How would you feel?

United States
December 20, 2007 5:35am CST
How would you feel if your own mother refused to have you as her friend on "my space" ..If all your siblings were "ok" in her book but you were not? I am going through this right now..I have lived my life the best I can. I havent begged for money when I was in need of it and havent committed any crimes..Yet I am not amongst those in my family that are priveleged to be her friend. It saddens me very much.. Just because I choose to live my life my way and refuse to go back "there" ..am I to be left out. It usually doesn't bother me..but during the holidays it does.. Must I send money to get my foot in the door?
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7 responses
@balasri (26549)
• India
20 Dec 07
Be yourself and have faith and confidence in you.There are people who was less privileged than you who has proved that they can come up in life and proove to the world that they are somebody.
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• United States
20 Dec 07
That is true: be oneself..Good piece of advice to ponder over..thanks.
@balasri (26549)
• India
20 Dec 07
I am very glad the way you have taken it my friend.
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• United States
21 Dec 07
It's the best way to take it.
@stcath (24)
21 Dec 07
just be yourself , do everything you wanted to....
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• United States
21 Dec 07
Yes..this is what I am trying to do..that is why I am here miles away instead of there close by..I want to be me, and live my own life..am I to be faulted for that. Begging for love is not part of my profile:) Merry Christmas.
@vanities (11410)
• Davao, Philippines
21 Dec 07
thats sad to know..mother refusing to be a friend to her daughter ..i really cant comment much since i really dont know whats going on to both of them..but i would like to give my opinion as a mother as well..for me im always for me children no matter what happens..since they came from my body and as a mother we should not stop loving then norturing even as they grow older..
• United States
21 Dec 07
I agree.. I don't know exactly.. I do know..that siblings and even extended family are considered worthy of being a friend. My own cousin she calls "my joy" ... Me .. I guess I was a mistake.. therefore..I can't be hers.. Luckily..we have a Heavenly Father and a Mother Jesus gave us as He was dying.
@vera5d (4006)
• United States
20 Dec 07
that sounds very strange...can understand why you might be upset. is she doing stuff on there she doesn't want you to see?? i would try making a profile she doesn't realize is you and see if she'd add you on that way. Sounds like though you really need to have a talk with her...if that doesn't work, it may be difficult, but it may be best to let it go
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@vera5d (4006)
• United States
20 Dec 07
that sounds very strange...can understand why you might be upset. is she doing stuff on there she doesn't want you to see?? i would try making a profile she doesn't realize is you and see if she'd add you on that way. Sounds like though you really need to have a talk with her...if that doesn't work, it may be difficult, but it may be best to let it go
• United States
21 Dec 07
Perhaps..There are so many things I could say of why I think what is going on..but I wont..I simply know I am not on her list of favorite children.
@faith210 (11233)
• Philippines
20 Dec 07
Hi littlefranciscan! I do agree with you that the holidays makes us feel a bit lonelier when we are far away from our love ones. And i would of course be sad if my mother will refused to have me as a friend on "my space". I am sure you have done your best to reach out to your family and I am not sure if sending money to your mother is the best thing to do, personally I feel it is like buying my way to her heart. You are a good person and sooner or later, your mother will see that. However, please know that you have friends here in mylot who really cares for you and who wish you the best in life. Take care and have a nice day! Merry Christmas! :)
• United States
21 Dec 07
Christmas is suppose to be the happiest time of year..but some times it can be the saddest;) I am glad that I try to focus on Jesus. and His birthday..this is what Christmas is all about.
• United States
20 Dec 07
I would feel the same way you do in that situation. I wouldn't send money though. Your family should love and accept you, unconditionally, the way you are. You can't buy love and or appreciation. If your family doesn't accept you for who you are, then that is their loss...In time, they may come to regret it. I feel for you.
• United States
20 Dec 07
Thanks for the very good advice..I have already resolved that I have sent enough money..It never has made them love me any more..it only bought a conditional love that after a day or two disappeared as fast as the money I gave them.