unappreciated... in need of R&R
December 18, 2007 11:26am CST
I am a SAHM and i always feel like i am never getting the apprciation i deserve for being here and doing all the stuff i do... I never feel like i get any time to myself or just some peace and quiet. What are some of the best ways that are affordable or cheap or cost nothing to make me feel more pampered or relaxed so that i dont feel so stressed out? Does any one else feel like this? How can we get the apreciation we deserve.
• United States
19 Dec 07
yes, i am one of those people who are at their highest stress level today. its been a busy long week, and i still have christmas shopping to do, and groceries to buy for the christmas eve and day parties that we are hosting. i just want to crawl in bed and cover my head.
• Orangeville, Ontario
18 Dec 07
Honestly, get used to it. You can sit your family down and tell them how you feel and ask them for help and maybe things will change. I have been constantly advised to go on strike, even by my own mother (who probably never did such a thing!). I have the added burden of having a chronic illness - chronic pain, chronic fatigue - that still doesn't get me extra help around here, except for floor vacuuming and washing. This is one chore I definitely cannot do. My kids are now 11 and 14. I can't believe my baby is in high school. Where have the years gone? Remember that, before you know it your kids will be grown and gone and you will miss all the racket and laughter. Once the kids are in bed, draw yourself a hot bath, light some candles and relax. If you can afford to get a message once in awhile, go for it. I have massages covered under my insurance (with a note from my doctor) but only $300 per year. With my illness I would feel healthier if I could have one every other week but I can't even have one a month! Ah well, the year is almost over and I can start over again in January... with a new note from the doctor. One thing that I have done since the beginning was emphasize 'please' and 'thank you' with my kids. I even have to do it with my husband. How can I get my kids to do it when their father doesn't? Appreciation is shown to me every time I put a meal on the table. My girls always, always thank me for dinner. My husband follows. And I always thank my husband when he helps me out. A little 'thank you' can go a long way. If you start with the small requests, hopefully, eventually the 'thank yous' will become second nature. Good luck!
• United States
18 Dec 07
I know the feeling. I am a WAH parent myself. The laundry,(did some of that this morning) cleaning, (sometimes it was daily) working from home part time,I know. Stressful x everything. I don't know what you do. I say it out loud and loudly. " I am at a breaking point" or UUgghh! That works too. I've learned to ask. Or at least vent.Another thing. I stop. And play with my kid. The mess will be there tomorrow. She won't be little forever.I stop. I spend time with my hubby. Pay some attention to each other.It helps now that after alot of venting (and honestly arguing) my husband values the work being done, He makes dinner at least 2x a week. He does the dishes once in awhile. Just communicate.