Relationships and Trust
December 18, 2007 9:16pm CST
The word Trust is the basis of all relationships but a small mistake made, can change its entire meaning. Like just a missing 'T' can 'RUST' the relationship! ....Building trust in a relationship takes hard work and commitment. Trust requires that you listen to each other and communicate your needs. Trust requires honesty above all else.It's easy to fall in love with a person you don't trust, but it's hard to live with them. Real, lasting relationships are built on trust. Trust is foundational because it creates a safe environment for intimacy to grow. If your relationship is going to work you need to be able to trust your partner with your past, your present and your future.Trust takes time and effort, is easily broken and hard to restore but if you're willing to work at it, the reward is the relationship you've always dreamed of.If your partner has trouble trusting, you can do a lot to create an environment where trust can grow. Listen to your partner, respect them and their opinions, and accept them as they are. Reveal parts of your own history, show them that you trust them and you will help them to do the same. If you are vulnerable it helps your partner to feel that he is safe to be vulnerable as well. Your comments please.
• Saint Lucia
19 Dec 07
i believe that trust sets the foundation for a relationship. if there is no trust then that's its for me. some people are in relationships and don't trust their partners. example: i met this girl one time who i dated for a while and she always used to take my phone if i left it on the table or somewhere else and she would read my text messages or check my call lists and my contact lists. this relationship had no trust so i had to end it right away. i talked to her so hopefully she won't do it to someone else in the future.
19 Dec 07
Yup! Trust is something a relationship should treasure... A relationship without trust is nothing but just playing around... I may seem so easy.. it is. In fact i've experienced it so many time... well, trust also depends on each other... you must not let him/her feel that she/he should not trust you. Do what you think he/she will never lose trust... if he/she looses his/her trust, try to analyze things, maybe its also your fault coz your neglecting him/her... try to think twice before making a decision... it is not always your partners fault.. ^_^ peace out!
19 Dec 07
Yes Anamika, Trust is like going to the race track and placing your bet. Your chances for loosing is more , but when you will win, you feel great. That great feeling keeps you coming back for the bet. Trust is fragile. It breaks easily and its hard to build again. It feels good when other peoples trust on you. Trust is only the quality, without which a relationship cannot survive. If Trust is an issue in any realtionship, it will keep each other at a distance and not let them get too close even if they are married or in committed relationship.They will never be able to have that kind of realtionship which they want untill they heal the issue of trust.Therefore it is necessary to keep clear and honest communication to maintain trust.
19 Dec 07
I agree with you wholeheartedly--if there is a breach of trust even once in the closest of relationships, there is a permanent scar and relationship can never be the same again. Be it any relationship, not only between husband and wife, between siblings, friends, parent/child, the policy is the same. That is why I have now come to the conclusion that there should be qite a small circle that everyone has, as close relationships. This would make cause for less heart aches .After all it is not possible to trustor expect trust from every transaction and every person we deal with. We should ascertain that we are considered as close to the other person as we consider them to be.I mean we have to keep checking for reciprocity in relationships.
19 Dec 07
thanks a lot for this very meaningful discussion. you are absolutely right that there are so amnay things based on trust. But it is a pity i think that sometimes you trust the person you love with your soul and taht person do not trust you that much. he is doing something else behind your back. so you get hurt from this chaeting. it is not only in love but in every relationship that trust is the thing taht needs to be there.
19 Dec 07
Hello lovelydame3000,Thanks for your discussion and not only the love relationships but every relationship is succesful only and only when there is equal reciprocations from both ends cause even in friendship or relationships with family relatives etc if there is not equal reciprocations the relationship cant be succesful and bacomes atificial itself, trust is ofcourse a very important issue but feelings emotions cooperations, commitment responsibility towards each other etc issues also are very much important and if these things becomes onesided that relationship cant be succesful.Thanks
• United States
19 Dec 07
I have just been through a 5 yr marriage that ended in divorce. We got married young, 18yrs old. She was my first everything, I trusted her with out question. For the last three years of the marriage she had been cheating on me. Needless to say, trust was destroyed and it was never repaired. Since then I have met a wonderful woman, we are very happy. But in the beginning of the relationship, there was a HUGE lie that lasted for a month, the reason for it is still a mystery to me, but we are working on building trust back up.