mum in law is back in the hospital...
By Ravenladyj
@Ravenladyj (22902)
United States
January 3, 2008 11:14am CST
She was rushed into emergency yesterday morning and as it stands right now, we don't know what is wrong..My husband is there right now so hopefully he'll get some answers from the doctors today...
this sucks but I said it before and I'll say it again, its just a matter of time at this point....Not just physically but mentally and emotionally for her too..She is so ready ya know...and I can honestly say I dont blame her, I've known for some time now..problem is my husband is NOT ready nor is my son....
When you know its just a matter of time but its not narrowed down any, how do you help prep a person for losing a loved one?? I'm really at a loss especially with my son because since his bio dads mum recently passed and my mum is about as useful as a p.ecker on a peanut when it comes to being a grandparent to my kids my husband mum is the last gramma...My boy just adores her too (both kids do) and this will hit him very hard ya know..Any suggestions?
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@piatos03 (393)
• Philippines
3 Jan 08
You can't prep them. You can tell them all about going to a better place and any other talk to try to get themselves prepared for what's inevitably going to happen but when you're right there, in that situation, you won't know what hit you.
You can't predict how they're going to react. But you must empathize with them. Try to put yourself in their situation and understand how they're really feeling. It's going to take a lot of patience and perseverance to get through to them at times, so you have to stay strong for them.
All they need to get them through that is you. You presence and your strength. Let them draw the energy to get through this from you.
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@Ravenladyj (22902)
• United States
3 Jan 08
"You can't predict how they're going to react"
Oddly enough I can predict it....Especially with my son but only because he and his sister have already lost their brother and their father (along with other ppl in their lives) and I just know how my boy will react ya know..My husband is a different story..I know when our son passed it took him 7 yrs to recover...
As far as letting them draw energy from me..Well I dont know how much energy I'll have to give since this woman is the closest thing to a mother i've ever had so naturally this will devestate me too...
Thanks for your input though..
@Ravenladyj (22902)
• United States
3 Jan 08
thanks so much Mare....the vibes are needed...J's been at the hospital since 10am and I've not heard anything but I dont figure I will until later on...hopefully it'll go well and she's going to be fine.....
