Does your partner have the same taste in novels?

@muscare (3068)
Australia
December 22, 2007 11:46pm CST
Do you both like the same novels, and are able to read and then discuss them after you have both finished, or do they read stuff that you are not interested in? Do you like to talk about your books with others, or rather just move on to the next book once you've finished without sharing the experience? I love sharing my feelings about novels with my wife, and like to 'compare notes'!
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• United States
23 Dec 07
No we both read WAY different kinds of books. I like science fiction/fantasy and he reads ALOT of nonfiction/war time books. I have read many books that I share with others and many that I would never tell anyone about LOL.
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@muscare (3068)
• Australia
31 Dec 07
I have to say that I don't read a lot of nonfiction, but I do love fantasy novels, where I can be transported to a magical world! I'm a little curious about the books that you wouldn't tell people about, those are probably the best of the lot, LOL!
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@sharra1 (6340)
• Australia
2 Jan 08
I love fantasy novels as well. It is nice to transport yourself into a totally different world where magic and fantasy creatures thrive.
@leedug (920)
• United States
23 Dec 07
Not at all, but I wish we did. There are times when he will tell me about a book and vice versa, yet we both are interested in what the other is reading. He likes military and science fictions books, and I like spiritual and true crime books. I have tried before though. I tried to read "Dune" and I just couldn't take it. It is just not my cup o' tea.
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@muscare (3068)
• Australia
31 Dec 07
When your interests are too different, it does make it hard to talk about them. Even if you do, you sort of wonder if they are just feigning interest!
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@rosema (1145)
• Philippines
23 Dec 07
To tell you the truth, my partner and i dont even have read any books. We dont have any interest in it. I dont know why. but we both love watching movies together.
@muscare (3068)
• Australia
31 Dec 07
My wife and I also love to watch movies together, but most times I'd much prefer to pick up a book and read. I guess with movies, at least you do get to do it together.
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@Sharon38 (1912)
• Jamaica
23 Dec 07
I like the books he reads. He is an english teacher so he reads a lot of literature books. For this week alone I have seen him with seven different books and all of them I got a peek at. So I guess we do share the ame interest in books because I love literature and reading although I have not read any books recently exccept having to do with legal writing and research. Merry Christmas
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@muscare (3068)
• Australia
31 Dec 07
Sounds like you both read some fairly full on writing, but at least you enjoy the same stuff. Hope you get some time to get some time to read a novel or two, after (or during) your research!
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@moneyandgc (3428)
• United States
23 Dec 07
My husband and I both love to read. Sometimes we share interests and sometimes we don't. We both read and loved the Harry Potter series and there have been others that we both liked. I usually get a lot of my books passed down from my dad. If I think my husband will be interested I give them to him to read next. We usually talk to one another about the story that we are reading, even if it doesn't suit us to actually read it ourselves.
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@muscare (3068)
• Australia
31 Dec 07
I think there will always be some books that both partners won't both enjoy, but it's the others, like the Harry Potter series that more than make up for that. Knowing what each other likes also makes it easy to decide whether the book you are reading will be handed over to your partner once you are finished. Sometimes, a brief description of the book you are reading is just fine if it is not the others choice of books.
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@monty24 (154)
• India
23 Dec 07
You are so lucky that you got same minned partner.But my man has no interest about any book instead of reading news paper and I am very fond of books so even if I read any of them I just narrate the whole story,he listen and thats all..
@muscare (3068)
• Australia
31 Dec 07
That must be hard, having a partner that doesn't like books. I read the newspaper as well, but would never use it to replace reading novels. At least he listens if you narrate!
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@SViswan (12051)
• India
25 Dec 07
No, we don't. And I don't mind either as long as I am not punished for it..lol The main problem in my case is when we have to buy books for the kids. My husband usually buys what he thinks is the right book and what he enjoyed as a kid. But when I pick out something, he makes some excuse not to pick it up (of course, I do get what I need by doing it on the sly...but I don't like doing it that way). My husband is mainly interested in Hindu mythology and Indian stories that we grew up hearing...but I have been used to the Enid Blytons, Agatha Christies and the English classics. I'm glad my kids are getting exposed to the Indian books too...but I feel that they need to appreciate both. That answers your questions about discussing the books too....no, we don't discuss 'coz we might end up fighting..lol But I do discuss the books I read with other friends who read the same books.
@muscare (3068)
• Australia
31 Dec 07
I think it is harder if you are buying for kids, as just because one likes it, doesn't necessarily mean your child will. That is a good reason for having a variety of genres, so the child can decide for themself! So as you say, they do need to appreciate both, and more. Books aren't meant to be fought about, LOL, and at least you can discuss them with other friends!
@SViswan (12051)
• India
31 Dec 07
My older son loves to read...period. So, I guess it's more important that we get him all genres of books because he would appreciate it. The younger one is too young to be doing any reading. I've found the middle ground and there's no fighting now - lol...especially since my husband hardly does any reading now.
@lbinkley (1075)
• United States
24 Dec 07
My huband and I have complete opposite taste in books, so it is very rare that we ever read the same book... there have been a couple that we both enjoyed though. He got me to read on of his Michael Crichton novels and I really did enjoy that, and it was nice to be able to discuss it with him too. However, that is a VERY rare occurence! lol
@muscare (3068)
• Australia
31 Dec 07
That makes it really difficult to have a discussion about your books when you are the complete opposite in taste! At least there are those very rare occasions that you do read one that you both like. Maybe that makes the discussion even more 'special'!!
• Israel
24 Dec 07
Hardly... My wife almost doesn't read at all... and when she does, it is mostly things that are romantic and... well - I prefer fantasy and Sci-Fi...
@muscare (3068)
• Australia
31 Dec 07
I know what you mean about romantic novels, but my wife isn't really into them. It was bad enough when I was living home with my parents, and I'd go to check out the books and 95% were romance! My wife and I both like fantasy, though!
@kellys3ps (3723)
• United States
24 Dec 07
Before we met my husband had only read 2 books, I got him hooked on reading. We like a lot of the same books, but there are also quite a few we don't have in common. We don't really discuss the books much after we have read them.
@muscare (3068)
• Australia
31 Dec 07
You should feel very proud of yourself, turning you hubby into a reader! I guess everyone is still going to have some different tastes, and if you don't really discuss the books after, it doesn't really matter anyway!
• United States
23 Dec 07
Hi, My man doesn't even like to read, but I love it. I read and he watches TV, so I guess there is are no discussions for us about what I'm reading. I wish he would read so that we could talk about the books, but I don't think that's going to happen...Smile!! I like to talk to others about the books I read because I feel that if they hold my attention, then someone else might like to read them too. ~~Taz~~
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@muscare (3068)
• Australia
23 Dec 07
That's got to be so disappointing for you. Personally, I'm always going to choose reading over watching telly, and mostly watch tv when I'm in a lazy mood and can't be bothered thinking too much!! My wife and I do share the same taste in books, so much so that we share at the same time. I read to her, when we both have the time(which isn't easy with a 5yr old son, lol), and it is so cool to be able to experience a story building together. Maybe this sounds strange, but we enjoy it, lol!
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@blueunicorn (2401)
• United States
23 Dec 07
My husband and I definitely don't have the same taste in books. I find plenty of places to talk about the books I've read, though, so I'm okay with that. I do wish we could read some of the same stuff, but it is interesting when we tell each other what we are reading about.
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@muscare (3068)
• Australia
31 Dec 07
As long as you have others to talk to about your reading, it's not as much an issue that you don't read the same books as your husband. At least you both tell each other what you are reading about!
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@sharra1 (6340)
• Australia
23 Dec 07
My partner and I do share an interest in the same books. In fact he has introduced me to many authors I have not read before and I have shared some with him. I would not say that we both like every book but at least 90%. We read a great number of books from our city library. My partner is a faster reader than I am and he is often a few books ahead of me but if a book is thought provoking, interesting and worthy of discussion we will talk about it after I have read it as well. It is nice to have someone who shares my interests so well.
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@muscare (3068)
• Australia
31 Dec 07
My wife and I are the same, although it is she who is the faster reader. I do read western novels from time to time, and this is one type that she is not really interested in. Mostly though we love the same books, and do love to discuss them!
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