Practice What You Preach!!!!!!
By Rozie37
@Rozie37 (15499)
Turkmenistan
December 31, 2007 11:34pm CST
Matthew 7:1 says, Judge not, that you be not judged. For with the judgement that you judge you shall be judged. Now, I have an ex-friend who is a different religion than I am. I will not mention what it is, because I do not believe that it is important to the topic.
The point is, as long as we remained friends, whenever she heard me say a curse word, she would go bullistic. We would not talk for a while, then I would forgive her and we would be friends again. She would literally go off and embarrass me in front of my friends.
She would speak as loud as she could and say things like, you call yourself a Christian and you are cursing like that. You have a filthy mouth. You know that God don't like that kind of talk and you are going to hell, blah, blah, blah, yada, yada, yackity, smackity.
So finally, I decided that the only way that I could keep her from doing this to me was to just leave her alone altogether. It worked very well. Then tonight, she was ranting and raving at some guy that lives here. Apparently, he smokes too close to her apartment and she is fed up with smelling the smoke.
This is the part that shocked me. She said, I hope they kick your a$$ out of here, because I am tired of your sh*t. I was shocked at first to say the least. Then I became angry. This holier than thou creep. I was just livid. At first I started to say something to her about it. Then I thought, what's the use, I knew she was human just like everyone else.
I am not saying that I am okay with profanity, I am working on my mouth, but for her to act like that toward me and then turn around and cuss like that. I was stunned, but other people say she cusses like that all the time. I wanted to go up and belt her in the mouth. Instead, I will just continue to stay away.
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@vera5d (4005)
• United States
1 Jan 08
sadly most people i meet are like that...
i really hate going to church for that very reason...you all sit together & pray during church, but the minute it is over people are running you over to get out the door and fighting in the parking lot about being blocked in.
my mother-in-law especially drives me nuts with things like this...she is the kind of person who will cut in line in front of someone in a wheel chair to be the first in line...she also steals like crazy - I won't go out to eat with her - she steals food off the buffets & puts in her pockets, ketchup bottles, silverware, she takes things from your car or house. She lies to so many people about a lot of things, tries to trick others...I could probably get her arrested if I wanted to, but I don't want to be the one to do that, lol, the rest of the family would probably get pretty mad at me!...despite all these very "un-christian" things she does, she drags us to church every sunday & gets real upset when i don't go. then, while we are there, she does not even participate in the mass.
the best thing to do is just ignore what they say...i did a lot of customer service over the years, so i am good at letting roll off my back...the only person i have to deal with is the mother in law, thankfully hubby handles her most of the time as he recognizes how insane she is :)
@dixie5150 (129)
• United States
9 Jan 08
As christians we can only change the things God convicts our heart of. And thankfully He doesn't tell us we need to be perfect the minute we accept Him in our lives. So as long as I am pleasing the Lord I can't worry about what someone else thinks of me. But neither can I look at their faults, that is also in the hands of our Lord. There is no certain way a christian should act. We all have different convictions.
God bless
@Shaun72 (15959)
• Palatka, Florida
1 Jan 08
That makes me mad. I always say and there is a verse in the bible that says Thou shall not judge others less ye judge yourself. So for her to try to judge you then turn around and cuss. She is just trying to make you feel bad for something she already does herself. I never talk about others sins or embarrss others because I know I am not perfect I cuss at times and I went back to smoking. I hate others that judge others. I feel like and know only God has the right to judge me, you and everyone else here in this world he created.
@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
1 Jan 08
I think that this is why God allowed me to be exposed to so much in my life. When people start telling me about their problems and showing me the real them, it does not affect me at all. I love for people to be themselves around me. It makes me feel happy.
With all that I have experienced in my life, I feel like I am the last person in this world to judge anyone else. If more people would stop pointing the finger and start looking in the mirror more often, this world would be a much better place to live in.
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@Stiletto (4579)
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1 Jan 08
The religion aspect of it is really irrelevant I think. The fact that she embarassed you in front of friends etc for ANY reason is the real issue here. That is a very strange way for a friend to behave! If it makes you feel better I guess you could point out to her what a hypocrite she is but personally I would just leave it alone. She doesn't sound like she's worth the effort really.
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@sigma77 (5383)
• United States
1 Jan 08
I am hardly an expert. but I do not think a Christian is defined by how much they do or don't cuss or use foul language. Words are only an expression of something. When you really think about it, using cuss words or four letter words often makes such silly sense that how they are used makes no sense at all. Like when you say, "I am Tired of Your Sh*t". Think about what that is really saying. In real terms, defining it makes no sense. I hardly think God condemns anybody to/for anything. And especially not for cussing, which is only the use of language. I don't like to use those kind of words, but that does not make me bettter than anyone else or better in God's eyes, I don't think.
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@DJ9020 (1596)
• United States
1 Jan 08
I think a lot of people misinterpret that verse from the bible. As Christians, we will be judged, and we have an expectation of being judged. However, that judgement is between us and God. I don't think Jesus ever publically humiliated people except the money changers in the temple. We are supposed to set a good example by our behavior, but we 'all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God'. I'm not sure what your friendship was based on, but she doesn't sound like a very good friend, to me.
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@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
1 Jan 08
The thing of it is, I was the only one shocked by her profanity. Other friends of mine say that she curses all the time when she gets mad. And I am not the only one that she gives a hard time for cursing. So apparently, only the queen can curse. Still, I would rather just avoid her all together.
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@Springlady (3986)
• United States
8 Jan 08
Hi Rozie,
As a Christian, I try not to curse. I can understand why you would be angry at your ex-friend when you actually heard her cursing. We really shouldn't judge anyone, but we can encourage each other with our walk with the Lord. We all are sinners and have our faults and things we need to work on. I believe that friends should help each other to do the right thing and always stick by each other.
I do hope you two will become friends again. Christ also taught forgiveness!
God bless you!:)
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@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
8 Jan 08
I know what you mean about forgiveness. I don't believe that I have any unforgiveness toward her in my heart. There are even times when I am tempted to say something to her. But, like you said, a friend should stick by and encourage the other person and not dog them down. For her, she is always right, no matter what she does.
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@anniepa (27955)
• United States
2 Jan 08
I sure sounds to me like this woman is a real troublemaker and you're certainly well rid of her! You were right, in my opinion, to decide to leave her alone altogether and I'd stick to that. I'm far - VERY far - from perfect and I've been known to say a few curse words in my life but I've never, EVER told someone else how to talk unless maybe if it were in front of small children or something like that. Yes, Hon, I'd definitely stay away from her, you don't need the aggravation of someone like that.
Annie
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@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
2 Jan 08
I think that it would have really hurt me if I had still been friends with her at the time. Sometimes, we start to feel like our friends are being the best friend that they can be and trying to help us.
But, all her fussing at me like that only made me cuss more. That is not God's way of correcting his children. I use to say that she was, So heavenly minded that she was no earthly good." Now, she's just a plain hypocrite to me.
@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
27 Apr 08
It has been four months since this incident and believe me, I have had little trouble keeping a distance. Every time I turn around she is being self-righteous with someone else and it reminds me of why I stopped associating with her in the first place.
@joyceshookery (2057)
• United States
2 Jan 08
Like you say in another response to this discussion, Rozie -- you try to accept people as they are. Whether you ultimately decide to drop her as a friend is your choice. In any event, it's really important that you let anyone you deal with know you have boundaries. If someone such as she has no respect for your boundaries, walk away. A friend is someone who knows all about you and likes you anyway *smile* -- and doesn't put you down.
She's behaving like a Pharisee -- quick to be concerned about the laws and condemning others, but not above the law herself.
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@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
2 Jan 08
Oh, I left her alone a long time ago. I did not feel that I deserved to be treated like that. The Bible says to rebuke each other in love. There was no love in the way she treated me. I let it go a few times. But, since she did not feel a need to change, I changed.
@hugs78 (9)
• United States
1 Jan 08
WOW! i would say your friend has some serious issues going on. i know i may not be the best of people in this world and i too, have a "potty" mouth. but to embarress and humiliate another based on your relgious beliefs is just not right. i would say turn the other cheek and just not talk to her anymore. we are not perfect in this world. "let he who has no sin, cast the first stone". maybe you should give her that verse the next time she critisizes.
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@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
1 Jan 08
Right now I just want to avoid her completely. To me, people like her are worse than sinners. Not only do they do the same thing, but judge others with the very judgement that they deserve. I know that I am not perfect. This is why I do my best to let people be who they are.
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