Getting loners to do social activities

I think many people do feel there is something wrong with people who are loners. And i think they are often correct about that -- some people are loners because of depression, shyness, or even serious mental/emotional problems. But there are also people who can enjoy the company of close friends or family, but not big crowds. And there are people who just need time alone to recharge and sort their thoughts. I do like people, and even enjoy being around people to a point, but I MUST have my time alone. I have and can spend years with mainly my own company -- getting enough social interaction during work time, etc. OK, I always have the company of animals, so maybe that is not totally alone! However, I do think it is not healthy for someone to NEVER want to be around ANYONE. But to try to drag people to parties and other crowded places when you know they have never enjoyed that is also not good. Unlike many people who cannot stand to be alone for even a few minutes, I prefer it, and have a very rich thought and prayer life when I am alone more. I have a lot of interests, and plenty to do, so socializing for me is something that I can deal with, and sometimes even enjoy, on a very limited basis, whereas I begin to feel unhealthy and unhappy, if something keeps cutting into my alone time.

in many cases rovian,there is a problem,it is normal for people suffering from depression to be loners,and they do not know they have depression,I know,as I am one of them,I found out only a couple of years ago,when medical science finally acknowledged that it was a medical condition,I have had it all my life,but no one knew what it was,so I was just called slow ( or a few other inflectives). Now that I am taking medication for it,I am much better,but still a loner,I am not cumfortable in in places where there are to many people. I hope I did not bore you,thank's for the discussion and it helps some.