Slipping Through Your Fingers

I've been in a few of those situations, where I've met someone and spoken to them briefly. In the past there have been a few I have wished I had given thought to a relationship with. Since right now I'm already in a relationship, I haven't thought of the recent ones as possibilities in that way, but there are people I have wished I had become friends with. In my case what stops me is my paranoia. I do not give out contact information easily. I don't hand my number to people in bars, or at the supermarket, or wherever. I've come to way too much harm in my life to feel comfortable getting to know people... it takes me a while to feel anywhere near comfortable enough to exchange information of any type. So it's a little hard to create a friendship out of a random conversation if you don't feel safe even giving someone info. The best friendship I had that started from one of these situations that I can think of was a girl I kept meeting at this same beach. The first time we talked for a minute or two. The second time, ten minutes. The third time, almost an hour. Come to think of it, we never did get around to exchanging information, but we hung out on that beach together occasionally for over a year.

Truthfully, wolfie, it's been a long time since I've met anyone like that, but, yes, I think I would at least give them some sign of encouragement. I would hate to miss out on an opportunity to get to know someone who could add some measure of joy to my life.

Yes, my dear, I've had that happen many times. One time specifically comes to mind. I was driving a taxi in my youth and met a man named Steve Lancaster. He ran a pawn shop somewhere in California. Keep in mind this was 15+ years ago! I can't believe that I still remember his name after all this time. I toted this man around Reno for two evenings and remember this completely INTENSE sense of excitement when my dispatcher would radio me to let me know where to go to pick him up. He was tall and slim with this lovely thick dark hair and he dressed so well and smelled wonderful. I remember just being completely infatuated with this man for two days. He left me his business card, which I kept for several years. I remember, even now, with a little catch in my throat, the sense of dread and disappointment that I felt when we parted the night before he left. I felt such a sense of possibilities when I was near him. He was incredibly attractive and kind and I wanted to literally follow this man around like a puppy dog, hanging on his every expression and every word like my life depended on it. That he called ME repeatedly just intensified that a hundred fold. He lived so far away, in Southern California. I never saw him again after that weekend so long ago, yet I can still recall with a catch in my breath that sensation that I experienced when I was near him. I don't know what twist of fate brought he and I so close for such a short time, but I have no doubt that something larger than either of us was behind it. I often think that maybe that was one of the things in my life that kept my sense of romance and hope alive for so long.

no, because i am happily married and while this has happened to me, you have no idea what the other person is like! but once i ran into a guy, and we knew we knew each other - re recognized each other, but we didn't know from where...we just kinda stared at each other...

To be honest honey I don't think I would but having said that when I was younger and single I ALWAYS took those chances - yes I was very forward! lol Even now , although I am rarely out of the house I do try to makew the most of every chance meeting and strike up conversations and appear approachable - as you say that person may be your new friend (I already have my partner!) lol Make the most of every chance sweety - that is what I say! xxx

Oh sweetie..... I wouldn't worry about missed connections.... I what is meant to be will be.... and if the connection was missed.... then it was probably meant to be..... if you're meant to connect with that person.... something else will happen... to cause a connection... so don't give it another thought.... what will be will be... xoxoxo

I have this strange thing about people always telling me that they they have a feeling that they met me before.Even yesterday two china men has come for a business interview.One of them said the same.I am a friendly person.But how don't know how mush this influences people always telling that they have met me before.

I think there are really instances where you feel you are already close to someone who met only for the first time. I have experienced this a few times already. When faced with the situation, I just let be...if there is a conversation between us, the better. :) I guess, that the rule "don't talk to strangers" only apply when the stranger seem to be hostile and you don't feel comfortable with them. But for meeting someone you are instantly comfortable with, that's another story. :)