other thing you can do is when you are all together, try and draw your friend's friend out and in this way your friend will see her true colours or you will realise your error. All will be well. :)
@academic2 (7000)
• Uganda
24 Dec 07
On matters of the heart, no one has the moral authority to intefere,let the parties discover what works and what doesnt work
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
16 Dec 07
Unless the new boyfriend/girlfriend is hitting your friend then you step in and get him/her to break with the person.anything else isn't your business. If the new love is a a**hole, they are your friend's a**hole and they like it that way.And if you try to break them up, you could lose your friend.all you can do is be there so when they break up, you can help them get over the person.
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@cartoon4umaniacs (1648)
• United States
17 Dec 07
It's like if you do it your dam and if you don't your dam kind of a thing. I did that once and told a friend that straight out and what happen he cut off all contact with me and stop being friends with me and what do you know his relationship didn't last more than two months. Then I had a friend who had to same thing and I decided to bit my tongue and didn't tell her. Well, she got taken and now has a broken heart and I told her I saw that coming and she is upset that I didn't inform her....either way buddy it's hard...
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@Adoniah (7513)
• United States
22 Dec 07
Is the relationship harming your friend? If your friend is not actually being harmed or being taken for a monetary ride, and you might lose the friendship by butting in, I would wait it out. He might need you more after the breakup finally happens on its own. So you need to be there and not be dumped as a friend for sticking your nose in where he doesn't want you!
@Adoniah (7513)
• United States
25 Dec 07
You may be exactly right about your friend. That actually sounds like the reason that he is in the relationship. He has done something in his past that he feels bad about and he is now doing penance for it. Hopefully he will see the light soon and get out of this destructive relationship and into a more constructive one!
@ishqvishq (1021)
• India
17 Dec 07
you just can tell your views to her what you think further you put on her/him that will be much better
@nesher (237)
• United States
24 Dec 07
I am afraid it can be an end of our relationship. Person in passion is really blind and unreasonable. No sound facts are accepted at the moment. I have read that the first passion period for humans is 1.5 months in average. I will wait, and hopefully, my friend will recover...
@asawanialvin0611 (1877)
• Philippines
16 Dec 07
Only God can say who are meant to be.We should not judge unless we have no imperfections our selves.Aloow them to grow together and allow them selves to find out if they are compatible.
@zhwbeast (326)
• China
20 Dec 07
I think I will give some advice to my friend.and point out the difficult of their love which can destyoy their love in short time.Also I can help him /her to solve the problems if it can be get rid of.If it could not be avoided,my friend will have a mental preparation and spend less time in the love.
@nesher (237)
• United States
24 Dec 07
Tell you truth, I am a bit afraid of giving advices due to the several reasons:
1. I am not a G-d, and I can be wrong (even, it seems to me unlikely at the moment).
2. I do not want to loose a friend. At the moment, he is so in love, that any negative comment might be not accepted properly.
3. It is impossible to spare personal life experience. Everybody has to get to the important decision on his/her own. Even, it might be painfull at the end.
@Cindy405777 (300)
• China
17 Dec 07
Tell him your feeling ! As his friend , you shuld tell him ,your true thought!
