Just another Gay topic...
By aseretdd
@aseretdd (13729)
Philippines
January 3, 2008 11:35pm CST
A friend who is an open gay told me that he is in a serious relationship with a co teacher who is also my friend but it never crossed my mind that he could be gay... I was a bit surprise because i never saw this coming... it is none of my business what they do with their life so i just accepted the situation as it is and gave them my support... they also have the right to be happy... and from the way i see it... they have found love...
But the issue in their situation is that... they are both teachers and they work in the same school... do you think they are crossing the boundaries of what an ethical relationship should be?... if you are a parent of this particular school, would you oppose to the relationship and voice out your opinion to the administration?... do you know of a similar situation?...
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7 responses
@Ravenladyj (22902)
• United States
4 Jan 08
I wouldnt care if they were teachers at my kids school...In fact its quite common to have married couples work in the same school and nobody complains about that so why should a gay couple working in the same place be any different? what happens after hours and outside the school is really nobodys damn business ya know..
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@olaff123 (433)
• Namibia
4 Jan 08
I've been working with my bf for about 3 years now, and believe me, it is not a bed of roses. The positive side is that you share a large portion of your life with each other, and the negative side exactly the same. When things go well, it is a bonus, but on bad days it is double the stress. If I had to be in their shoes, I would consider two separate schools - their's is a difficult situation and there is more involved here. A gay teacher is always in line of fire (unfortunately parents often do have an issue with this) and a couple in the same school will have a hard time. I hope that they can deal with this and good luck to them!
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@aseretdd (13729)
• Philippines
7 Jan 08
A separate school for them would be the solution in case complaints arise... but i don't think they can stand being away or working away from each...how do you deal with the stess and pressure of working alongside your boyfriend... it must be very tough sometimes....
@jennybianca (12912)
• Australia
9 Jan 08
I have known of a few similar situations & I dont oppose it. Just like any "couple" teaching in the same school, whether they be hetrosexual or otherwise, they need to keep their feelings private. No public obvious signs of affection is warranted.
My daughters assistant principal is hetrosexual. It is well known in the school.
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@aseretdd (13729)
• Philippines
10 Jan 08
Thanks for the input... and i agree that with this kind of relationship... there is a need to keep thing private so as not to attract any untoward attention from students and co teachers alike...but i admire your daughter's principal for not keeping his real personality secret... others would definitely hide what they really are...
@nkhanna (922)
• India
4 Jan 08
Well undoubtedly this is a very rare situations.i have never met such persons in my life.i dont comment on them being gay,but yes they should take extra care that they dont divulge into anything which makes the children suspicious of them.i think no parents would like their children's teacher to be a gay or lesbian.they should keep thier limit.apart from school if they do anything which is personal to them i think it should really not matter anybody.however extra care is definately needed.
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@primeaque86 (8108)
• Philippines
7 Jan 08
I dont want to entervene them as long they doing it in a formal way or I mean If they are not showing it to the students because they models and somehow they could influenced the young ones. They have the right to love and be happy so no one has the right to do so unless as what I have first mentioned they are doing such in a wrong place.
@luanakent (793)
• Brazil
4 Jan 08
School is the workplace, and they should not be have as spouses in the workplace.
Outside....them does what want since without escandals.
All who work with the education of young people must ensure that their name and should give good example.
IN MY PARTICULAR oPINION but...
It is a pity that this happened . I really know that God dont like that behavior.
See wall...This is not prejudice.
Prejudice is when you dont respect or despises someone to be different.
Discrimination is when you have bias and prejudice or pursuing the person to be different.
In my case... I dont disregard ...I just DISagree.
I disagree with the homosexual way of life.
I am sorry...because even disagreeing of practicing them...not leave to love as a Christian should love.
@luanakent (793)
• Brazil
5 Jan 08
how i said...: Out side of the school...such my do what they wants.
Each responds by their own actions.
The discussion is about the impact on students.
Adolescents and children have to grow up in an environment of professionalism and study at the school.
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@aseretdd (13729)
• Philippines
7 Jan 08
I have no problem with gay couples having a relationship... as long as they are discreet... especially in a situation where they are both teachers... they have to be careful not to show any public display of affection... or else students might ridicule them or lose respect for them...
@tonyllenium (6251)
• Italy
5 Jan 08
so i won't oppose if some teachers in the school are gay and have a relationship but it depends from the people you are talking to..in fact if they private is show in the school too or in any subject they prefer to achieve with students i don't like it very much!!
such as if they are gay in private,verybody have their choices and so not a problem but seeing that a school is also a different workplace not as in shop or others they must have a behaviour as all other teachers i the school so not because they are gay have different behaviour or preferences!!
@aseretdd (13729)
• Philippines
7 Jan 08
I have worked with a lot of gay teachers but most of them are discreet when it comes to their preferences... since they do not want the students to laugh at them or complain about their behavior... it was their choice and it worked well for them professionally...thanks for the response...
