Long Engagement

I have always stressed on long time relationships, commitment and bondage. I feel we would live a futile existence if we do not cater to this. I have strongly lived upto this and happiness has taken care of itself. I did not have to try that hard. Smiles..

Hi glitzpurple,Long engagements= more time to plan the wedding, but you have to wait longer to be married. Helpful if you want a larger, more elaborate wedding or a popular date or month. And sometimes one needs to wait longer b/c of life circumstances.You have to figure out how much time you need/want, based on your own life circumstances, and how much time you want for planning a wedding. If you want to elope or go to a justice of the peace, it's feasible to have a short engagement of a few weeks. If you want a 200+ guest Cinderella wedding on a popular date, you may need up to 18 months for planning.Weddings are expensive and I would rather spend our engagement saving for a long time then being in credit card debt after the wedding if we were to have a short engagement.It all depends on what your lifestyle and your expenses are. I don't think anyone should jump into marriage too quickly. Everyone likes the idea of having a husband or wife, but it's important to make sure you really love that person before making those vows for the rest of your life. I've always heard that a great wedding takes a good year to plan.

After three marriages each, we both decided we would have the longest engagement in history lol. When we talked about marriage, we decided that if we were still together (which it looks like we will be) in 35 - 40 years, then we would get married, taking in to consideration that we could find a wheel-chair accessible church and still hear the preacher! LOL

No, I do not trust long engagement. I think the engagement is self-delusion manner, you believe it, okay , it exist. If you do not believe it, it just a sentence, just a form. But it's up to you. Different people different ideas.