Only one who receive gift certificate -sort of a coupon on somethings

@suspenseful (40312)
Canada
December 26, 2007 8:29am CST
I do not make that much, I only have my Canada Pension, and so I could not afford to get much for all. Yet when the exchange of gifts went, my husband got presents that he could use, so did my sons to each other and my daughter=-in-law to us, etc. but I got these gift certificates that were so much off on books, so much off on Cds, etc, plus the first one free of a club, plus one free movie on my birthday. I took out most of my money less $100 out of my regular savings account to buy presents. Is it because I did not spend enough? My husband gave me a wonderful gift and my younger son gave me a toiletry set because I cannot buy the shower soaps and regular soaps from the store as I am allergic to chemical perfumes, but how am I going to make enough money to buy the books and cds I have the gift certificates to? What did I do wrong?
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@Lakota12 (42678)
• United States
26 Dec 07
you did nothing wrong! and the ones that gave you this know that you are on a pension So they shouldhave bought gifts certs. that would cover it all they are the ones that are thoughtless.!
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@suspenseful (40312)
• Canada
26 Dec 07
My husband says he will pay for the stuff, but well one of them is for some Cds, and I like classical, and he does not, so there is going to be a conflict there. I mean he got the DVDs, and I was hoping for a gift card from Future Shop or Walmart.
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@Lakota12 (42678)
• United States
27 Dec 07
dod what ya have to with the cards and be glad he will pay for the extra amount he dont have to listen to them he probably dont listen to your music any how .
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@suspenseful (40312)
• Canada
27 Dec 07
I use my headphones when I listen to my CDs. He doesn't when he plays his.
@carmelanirel (20976)
• United States
26 Dec 07
I hear you suspenseful, I think it's time to ban Christmas...lol
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@suspenseful (40312)
• Canada
27 Dec 07
I love Christmas. I just feel that Christmas should last longer, and that people should give gifts that the other person enjoys or wants, not what they think they would want, and not that they would not dare use because it would be too expensive to use. Besides I am a practical person, I give gifts that they will use again and again, not something that runs out.
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• United States
27 Dec 07
Oh yeah, you ought to read about my poor daughters Christmas that I started. She at 18 got a miniature remote control car just because she likes mustangs....
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@suspenseful (40312)
• Canada
27 Dec 07
With my luck, if I expressed any interest in a Porsche, I would receive a dinky toy version of one or a painting and it would be a reproduction. :)
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@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
26 Dec 07
I can tell you exactly where you are going wrong. You are forgetting to be grateful. Think about the people who did not even eat for Christmas. Think about the people who were in hospitals clinging to life. We have to go back to the way we use to celebrate Christmas. Christmas use to be about giving thanks to God for sending his son Jesus to save us from our sins. Did you do this yesterday or were you to busy worrying about how you were going to come up with more money to spend on yourself.
@suspenseful (40312)
• Canada
26 Dec 07
I love Christmas. I just think that it would have been cheaper to get me a gift card. Then I do not have to spend over $100 to get a savings of 20 percent. I got a tablecloth and it did not cost that much, and some toiletries that I needed because I am allergic to chemical perfumes, and that probably only cost $20. You see I grew up with my family who decided that if I spent $10 on their gifts, that is all they would spend on mine so I saw some get real good gifts because they were able to pay more. Should I get less because someone else is poor and in a hospital? Should I not give birth to children so some woman in some country can have five kids? I want to be treated fairly. My husband will pay for the books and the cds, and the movie tickets, I only make $86.88 a month on pension, not $500, not $200, not even $100. If my husband passed, and before his pension came through, I would be in the same situation as those poor people. And those poor people did not have someone in their village who was as rich as Krosus.
@Modestah (11188)
• United States
27 Dec 07
Rozie, what a wonderful post you made here. It speaks volumes of a lesson many of us, myself included, would do well to take to heart and learn from. There is an old cliche' I like that perhaps you will also it tells us to: "Give without remembering, Receive without forgetting"
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@suspenseful (40312)
• Canada
27 Dec 07
First, I know all about Christmas, and there is a message that one can tell the other person. I went to Church in the morning, and the gift opening was before supper at my son and daughter-in-law's place. We usually give practical gifts that we would not buy ourselves because we feel it is a bit much so at Christmas we splurge. So we gave our sons tool sets, and our daughter-in-law an electric wok that was something they would use. None of us give silly gifts like crazy ornament flower holders, remembrance rings, or poorly made gifts. We are not that rich, and all I can afford to do is to give my tithes at church, and small coins for offerings and I cannot afford taking time off from writing. You think I am complaining because I did not get a diamond tierra or some nonsensical gift. I just wanted something simple. A gift card for $25 would have been better. The coupons and everything was $30, so why not have enclosed a $30 gift card from Walmart? As for the movie ticket, if I got a free one for my birthday, my husband would pay for his own and we would go together. Do you see the situation it puts me in? He might want to see "The Golden Compass" because he does not think it is harmful and I do not.
@blackbriar (9080)
• United States
26 Dec 07
Check out these 2 sites. Maybe you can swap them for something you can actually use or even cash. http://giftcardbuyback.com/ http://www.swapagift.com/ I've never received the kind of gift certificates that you mentioned. Always preloaded gift cards and most times for stores I shop at. If I happen to receive one that I know I'll never use, I give it to someone who can use it.
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@suspenseful (40312)
• Canada
26 Dec 07
Maybe my husband will buy the stuff. I know I cannot afford to do so. there is one for a movie and I do not want to go alone. I hardly go to movies and I want to make sure it is one that I will like. I always received gift cards and preloaded gift cards, not $10 off one thing, $10 off another thing, and the things cost $50 each.
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@writersedge (22577)
• United States
27 Dec 07
$10 off and $50 each, ouch!
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@suspenseful (40312)
• Canada
27 Dec 07
I learned it is from Zellers and in cooperation with Cineplex. The trouble is it also has an HBC coupon, and if I use my HBC credit card I get double points, but if my husband uses his Mastercard Credit card we only get the ordinary points, so I guess I will leave that one until March. And if I use my credit card for the others, I will still get points. So either my husband pays for the stuff and no points or I have to wait until later,and I do not make that much.
@slickcut (8141)
• United States
26 Dec 07
You did nothing wrong .They just was not fair with you.It does not matter what you spent on anyone, i give gifts to all and it does not matter if they give or not.i am sorry that they did you this way,that was mean of them.You are their mom and they did you wrong..You did nothing to deserve that, and i am sorry.
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@suspenseful (40312)
• Canada
27 Dec 07
My husband says it was for both of us, but I wondered because the movie certificate for a birthday was for only one. It is just that I cannot afford to buy the things the gift certificates are for and if my husband buys it, well he would want to get what he wants ---you know, men stuff, like tools, drills, saws, etc. the type of music and books he likes.
@elemental69 (1562)
• Ireland
26 Dec 07
I dont think that you did anything wrong.... I think that people gave you these gifts because they thought that you would appreciate them. If someone knows that you are a singer and that you like to read or write, then they will think that a gift voucher for music cds would be better than buying you a cd that you would have no interest in. :-)
@suspenseful (40312)
• Canada
26 Dec 07
I would have appreciated a gift card. They are worth from $25 up to $100, and I still have one from last year so I could combine both.
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@winky73 (1396)
• United States
26 Dec 07
I don't think you did anything wrong.....people sometimes just don't think when they give things to others.I would go and list the things on ebay if you can.....maybe you can make a few bucks back that way. I'm really sorry you got such thoughtless gifts.
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@suspenseful (40312)
• Canada
26 Dec 07
I thought I did, because I was not able to afford what I wanted to give to my younger son. He was the one who gave the certificates. My husband will probably pay the extra money, but right now he is paying for the trip we had in September and the cruise we had in August, so it hurts.
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@kareng (29895)
• United States
26 Dec 07
That seems to be inconsiderate of the ones who gave you those gifts....not to mention tacky. I can see how you feel hurt over this. A coupon for money off when you buy something is not a gift. You might want to return the so-called gifts with a note or tell them personally that you can't afford to spend any money after the holidays for these kind of things since you just spent all your savings buying gifts. Tell them you appreciate the thought but this just isn't useful to you. I would be tempted to not buy for them next year. You could also give them a gift of the same kind and see how they feel...that should get the message across. I know the thought is in giving but this just seems to be a hurtful situation.
@suspenseful (40312)
• Canada
26 Dec 07
My husband said it was for both of us, but there was a free movie for one birthday, and even so, he could have given a gift card for Future Shop or BestBuy or Walmart. It is not as if we liked different movies. We both love the same types of movies, we like adventure, and we both use DVD-Rs and CDrs, and that would have cost less. Now we have to go to at least four different stores and decide.
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@maddysmommy (16232)
• United States
27 Dec 07
I don't think you did anything wrong suspenseful. Your family didn't think hard enough to buy you something of importance or meaningful or something you can use over and over again. I might of given the gift certificates back and said that I can't afford to use the certificates and that maybe someone they know might be able to.
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@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
28 Dec 07
Pesonally, I would just have been grateful that they gave me a gift. Giving is not really about giving a person what they want, but what you want them to enjoy. If she does not like the gift, she can give it to someone else. If she came to me complaining about a gift that I gave her, it would be the last thing she would ever get from me. If nothing else, throw them in the trash. But, don't go hurting the feelings of the buyer. Who knows, they might not have been able to afford a gift for this person. They could have given away one of their gifts, that they really appreciated. You never know what a person is dealing with or why they do what they do. That is why it is safe to just be grateful and move on.
@meme0907 (3481)
• United States
22 Jan 08
Hey s, I don't think you did anything wrong-probably those coupons & gift certificates were all ppl could afford & they didn't want to come empty handed. +'s |:)
@chrislotz (8200)
• Canada
2 Jan 08
We have a family draw for gifts in our family. Everyone buys one gift and then we draw names and pick a gift from the pile. Instead of opening the gift you can trade it with one that someone else already opened and then they open the gift you picked. This goes on till everyone has a gift so you can end up having your gift traded several times. We, my hubby and I, brought as our gifts, two gift certificates from Sobies grocery store. They got traded several times, seems like everyone wanted one. But they are gift cards that a person doesn't have to spend any money to redeem them. I am surprised by the gift cards you got. You only get money off when you buy something! That is a weird gift card. I feel for you. I don't know why someone would buy that kind of gift card, or did they get them for free.
@LittleMel (14033)
• Canada
27 Dec 07
I know what you mean. those are discount coupons, not gift cards. I mean gift cards are something you can use to shop and not paying a dime as long as it's within the card limit. but a 20% off means you still have to spend the 80%, not a good idea for gifts. even these coupons may not work on some expensive items, or the store will just raise the price before applying the discount, as usual. we got a $ 50 gift cards for grocery and ended up paying $ 48 more because it's available only in expensive grocery store, but if we don't buy everything there we could've just shopped and paid nothing
@ElicBxn (61143)
• United States
27 Dec 07
If you got these from family members or very close friends, I would gather them together - at the same time. Explain that while you are grateful to get these things, that you can not use them. And then return them. Let them understand how thoughtless they have been, that you don't want to waste their money, but unless they care to give you enough to get an actual book or cd, then you can't accept their, so called, gifts. I got a $100 gift certificate for a shoe store where I knew the shoes were going to cost over $100 - heck, I'd've been happy with less than that. But I was able to go over and get my shoes yesterday (they won't come in for a couple of weeks because I wanted a style they don't carry in house) and it only cost me an addition $40 bucks. I also got $20 at a book store I love to go to. These are not so much off books, I get those things in the mail! So, while it seems rude, it is even more rude to give someone on a fixed income things as useless as those. Take the bull by the horns & EXPLAIN to them how thoughtless their ideas of gifts to you were. You many not get anything next year - but at least you won't be hurt by things you can't use. Or maybe they will improve their gift giving, the skin flints.
@larskie23 (866)
• Philippines
27 Dec 07
Maybe you can sell your gift certificates to other people who you think will be of use to them.
@Katlady2 (9920)
• United States
27 Dec 07
I don't think it's YOU that's doing anything wrong. It's the people doing the giving that aren't being very considerate. I mean, gift certificates? For discounted prices? What kind of gift is that? Honestly, even though this might sound a little harsh, I would return them with a card stating that I am unable to utilize these at this time, and please use them yourselves or give them to someone else that can afford to use them. Don't request them to apologize or give you something to replace them....just let it go at that and see what happens. Maybe next time they will use their heads a little more wisely and be more considerate of your feelings.
@writersedge (22577)
• United States
27 Dec 07
You received coupons, so you have to buy stuff? Wow! My family knows I really can't afford to even pay all my bills this year. So they gave me gifts or gift cards. I gave a gift certificate to one couple because their DVD player hasn't shown up yet, it's backordered. I wanted to buy a cheap DVD, but they keep back ordering and now it will be March before it comes. So they wouldn't be able to play the DVD and it might not work by then. So the gift certificate was for 2 DVD movies, whenever the darn thing comes in. They don't have to spend money, they're only to a video/dvd rental place, but they get to borrow 2 whenever the darn thing comes in. It sounds like your husand and younger son were very thoughtful. I also must have special soaps without perfumes because I have rosacea. I don't think you did anything wrong. Maybe they thought you bought all that stuff anyway and they wanted to help you be able to afford it better. Maybe they ran out of money for presents. I had a rough time trying to buy for everyone who was buying for me this year. I would have run out of money, but NY State sent my STAR exemption (a refund on taxes, small one) in time for me to finish up Christmas and to make one repair on my car that will make it easier to drive. This was a rough year for me. Usually I have either time or money. If time, but no money, I make gifts. If money, but no time, then I buy gifts. This year, thanks to my accident, I had neither time nor money. Too much time at Drs offices and too much money in gas going to them. So I prayed that some money would come in and it did. I hope I never have another year like this one. If more money hadn't come in, I don't know what I would have done. I still had my husband and one of my brothers to buy for. That's the only thing I can think of, people were tapped out. How do you make enough money to buy the books and cds you have certificates to? I don't know. If I had been given coupons, I would be stuck, too. But we are still both better off than someone who came to me today and said she gave presents to all her family and no one gave her anything, not even a card. Maybe giving each person a hint about one inexpensive book that each one could buy or one CD. Maybe because you have so many interests, they were overwhelmed? You do have an incredible number of interests and so many books you'd like to read. I don't know. I'm only guessing, without asking them, there is no way to know. Take care
• United States
26 Dec 07
you picked cheapiends ! dont buy the books if you cant afford them!