What Makes You Think Someone Has A Lot of Money?

United States
January 1, 2008 3:02pm CST
Do you assume someone is "rich" or makes a lot of money because of the type of car they drive, where they live, what they do for a living etc.? If so what makes you feel that way? Where have you gotten your perception of what ever makes you think that way? Was it the media, growing up as a child, other peoples beliefs? I'm interested in knowing because if one more person tells me I should not work, or that I shouldn't worry about money, or that I'm so lucky, all because my soon to be husband happens to have an excellent job, I really think I am going to explode.
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14 responses
@vera5d (4005)
• United States
1 Jan 08
I think a lot of people always have the misconception that other people's lives are better than theirs. I know a few millionaires who you would never guess. They drive beat up cars, live in really old houses with nothing fancy to them, don't go out ever, wear old ratty clothes, etc. this is probably how they were able to do it! i know just as many people that have fancy cars & houses, designer clothes, great jobs etc. but have no more money than me, just a lot more debt!
@SViswan (12051)
• India
2 Jan 08
I guess (like you said), it is the material things that make people think that someone has a lot of money. But I have personally seen people who drive a big car or live in a big house usually try to be cheap where they think people might not notice. So, I usually don't bother with how much money anyone has. Frankly, it doesn't really matter does it? I don't work for the money. Or maybe it's easy for me to say that because I don't NEED to work for the money. And so I don't bother about how much other's make. If you look at the term 'rich' in a materialistic way, I guess, yes, I would go by what car they drive, where they live, etc. I mean they wouldn't go out and buy it if they didn't have the money, would they? As far as what others say to you, I think you should tell them that you do what you do because you like to do it and want to do it and not because you don't have the money. People who don't have as much as you might think you are lucky. You might think someone else who has something you don't is lucky! It's each person's perspective. I don't think those people mean any harm. It's just that they don't understand what you need and they think you need what they do. When they get what you have, they then need something else. It's human nature. I'm going to stop coz I think I'm not making any sense and rambling..lol
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@SViswan (12051)
• India
3 Jan 08
Oh yes, I didn't think about the credit part. Frankly, I never bother about how rich a person is materialistically. I thought about it when I read your post and then thought 'yeah...a person who lives in a big house might be rich'...lol
@SViswan (12051)
• India
4 Jan 08
lol..yeah I guess it does when I think about it without giving it much thought!
@bellaofchaos (11538)
• United States
2 Jan 08
Alright I wasn't going to answer it becuase to be truthfully honest I have no way or no method of knowing who is rich and who is poor. My mom spent a lot of time spending money we didn't have to make the house look like we had money. But in reality we were bouncing checks because of her. My step dad Owned his own painting business when we lived in Texas but just because he owned his own company by no way where we rich or had money we lived paycheck to paycheck job to job. You can't tell if a person is rich UNLESS IT'S BILL GATES. Heck that man can lend money to the president. LOL!!
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• United States
2 Jan 08
Yes he could. I'm sure if I research my family tree I may be able to convince him I am the long lost great grand daughter of his step neice's cousin who was married to the paperboy his mother adopted when he was a baby but got lost in a tragic sled riding accident. If I can do that then maybe he will write me into his will. :) Good to see you again Bella. Hope I made you laugh.
• United States
1 Jan 08
This definitely happens. I drive a 2006 mitsibushi eclipse. People think that I have a lot of money due to that. I am 28 and have a good job, but I am a single mom. I support my daugher and myself. And I don't have a boyfriend at all. It's just the 2 of us. If I had a good boyfriend and they told me to stay home, I would jump on it. Not that you should because I know that I would get tired of it after awhile. I would not want people telling me that either. And I would not want to stay at home forever. I just think it would be nice for right now because I have always had to work to suport us. I would like to take a rest.
• United States
1 Jan 08
I know that feeling. I worked 2 and sometimes 3 jobs at a time to support my kids. People should be amazed that I am down to one job instead of telling me to sit at home to be with kids. 3 of kids are in school and the baby runs me ragged. I go to work to get away from them. lol No one assumes I have anything cause I drive a 10 year old minivan and live in a lower middle class neighborhood. But the minute they find out what my man does for a living they automatically assume he is rolling in extra money. They don't take into consideration he pays his own taxes 4 times a year, is still paying on a student loan, pays for his own private health insurance, and plenty of other expenses that come along with his profession. I just wish people would stop being so quick to form opinions and jump to conclusions.
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• United States
1 Jan 08
Yup, I understand the going to work to get away from the kid thing. I only have one, but it can definitely get tireing after awhile.
@Estina54 (385)
• United States
2 Jan 08
I think a person could be rich, at least potentially, for the job they do for living. Though they might not spend their money on the most expensive car or house, their income is making them well off. I would never tell somebody not to work and be dependant by a spouse neither finacially nor emotionally.
• United States
2 Jan 08
Then you are smarter than have of my family if you would never tell someone not to work and depend solely on their spouse. However I can't assume a persons occupation means they can be well off. It is usually the people who make a lot of money that have the most debt because they don't appreciate the value of a dollar.
• Italy
2 Jan 08
Something that can make you think on has a lot of money is: based upon how little he cares about savings!
• United States
2 Jan 08
Agreed! Thanks for the comment.
@baileym11 (887)
• United States
1 Jan 08
For me, it is more about walking into their home or looking at the way they dress. I think you can tell a lot by designer clothes and a big diamond. Houses that look like they have come out of interior design tell me someone has money.
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• United States
2 Jan 08
See I can't do that. I dress in designer clothes I buy at outlet stores. I have a huge diamond because my soon to be husband darn near mortgaged his house to get it for me. If someone were to look at me and assume I had a lot of money they would be sadly mistaken. lol
@wisedragon (2325)
• Philippines
2 Jan 08
I'm not impressed at all with fancy cars, big houses, or the latest cellphones. They don't mean a thing. They only mean that you spent a lot of money buying them, so that means you're probably stupid and on your way to financial disaster.
• United States
2 Jan 08
Your comment made me laugh. Thank you. I guess it all comes down to really getting to know the person. But in most cases I've seen you are correct.
@aliasad (1567)
• Pakistan
2 Jan 08
Hi there. Well, there are certain things appear to be benchmark to be true the question .... like other friends have quoted here including the Bank Balance, the money in hand, Car being owned, property and the status being enjoyed. All is true and I do agree. But, I don't think that "richness" would compensate those having such lacking that would be irreparable. I know personally persons having too much apparent things from some leasing or banking debts, just to make them impress others. This is too much deceiving and I don't like that, at all.
• United States
2 Jan 08
I agree. I'm not at all impressed with other peoples possessions. Sure they may be nice things but if they are barely making ends meet to compensate for owning them then to me it hardly seems worth it.
@kellys3ps (3723)
• United States
1 Jan 08
The answer to that question has changed as I've gotten older and hopefully more wise. When I was younger I thought people had a lot of money based on the type of house they lived in, the car they drove, or the clothes they wear. Now I know that most of those people do not have a lot of money, they have a lot of debt!
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• United States
2 Jan 08
And with age has grown wisdom. lol It just irritates me down to my very core to see people significantly older than I am make the same assumptions that most people make when they are first starting out on their own in the world. Thanks for the comment.
@mensab (4200)
• Philippines
2 Jan 08
i think one has a lot of money if s/he does not worry on anything. s/he is living a worry-free life. s/he travels a lot, s/he pursues his/her personal interests and hobbies. s/he does things that can not be a spurce of any income. s/he does a lot of volunteer work and philantrophy.
• United States
2 Jan 08
I can see those as being valid reasons why you would feel that way. I don't have the ability to do any of those things nor does my man, yet people still constantly make assumptions on how we live because of his job.
@jenny12 (31)
• Canada
1 Jan 08
Well i dont think so. I personally know some people who drive expensive cars but actually they are leasing it.And to think they pay the lease through credit cards which they maximize.Mean to the roof. And i dont agree that just because your spouse or spouse to be have an excellent job and good pay.One should work on their own. What will happen if the relationship break down? Where will the underdog go? Worst if they got kids and dont have a single red cent on their pocket. And you(i believe youre a female as you said your husband to be) should be independent in your own way. We dont know whats gonna happen.
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• United States
2 Jan 08
Thank you Jenny and that is exactly my point!. I don't care if my soon to be husband was a doctor or the drive thru guy at the local McDonalds. I work because you never know what is going to happen and I will never let myself be put in a situation where I am wondering how I am going to feed my 4 kids is something were to happen to him. It's nice to see someone gets where I am coming from. Now if I could only convince my friends and family of the same.
@bear_cute (124)
• Malaysia
2 Jan 08
Hi friend,actually not all expose the real situation in their life although he rich.some people don't like use fancy car or wide house.maybe he rich but sometimes many money he donate at welfare organisation.for them very peace the soul than waste the money to shopping for not important thing.not all like this.someone like big spend go to shopping with family and feel very happy.here depend the each perception someone and the way to handle many money.
• United States
2 Jan 08
So true. Thank you for your comment.
• Canada
2 Jan 08
they tell me theyre rich
• United States
2 Jan 08
hey that's a good determination. Can't fault the reasoning there.
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• United States
2 Jan 08
No you can't but if someone were to have to come out and tell me their were rich I would need to see a bank statement as proof. I'm just that way.