college?boyfriend?live together?
By milondali07
@milondali07 (334)
United States
December 31, 2007 10:37am CST
Here's my deal. My boyfriend and I have been together for about 3 years now, we're so close, we've made each other more responsible, and we've helped each other so much in our lives. I'm not about to get pregnant, we're a lot older than we are. He lives by himself and he pays his own bills, he has a job, we have money saved so when I'm ready to go to college we could both go in Texas together because, my parents live in Canada and he lives in Florida. We just moved to Canada from Miami, 4 months ago! So, around April, I'm planning on going to Florida. God's willing our plans will work out. The only problem is my mom, she doesn't want us to live together. She doesn't control me, I just feel kind of bad. I just want to know what is your opinion on this? Has anyone ever done this before and not been married? I mean, 3 years.. We're not ready to do anything but college, we're not planning to mess that up either.
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7 responses
@proudmamma1 (40)
• United States
1 Jan 08
I think if your ready then do it. I'm only 17 and i've been with my boykfriend for almost 3yrs and we have a 14 month old som together and my mom wouldnt get it through her head that i wasnt going to stop seeing him and she kept promising me we would be able to live to gether and it never happend so i finally ran away from home and moved in with my boyfriend and i believe it to be one of the best decisions i've made that may sound horrible but its true you can only do what your gut is telling you to
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
1 Jan 08
hi hon. oh, i have 4 daughters. three of them are adults now and all have done things that I do not agree with. I've told them all that they will know that they are really grown when they do what they want regardless of my opinion.....i will always have one. Live your life as you see fit. You sound like a very smart and responsible girl. Mom mite not approve of your choices but one thing I'm sure of is that she will still love and respect you. Even if it turns out that your choice is wrong, i guarantee, mom will be there for you. She just wants what is best for you.
@asgtswife04 (2475)
• United States
1 Jan 08
I've tried the living together thing and it really didn't work out for me, but that is because i always felt guilty about it being a Christian and strongly believing in saving yourself for marriage. I went through my rebellious times though and found that it really wasn't worth it, nor did it work out for us. My husband and I waited on everything until we were married and it really helped us because neither of us had ever took the time to do what was right before. It made our relationship stronger, instead of tearing us apart. I'm not saying that that is for everyone. You may move in and everything be fine. That's just how my story went. You do what you feel in your heart is right to do. Everyone else, in time, will eventually come around again even if it hurts them in the beginning. YOu just have to follow your heart on this one. Good luck and keep us posted! God bless
@islandrose (686)
• Philippines
1 Jan 08
Hi!
If you are Christian, we have an obligation to follow the sacraments installed to us, like sacrament of marriage. Maybe your mom is thinking about this and she is not comfortable with living together. why mix your life with college life and living together? What if you become pregnant, gives birth...you will miss your college classes because you will have a child to take care too. This is just a suggestion, dear milondali07.
@jete2828 (22)
• United States
11 Jan 08
I think that you should explain to your mom that you are being responsible and that you are focused on your education but do want to live with your bf. I mean it's not as if you just met the guy. If she doesn't understand than tell her that you are doing what is right for you at this time and I am sorry you don't feel this way.
@praykin (350)
• United States
1 Jan 08
Well the decision is ultimately YOURS but your mom can have her own "suggestions" and that's all she can have is a "suggestion". You and your boyfriend will have to live with whatever decisions you both make but I don't see a problem with it. I remember my mom saying "you have to live and learn because no one else can make you live the life that THEY want and CAN'T have." Just have fun and enjoy your life because you're only young once in your life. I wish you the best and good luck in all that you decide to do.
