couple vs. single

@lorelai (1558)
Italy
January 2, 2008 5:48am CST
I was at the New Years Eve party with some 20 people and I had great time. I was there with my boyfriend and I had great time although I wasn't with him all the time. I mean, I was dancing with him but with other people too, I was talking to everybody and it was really nice. The next day I talked to 2 very close friends of mine and I asked them what they thought of the party and they didn't like it. Probably because there weren't any cute single people they could hit on. I asked one single girl friend and another single boy friend. At first I didn't understand why they didn't like the party but then I started thinking about it and if I was single I probably wouldn't have liked the party either. It is really interesting how things change depending on your status. Do you agree?
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@williamjisir (22900)
• China
2 Jan 08
Hello dear lorelai. If most of the people there are couples, I would also feel shy going there because I do not know whether I could invite any of the ladies to dance with me, but if I went with my friends, it would be nice as my friends would offer to dance with me and I would not feel so embarrassed because of being single there with no girlfriend. Thanks, lorelai.
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@lorelai (1558)
• Italy
2 Jan 08
well the half of the people was in couples but the rest of them were all singles but they obviously haven't liked each other. My boyfriend has this very nice friend and I took my friend with me too meet him but they didn't like each other. I haven't told them that we took them to the party just to get to know each other but I was pretty sad when I saw they weren't interested.
• China
3 Jan 08
You are so nice to have a very good intention to get them to know each other though they were not interested in each other. I think that they are still thankful to you, my dear friend.
@theprogamer (10539)
• United States
2 Jan 08
I understand what you are saying Lorelai. Personally, I could care less for the couple or single situation. In a way, New Years, other holidays (Valentines), and other events really underscore the fact a person is single. I can easily understand the melancholy that comes with the territory. Its a fact of life, society and human nature. And things can change depending on your status as you said, its inevitable. Of course the changes vary from person to person, so its possible a person could be happier in some areas, and more restrained or pressured in other areas.
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@lorelai (1558)
• Italy
2 Jan 08
I would feel the same if I was single, I just wanted to say that when one has a bf or gf different thing become important to her/him. I was was single I'd be disappointed too because there were no cute single boys there.
@II2aTee (2559)
• United States
2 Jan 08
Very true observation. Some of my friends who are single have actually told me they get jealous of me and my boyfriend because they wish they had a relationship like that. I tell them I was single - many many times - before I met the right person. It will happen though if you keep believeing!
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@lorelai (1558)
• Italy
2 Jan 08
You are right, but I have noticed that people started being picky with years. I have a few single friends and they think nobody is good enough.
• United States
2 Jan 08
Yes, I agree. i was there once and I know that I felt kinda lonely due to the fact that it seems as though people are so romantic and kiss at the stroke of midnight. In fact, i did have fun until the midnight hour after which I became sad.
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@lorelai (1558)
• Italy
2 Jan 08
I understand what you mean. I used to feel like that when I was single.
• United States
3 Jan 08
Do I agree with what? That experiences changed based on if you're single or in a couple? Well, obviously. That's not much of a statement.
@subha12 (18452)
• India
3 Jan 08
i think you are quite true. Your life cahnges with your status. But I have seen also few single people also enjoy things in theoir own ways. One must have outlook to live life happily.
@katisaurus (1038)
• Canada
3 Jan 08
I do agree, actually. Every year I've spent new years alone until this year, and I realized I enjoyed it a whole lot more this year. I just got together with a few friends but when midnight rolled around it felt really nice to have someone to kiss and be there with.
@johndur (3049)
• Pasig, Philippines
3 Jan 08
some things really are different from singles and attached.since you already have a partner you dont have to worry and find for one in a party,and just enjoy the party with your partner.but for singles,they have to look for their partner in the party and if they cant find the right one,then there goes a one big boring party for them.but do you really think singles needs a partner in a party?i think they should try enjoying the party even without partner besides there are friends to make the party more interesting.
• United States
3 Jan 08
I am single and your party sounds fun to me. But I am not looking for a boyfriend so I would have had fun just talking to the people at the party. I wouldn't be looking for the cute guys to flirt with.That makes a difference.The last party I went to that wasn't as great because I didn't have a steady was a dance in highschool.I have been to many a party with a mix of couples and singles and I had a great time.
3 Jan 08
I like being married and living with Joey with our son. Before i met him i was being controlled by over protective parents, but since i moved in with Joey i've had more independence and been alot happier. When i went to a party or someones house when i was single i was usually bored and didn't have anyone to talk to. I don't usually go to any partys but if i go to someones house with Joey and my son, i have someone to talk to if they are occupied or busy cooking etc. ~Joeys wife