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well yes, you did make vows, for better or worse etc..maybe you should seeK professional helP and not give up ... because you did make vows..and i dont think people should get divorced and cheating is adultery, no ofeence but thats the worst thing you can do to another person, think about if it was you who was getting cheated on.

Have you talked to him about your expectations for the relationship? Life is too short to be miserable. You have to believe you are worthy of all the love and happiness you deserve. Life if what you make it. You might not be able to change your spouse but you can change yourself and your attitude. I suggest you get counseling for yourself. Have a plan to get what you want out of life. Have a plan to be able to stand on your own two feet if you have to face the possibility of life without him. You know the saying " if mama's not happy no one is happy." So mama do what you can to take care of yourself and. I'm going to get all Dr Phil on you and tell you that you teach people how to treat you. I think that is very true. Good luck.

can i ask why can't you leave him? i have a husband and we have 4 children. i got pregnant too and thats the reason why we got married. but the marriage vows are not for the woman only it applies for both parties. your husband is like my husband but minus the pot smoking. he doesnt work but gambles a lot. he lets his parents provide for what we need but his parents complains to me and not to him. he beats me and the children so i and my children packed our bags and left him. that was 7 years ago and i am happy i moved out. but before it got worst i talked to him, try to write letters to him when he is in a NOT LISTENING MODE. i tried to go and do what he wants, obeys like a maid but nothing happened. i didnt say you have to move out but dont just stick with him just because you married him. you have to love and respect yourself too.

Have you tried taking to him about this situation, as a lot of people do not talk, they just leave it to build up. I really do not like pot smokers my self if I had to be married to one, or even a smoker for that matter. it sounds like you have been married for sometime now and he may be bored, and you may feel not wanted by him. Most people I know that hit this point split up sooner or latter, only a few make it through ok. I all I can suggest is to go with the flow, and hope all changes with time. Good Luck

IS it terribly wrong? Who am I to judge? Would I do it? No. But then again I wouldn't get married because I got pregnant either, so maybe the problem wouldn't exist in the first place. Then again we all make mistakes. If what you are asking is should I do this? And you really want an honest opinion here goes what I think it's the proper way of doing it: If your marriage really isn't working, solve whatever it is that is preventing you from leaving the marriage, get out, and when you're out of the marriage then start looking. Makes more sense to me like this, doesn't it to you? I feel that we must be responsible for our actions even when they takes where we didn't want to go. If we don't like where we are then we get out of there before we do something else. I know, I ended up kind of judging, didn't I? I'm sorry for that, again I have no right to do so, but I feel that cutting corners might not be the right way to do anything. I hope you can solve your problems without compromising with yourself.

I think that if you are unhappily married you still have to honor your vows. You are still married. You shouldn't be looking around untill after you get divorced. I understand that right now you can't for what ever reason but still you are in a relationship. What's this going to say to your next boyfriend/whatever they become? That you don't really care if you are committed or not you'll do what you want. And what's going to stop you from doing it to them? Does that make sence? And I'm really sorry that you are unhappy. Hopefully you can become happy soon.

No, its not terrible wrong but then you will have to understand that there are few families these days that are perfect. You got hooked to this guy for whatever reason (maybe it was love at one time) and then gradually you found that there are very few common factors between you both and now you are thinking of leaving him sooner or later. Maybe he will call it off before you do. But always remember that no individual is perfect, marriage is a game of balance and compromise and it is easier to break that to build. And then the child is there to consider too. Whatever you do, don’t just rush into things. I am sure you have spoken to your guy about his habits and he has refused to change and I am also sure that there are ample reasons for you to want to walk out…but whatever you do, it should not be like jumping from the frying pan into the fire.

I was about to say you save the marriage but when I read that he is smoking pot I changed my mind. I am just wondering why can't you leave him now? Is there something that stops you from doing so? The void that you are talking to will always remain void until you are released from that relationship. If you are worrying about your child... I would say your child is more at risk living with a man that is like that. He should be a responsible father to your baby than seeing him like that. So I say if you can leave that relationship do it the soonest possible time.

What is terribly wrong is that you are not happy. You should leave. If both of you are not happy, it isn't good for your child if you stay together.if mommy and daddy are fighting all the time it can't be good for the child.Besides, if you are so lonely that you are looking for a friend, then it is time to leave.It will b better for you, him and the child.Take care.

I have to ask what did you think would change when you married him? I am sorry it sounds like this was a desperation marriage and nothing more and because it is there is no need on either of your parts to try to improve on what you have, and I can see it landsliding down the hill at an even faster rate than it is now, that being said I would suggest counseling for the both of you and if the differences are not going to be solved then dissolve the marriage, rather than have an affair and just add to the problems. So yes what you are doing is making matters worse and you need to stop and think, but that is just my opinion and you must do what ever you need to do, I just can not justify your having an affair because you are not happy

hi! I wish your marriage well,inspite of what is happening right now,maybe you can talk to him and ask him about what he wants to happen in your married life and will pray that whatever wyas you both choose you'll end up happy.

Maybe he's just taking you for granted. Some people have a tendency to do that. Talk to him. Tell him how you feel. Who knows, it might wake him up. If he loves you he will change his ways. Ask him to stop smoking pot. If he loves you he will try. If not, well leave him. Then you'll be free to look for someone new.