can't understand this feeling????

@jona06 (78)
December 17, 2007 11:21pm CST
i don't like him anymore....i'm tired of him... he have asked me if he can court me...and i've said yes.....but now, 8 months have passed and still he is waiting for my answer..... but i don't see any sincerity in him....and i can't really understand if he truly loves me or just playing over me.... people....i need your advices.....pls
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@makatas (1098)
• Greece
18 Dec 07
If you are not interested in him, just tell him.Try to imagine what it would feel like for you, to be waiting for a response from the one you love and never get any.Wouldnt that be bad? Dont do to others what you wouldnt like to happen at you. Or, if you still cant decide, try to have a sincere conversation with him to sort things out.
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@jona06 (78)
19 Dec 07
you're right....i don't want him to wait for nothing....but then....i already told him that i'm not ready yet.... i guess....i have to take your advice and better clear this out right away....
@ssh123 (31073)
• India
18 Dec 07
One has to be very careful in choosing a partner. Unlike one changes shirt (clothes) one cannot change the partners because it hurts deeply and bad memories do not get erased. That is why I always say one's family is very important in giving the requried strength and courage to take right decision. Once a decision is taken do not go back on it, if you go back on it, then it becomes a habit and your mind will not allow you to take a firm decision anytime not only on this issue but on all other issues pertaining to your life. You are the best judge. You know him, his behaviour, his mentality, his sincerity. I feel you should go by intuition and impulses. I hope god gives you strength to take a right decision.
@ssh123 (31073)
• India
18 Dec 07
The more you chase a thing (person) farther it (they) go. So just relax and divert your attention to your career, your family for the time being. Never call, never contact. Everything will come to your feet for you to take decision.
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
18 Dec 07
hi friend, you are so very right! I really appreciate your view point.
@jona06 (78)
18 Dec 07
thanks for the great advice ssh123..... i will surely try to make the right decision about this problem..... i guess i should also talk to him???
@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
18 Dec 07
hi jona... love is a very strange feeling and it is very hard to understand... my advice is not to rush and follow what your heart says... you don't want to choose the wrong guy to be your partner... i don't know how you feel after 8 months of courtship with him... but just take it slowly and if you think that he is not the one, then look for another one... good luck...
@jona06 (78)
19 Dec 07
but what would be his reaction if i will say to him that "i will already stop this".....i think he will be hurt..... now what should be the right decision to be made???
• Philippines
18 Dec 07
is there really no trace of sincerity in those 8 months of of courtship? :-)
@jona06 (78)
18 Dec 07
i don't know???? what i really mean is....i don't really feel that his courting me.... not because he had waited for 8 months...he is really sincere.... i can't understand this feeling... what's this???
• Philippines
18 Dec 07
maybe you just need to give it some time..... i mean for yourself to find out how you feel about this guy :-)
@lele5323 (19)
• China
19 Dec 07
do you love him really?do you kown ? and if you can't feel sincerity in him ,you don't accept him.if you love him ,you will give him a chance.I think you must try comunicate with each other by heart.
@jona06 (78)
19 Dec 07
i will try to....but i guess, not now..... i will first give myself a time to really think about this again....right???
• Philippines
4 Jan 08
"i don't like him anymore....i'm tired of him" i'd like to pick up these lines from you....if thats what you feel maybe it's time for you to tell him the truth, and besides its getting far already, maybe he's expecting something from you...and if you take it any longer he will be more hurt..it's not too late so go tell him girl..
@jona06 (78)
6 Jan 08
thanks for the advice.....i will surely tell him what i really feel..... thanks....hope that you will also join to the previous discussions i've started...
@code_11 (902)
• Nigeria
18 Dec 07
My papa taught me that I can't really get everything I need from just one person, so i strongly suggest that if this man in qutoe have the major qulity that you seek the go for him else please back out.
@jona06 (78)
19 Dec 07
i think i already like him.....but then, because of what he is actually acting right now is very different.... i can't really see any sincerity in him.... now, tell me what should i suppose to do???
@subha12 (18441)
• India
18 Dec 07
if you do not like him now, just tell him.why keep him waiting? above all you also don't know whether he really loves you or not. so be clear. he may feel bad but always good to tel the truth.
@jona06 (78)
18 Dec 07
i myself cannot understand what i really feel for him.... i guess, i just need time and think about this..... i cannot conclude for now....if i really love him or not....
@wisedragon (2325)
• Philippines
18 Dec 07
If that's how you feel right now, what kind of relationship do you think you will have, if ever you say yes to him? You obviously don't love him. Tell him that, so he can move on and you can move on.
@jona06 (78)
19 Dec 07
i also can't do that right away....i don't understand this feeling of mine.... some says that if i will let him go, i might lose the only person that will make me happy..... now,can you tell me how to make a wise decision????
@rosema (1145)
• Philippines
27 Dec 07
hi jona06, tell him what you feel, tell him the truth that you dont like and trust him anymore. stop giving him hope.
@theprogamer (10535)
• United States
19 Dec 07
If you don't feel that much love and you feel say a great deal of doubt, maybe even apathy, then something maybe wrong with the relationship/situation as it stands. You're better off confronting him about it and taking this seriously. Other than that you may have to move on and forget about it. Live your life.
@nkhanna (922)
• India
18 Dec 07
well i think yuo need to give some time to your relation.since marriage is a very sacred thing.one needs to be very careful while chooing a partner,since a correct can do wonders for each toher and on the other hand a wrong partner can just reverse the case.dont ask for anybody's help in this case.since its just you who can judge the best since its your emotion.you need to go by your heart and not by your mind in this case.listen to your instinct.if you think he is sincere and trustworthy and repects you then probably you can give him one more chance.however if not then you can move ahead in your direction.look its really tough for any one of us to tell whether he loves you or not.so you need to think and then decide.take youre own times since its one of the most crucial decisions of your life.all the best to you.
@naty40 (35)
• Philippines
18 Dec 07
girl....just stay calm..... give some time and space....and surely later on you will have the right decision.... take time and think right....do the best thing and give the right decision....
• Philippines
18 Dec 07
i also have that kind of situatuion.. i end up being alone i also like this guy but then i wasnt sure if he really liked me, later i found out he was back with his old gf.. sad..
• Philippines
18 Dec 07
maybe u dont really give him a chance... in that 8 months u should say to him earlier that u dont have feeling for him... u should say to him that u dont want him.... as early as now.. and if he dont give up then its his fault!!! hehehehe... cno ba tlga yan!!!!