Why do people get banned from mylot.....not following rules ya think?

Oh i remember now since you meationed it...When we became friends i think it was when i answered your discussion about being banned..I do remember now..Well i really don't know what you have to do,but i know some people can be nasty..I answered a discussion once when this woman wrote in and was just putting her Dad down so bad,he was a jerk, he was mean ,he was this and that,then at the end she said that she and her b/f was not working and had been living with her dad for quite some time..So i told her that they should get a job and move out since they were not happy there,and man she got hot!, she cursed me telling me how stupid i was ,just a really mean person...Well i finally answered her nasty reply with "well you need your dad he does not need you, your b/f and you should get a job,and help out,after all your dad took you in when you had nowhere to go..So you should respect him..By that time her lazy b/f chimed in with his two cents and they was going to report me,i said go ahead you are the one who cursed me out , all i gave you was my opinion and you ask me for it,so go ahead and report it...To make a long story short, i never heard from her again and i do not think they are on mylot anymore...and i was not banned.

I find it interesting, ctry, that you take responsibility for your part in the actions which ultimately led to your having been banned from MyLot for a period of time. I take it that you have heard all the fuss that has arisen over the recent banning of a member. In my search for answers, I have not been able to find one that would explain why admin would ban someone solely on information they receive from another member who might harbor a grudge. I would like to believe that we are all innocent until proven guilty. I think you showed your level of maturity and responsibility well by owning what was yours to own.

I must be missing something. I read discussions about this one or that one getting another member banned. I read about trolls getting discussions removed at their say. I read about stalkers getting other peoples star to fall. What is going on? Please tell me if I am totally mistaken but it is my understanding that with each post we leave an electronic footprint that can be traced by the administrators of Mylot. So for example if member A sends an e-mail to Mylot accusing member B of marking all their discussions with a minus, who would Mylot believe? I hope they would verify by checking the database and only ban or warn member B if they found evidence. Same with stalkers. Would Mylot not be able to verify the electronic movements of an accused person? I hope they would ban a member only on the strength of electronic evidence. Am I naive? I have read discussions where members have said they knew who had their discussion removed. I don't know how and when Mylot decides to remove a discussion. Do they just take it off if someone complains or do they take it off if they the administrators feel it breaches their guidelines. I am with you. This is a decent site and I think we will be happy just to respond to discussions and create some. I posted to this discussion because recently I noticed a lot of talk about trolling stalking and banning. I expect to be vilified for it because I also noticed as soon as one does not agree people get upset. However, I am very fortunate, I have a few friends here who appreciate a good discussion even though we might have opposite opinions. Respect for each other is the key.

I agree with you on this subject, really, People just need to learn how to get along and if something bothers them then just move on to a new discussion that DOESn't offend or bother them. I believe that i have been reported once or twice myself, but have never got banned, but my lil star went down a WHOLE lot lol. It wasnt because iw asn't playing nice, just some silly people didn't like my opinion. Well that was a long time ago. Was your name the same before you got banned ?

Because people can't always separate words from real life emotions. And we get a little braver when we think we have this cloak of anonymity around us. If we encountered these "trolls" in real life most of us would just walk away and ignore them so we didn't have a confrontation and make a scene. But in places like this we think we can get away with bad behavior because it's "only typed" words...but there are real people behind those words and reading those words. I'm glad you learned your lesson lol you are certainly a valued member of the community. I never pictured you for the rule breaker type!

Uh huh, and what of the other worse members/trolls not following the rules themselves (star abuse, tagging abuse, discussion abuse, scams, cheating). I think that should be more of a priority than people simply arguing. This is a discussion site and if people cannot handle a different opinion or view... they are in the wrong place. Worst yet, I think they don't do well in real life either with that kind of mind set. I'll just keep being me. I contribute heaps and bundles to mylot and its members. That should not be taken lightly, and neither should the person doing the beneficial acts.

I am not much of a complainer and have only reported two people because they were very rude to me and the discussion got out of hand. Most of the time I just let it go and get on with life. I have enough to worry about than worrying about what one person said to me. I will tell them how I feel though before leaving it be!

It really is a shame we can't all get along! I mean, I have no problem with someone disagreeing with me as long as they do so respectfully. I owe them the same respect, simple as that. The whole idea of giving out negative ratings and reporting people for stupid, petty things, or worse yet making things up about them, that's worse than middle school behavior in my opinion. You deserve a lot of credit for admitting your mistakes when you were banned before! I'm glad you're back! Annie

I have never been banned yet in this site.But twice or thrice I was so strong in speaking out to writing what was in my mind that it turned out as misinterpretation of rudeness to one who started the discussion.My star rating went down twice but got back to where it was when I clarified my point of view and refrained from answering discussions that I felt so strong and emotional for me. Honestly, I never rated anyone else here yet as negative. Not even once.But as days passed by, I tried learning to respect other people different opinion and not be sarcastic of their answers.