Would you disown your child if

I don't agree w/that 'cos for me whether they accept you or not,deep in side in them they care about you... :-)

I'm sorry to hear about your situation. It doesn't matter how a child comes into the world. A child should not be disowned no matter what they do. In your case, you couldn't help the situation that came about to your birth. You shouldn't be forced to live the consequences of something that you never did. This is so sad to hear! We are all creations of God, every person on this earth. He created us so He could love us and take care of us. No matter what we do, we are still His, and He would never disown us. Your parents should show you the some love God has shown to all people. He would never judge us based on what we have done. We have done so many things wrong. My response to your discussion is based on the fact that God is the ultimate example to everyone. Maybe someday your parents will see! Once again, I'm sorry to hear about your situation, but I hope that I can be a help to you.

Perhaps, littlefranciscan, you can speak to your mother about how you feel about this. Maybe she is not quite aware of how her behaviors affect you. If what you say is true and the circumstances of your birth have always troubled her, she may appreciate someone to talk to about it - or may appreciate that you are old enough to listen to her on this subject now. If you can explain that you're trying very much to understand these circumstances from the past and that you feel no resentments toward her no matter how you came to be born, then perhaps this will ease how troubled your mother feels about the past, too.

No I would never disown any of my children! Frankly, I do not see how anyone could. Children also are NOT accidents. They are loved by God no matter what. please hold your head up. I am single with 3 children and 1 on the way and I do not feel as though my children are accidents. I got pregnant with this baby on the birth control pill and did not want anymore children. I already love this baby even though it is not yet born. I just take it as another gift from god. Please have a Merry Christmas and remember that God loves you :)

God says you have to forgive, but you dont' have to go back for more. I went through something similar with my mother in law. She didn't like me at all - whyI don't have a clue. I tried for years to get her to like me, find out why she didn't(she didn't even really like her son either) But she wanted my daughter, not my son, just daughter. She then got mad cause i wouldn't give her my daughter to raise the way her other son did his daughter. And I made myself a wreck trying to figure it out and be nice and cover for my kids as to why their grandmother never came ove nad then to the kids forwhen they wondered why she liked my daughter and didn't like my son. Why she bought my daughter a nice new toy, and a broken one that really wasn't even a little boys toy for my son. When my daughter noticed that and asked me about it (I don't remmeber what I told her) and then she said, "well, I'm going to give him part of my gift." That tore me apart! it finally literally gave me an ulcer! Once I finally got the ulcer under control and talk with mypastor - and he said you have to forgive, but you don't have to go back for more. I did that and it never bothered me again! I told her we were a package deal. YOu take us all 4 or you dont get any of us. She never contacted me again! My advise to you is to not let it bother you to the point of illness like I did. Those ulcers are hideous. The situation was literally eating me up from the inside out! YOu do the right thing on your end and she is the one that will have to answer to God in the end.

NO ABSOLUTELY not NEVER EVER, it is right to love your babies no matter what.

Don't you think that the adult should make their decisions based on their beliefs? Why would they wish to have a child in a way that is unacceptable to the church if they believe in the church's practices? I think that's irresponsible. I'm not against the church or anything. I feel that bringing a child into this world is an important decision and it should not be taken lightly. If the parent (or parents) know that they are doing something unacceptable (in their own eyes), they have no right to bring a child into this world and then disown it later.

OMG littlefranciscan that is terrible! BUT unfortunately I can relate in the biggest way...not so much because my 'mother' had me in an unacceptable fashion..I was adopted..BUT I did NOT become her pawn or puppet and let the world know eventually what our family was REALLY about and I've not been accepted, treated equally or respected etc etc since I was just a kid...the older I got the worse it got and after I had kids she has tried to carry her hatred over to them simply because they are an extention of me ya know... Parents (and I use that term loosely with ppl like that) make me absolutely sick to my stomach in the worst of ways..... Its hard living with that sort of burden (for lack of a better way of putting it) BUT don't let HER or her actions define you...DEFINE YOURSELF...make sense??

no i would never do this. it is very nad the way your mom treats you. she should remember that for her only you have come to this world, not on your own wish.

Your mother needs to get her head out of her a$$. The powers that be ( god , gods or whatever )gave her a gift in a child. Now she shuns you because the ORGANIZATION she belongs to says it's unacceptable. Is mistreating family & others what they realy want to portray? Not a religion worth following in my opinion.

The Church never considers the child as the sin. If the act or means of becoming pregnant were sinful the sin is the act and the sinner the one/s who partook of the act, not the blessing which the Good God permitted to come about from that act. No, I do not think that is a reason to abandon or shun a child. perhaps your mother can not face her own past?

No, I will never do that! That's my children. I love them, nurture them and educate them.

Greetings Precious One, First let me say that there are NO ACCIDENTS when it comes to the birth of a child. God has created you fearfully and wonderfully made in HIS IMAGE. (Psalm 139:14) God has a purpose for your precious life whether anyone else acknowledges it or not. Your Mom may be experiencing some guilt or shame with relation to how you were conceived. It is important for you to know that you are loved by God if by no one else. You are very valuable to Him. Don't judge the church or get bitter because of what they are saying. Focus on a personal relationship with God yourself through His Son Jesus Christ. He will show you love and make you feel loved even when your family does not. Rejection is not easy to deal with but you can overcome it and become what God intended you to be. Be encouraged, especially in the Christmas season. There was a little babe that was born in a manger just for you and He is the Son of God that is praying for you everyday. You will find answers to your brokenheart through the love of God.

No.. that's just terribly wrong. Why should you feel as though your worthless just because of the way church thinks?

I'm sorry to hear this. I think all good parents would let a silly thing cause trouble for them, your mother should allow things to get in the way. I'd hate for this to happen to me and you have friends that care about you, hopefully you'll be able to build something if she allows you. ~Joey

not really into religion anymore, I wouldn't do that. if your mother is a religious person, she had her own self to blame by having a child in a way her religion doesn't accept. how would the child know this before he or she is even brought into this world? Unless it's rape or crime of some sorts, the mother may do this just because the child would remind her of what happened, even that there is still hope to reunite when she mentally and emotionally gets better.

i accept the child. it's not the child's fault, and i am a GOD fearing type of person... just try not to think negatively, make yourself worthy after all it's your life not theirs. you are the architech of your life.

The church can go to hell. The church is supposed to be forgiving. The church is supposed to love all. The church is supposed to be non-biased and yet I hear stories all the time about people being disowned by the church, shunned by the church and turned away by the church. Forgive me, but any object that has that big of a control over my life does not belong in my life. I know the church has beliefs and we are supposed to follow them, but do you honestly think that every person under the sun has followed every rule the church ever made up? No. They haven't.