Long Distance Love.

December 26, 2007 7:25pm CST
I am currently in a relationship (we have our 2yr anniversary next month) and we have never lived in the same city, though he is currently making plans to move to my home town. I was just wondering if anyone else has experience with long distance love, and what are some of your ideas and tips for staying connected when in relaity you are so far away. :0)
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• United States
28 Dec 07
Some of the things that I would do in order to keep the long distance love strong is try to visite them as much as possible. Maybe phone talks every day on the phone will help as well. Hopefully eventually, you all will grow together physically by either "they" moving to the same city as you, or you moving into the same city as "they".
• Philippines
27 Dec 07
long distance? hmm... thats hard.. but good luck to you.. my last rel was a long distance.. we didnt make it.. we were busy but he was twice busy as i am.. nwe, its over now.. so i say goodluck to your rel.. always have an open communications ok.. God bless n tcare3 mmwuahc".)
• United States
27 Dec 07
If you have been dating for 2 years then you seem to have a pretty good relationship. Just keep talking as much as possible. And always be honest with each other. Good luck!
• Italy
27 Dec 07
personally i don't belive in long distance love...i've tried some years ago, but after few months it's broken up....living in different cities don't permitt to share important emotion that telephon can't...but different cases have different solutions...so good luck!!!!!!!!
• Malaysia
27 Dec 07
i was in log distance relationship for a year.we lived in the same country but only different states.then he went australia to study.so we only communicate thru phone calls,text messages and msn.it was quite hard also. but our relationship didn't last very long.because it needs a lot of trust and honesty to each other.it all started with small misunderstandings.in order to stay connected you must cooperate with each other.both of you must understand at times he would not be there when you needed him as distance makes it far apart. you must completely trust and be honest with each other.if i started with a small misundertandings explain it properly rather than dragging it.you must tolerate with each other too and try not to be over controlling on him.i think the best way is try to meet at least once per year.other times you can just use webcam to chat through msn. it is good since you managed to keep up the relationship for 2 years.best of luck in that.
@fanji008 (782)
• China
27 Dec 07
Hi,there! Long distance love nowadays is somehow not that uncommon.But it's really hard to keep the two so close with each other.We sometimes say"distance causes beauty",but actually distance also causes distance.So I think it's very important for the two to understand each other and stand in each other's position to think about the things.Fights will only do harm to the relationship,so it's better to communicate very openly with each other and always try to find ways to let the other one feel the love and feel happy with the affection:) If it's possible,you'd better see each other more often.I think finally it's better to come up with a way that you two be in the same place and really be together.Best wishes for you guys and have a nice day^_^
27 Dec 07
i also have been in a long distance love.we became lovers when we are in high school,and then we went to different universities for our own study.we keep in touch with each other on-line,use mobilephone to sent messages.sometimes i feel so lonely when he is not beside me,to make things from bad to worse is that we live in the different city,there is only two chances for us to meet each other,summer and winter holidays.so what i can do is nothing but keep him in my heart.
• China
27 Dec 07
Actually, nowadays a lot of people experience long distance love. It is common. Wish you happy.
@nengs10 (3188)
• Philippines
27 Dec 07
I was in a relationship like this. It was very hard really. We never see each other; we never even met together. But what kept us together was the faithfulness and trust to each of us. I really admire my partner for sacrificing just for the sake of our love to last.
• Philippines
27 Dec 07
I was in a long distance relationship and from my experience, constant communication is the key for making it work. You should be able to keep in touch on a frequent basis. We are lucky that in this time, we now have emails, IM's and cellphones that facilitates faster communication. Imagine the old days when all they had were love letters. (But it's also sweet to receive letters through snail mail every now and then). The trust and commitment make the relationship really strong. However, with long distance relationships, you should have a specific time frame on when you'd be joining each other because long-distance romance does not work forever. Someone has to move and join the other person in the long run. Regular visits is also needed while you're on that kind of set up. I hope it works out for you guys. Cheers!
@dlsheng (136)
• China
27 Dec 07
i am long distance love too,it's sweet and grievous. i have no plans to move to her city,she wouldn't think the problem so we use the vacation or business trip to meet each other.
@zhwbeast (328)
• China
27 Dec 07
I had a long destance love for two years when study in the college. When we become lovers we are studying in diffirent college from two states.We just have about four chances could see each other,at summer and winter holidays and two long vacations between study.And what makes things worse is that our family both in the diffirent city.But now she become my fiance. The best advise I give you is keep in touch with him,by the ways of telephone,MSN and other tools.I rhink sending messages is also a good way to connect.For example,we often sended messages and did not delete it.When one of us was busy and the other was in memory,we could taste love from the messages in our mobilephone.:) The most important thing is that we must remember there is a partner of you in other city.
@Estina54 (389)
• United States
27 Dec 07
I had many pen pals, there are on line relationships I kept in touvh with for about 2 years, but we did not celebrate anniversaries. We share thoughts, greeting cards, pictures and we have never seen each other in person.
@dreamy1 (3815)
• United States
27 Dec 07
I was in a long distance relationship for almost a year. We lived in different countries. We met in the same country but he moved to another country to go to school. We chatted every day online, used webcam, text messages, phone. It's possible to have a long distance relationship if both people are committed to it. He moved back to the states and I followed him about three months later. Now I'm back home for a few months so you could say I'm in a long distance relationship again. We've been together a little more than three years.