Accepting friends

@TerryZ (22083)
United States
January 4, 2008 8:41am CST
As you know my friends have been deleated so I need you to request my friendship again. Im going to be really careful about accepting friends. I dont need anymore trouble here. So some of my real true friends have already asked me for a friends request. And of course I have accepted them. So are you picky about your friend requests on mylot?
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43 responses
@SViswan (12071)
• India
5 Jan 08
I guess I have to be now. I was careful when I first started but later on accepted every friend request that came my way. But after reading certain discussions about obscene discussions and knowing what happened to you, I will be very careful in the future.
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@TerryZ (22083)
• United States
5 Jan 08
Its ashame I feel like this maybe it will go away inawhile. Or maybe not.LOL
@SViswan (12071)
• India
7 Jan 08
Maybe it's for your good if it doesn't go away.
@worldwise1 (14887)
• United States
4 Jan 08
I must say, TerryZ, that you have become quite the celebrity here on myLot, lol. I have heard so much about you from Pyewacket and others that I don't know how I managed not to have made your acquaintance before now. I would be happy to have you as a friend. You are very well thought of on this site. I'm not really picky about friends requests, because I believe in giving everyone a chance. I figure they will ultimately gravitate toward the friends they have the most in common with anyway.
@TerryZ (22083)
• United States
4 Jan 08
Ive learned not to except just anyone as a friend on mylot. There are alot of trouble makers here. If I dont know someone I wont except them now.
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@gabs8513 (48710)
• United Kingdom
4 Jan 08
Hi Worldwise Both Terry and me have learned out of this we really have but I know everyone thinks different Hugs to you Sweetie
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@maddysmommy (16233)
• United States
4 Jan 08
WELCOME BACK TerryZ. I did not even know you had returned. I've missed you and your funny discussions.
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@TerryZ (22083)
• United States
4 Jan 08
I just came back today. I knew about it a couple of days ago but had to think about coming back here.LOL
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@maddysmommy (16233)
• United States
4 Jan 08
Fair enough. I would of seriously thought about it too after all you have been through. Welcome back my friend!
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@AD11RGUY (1266)
• United States
5 Jan 08
Wow! You're back! I am so glad to see this! No, you and I haven't met, but we have some good mutual friends. And that's how I found out about the fiasco that you went through. I am really, truly glad you've come back! Your friends painted a very beautiful picture of you and seriously were thinking about abandoning m/L and starting their own discussion group. How's that for true friends? As to being picky, so far only people who aren't flakes have requested friendship. And of course I request friendship of those whose posts not only interest me, but prove that they aren't flakes as well. Welcome back, TerryZ!
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@arkaf61 (10881)
• Canada
4 Jan 08
Hi terry, welcome back. I just requested to be added as your friend again. As for your question I have never thought about that you know? Mostly I accept or add new friends with discussions that I feel interest me in general and that I would like to be able to look for to answer. Sometimes WHen I check the profiles I am a little bit on doubt but usually I accept everyone. On the other hand I am not really in touch with most of the friends I have here except trough the discussions and when things are going beyond controversial and entering the silly stage I withdraw so maybe that's why so far I haven't encountered any special problems here. Maybe I am not that picky when it comes to request or accept friend and maybe I should be a bit more careful, I've seen very strange things happening in this place, specially to innocent people.
@TerryZ (22083)
• United States
4 Jan 08
Oh yes Ive seen some strange things too. Sounds goods be careful my friend. Im glad to be back.
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@bellaofchaos (11549)
• United States
4 Jan 08
I have never really thought about it. To be honest I have only been on mylot since september and only truly active since mid december. So at first I have accepted everyone. But after some current event's I'm trying to be more selective of my friends. I guess the way I'm going to be more selective is if the person ever anwered a discussion of mine or if I answered one of theirs. If in the discussion of mine the answer was truly construtive and was about the topic in hand and wasn't judgemental in any way. I'll ask a person who discussion I responded to if their discussion was viable and not just what color is your fav today. I know we all post some fluff to have fun but if a majority of your posts are fluff I'm probably not going to ask a person to be my friend I want to get into a discussion that you learn something or can help someone. Something with substance. I know that some people currently have made mylot a little less attractive to me as of late and I'm greatful for the friends that Ihave that make this place great and allow us to have great and meaningful discussion. I'm sorry for what ever hardship you had to endure Terry. We are supposed to be a community that is accepting and opinionated, not one that has wars and purposely hurts people. I truly hope that the Admin starts looking into things a little more closely. Thank you for your discussion topic and have a nice day ... Bella~
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@TerryZ (22083)
• United States
4 Jan 08
Thankyou Bella thats very sweet of you. I wish you alot of luck here at mylot and I do agree this is suppose to be a community and we all need to stick together. Im glad my friends did stick together for me its a great feeling.
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@OURDEW (4812)
• United States
4 Jan 08
Hi Terry:) I am so sorry that you had all that trouble, but I'm glad that you are back. I am picky now, I don't need any trouble.:) I hope your feeling better.
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@TerryZ (22083)
• United States
4 Jan 08
Thats good stay picky and thankyou.
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@foxyfire33 (10009)
• United States
4 Jan 08
I'm not gouing to ask, I'm just so surprised to see that puppy with your name under it! I'm glad you're here. Yes, I am picky about who I accept as friends. I have some basic guidelines that I keep to myself unless I need to explain them to a newbie who wants me to just accept them immediately. My rules have upset a few but oh well. I don't want to get in the middle of anything stupid, getting in the middle of important things is fine, just not the stupid stuff.
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@TerryZ (22083)
• United States
4 Jan 08
Hi foxy good to see you again! I dont blame you one bit!LOL
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@someonesmom (5765)
• Canada
5 Jan 08
Hi Terry, I'm so excited to see you back here, not only for your sake, but for the sake of all others who have missed you. I'd requested you as a friend, 'in good faith,' when you were 'away,' and you'd accepted. I've always enjoyed your contribution here, and can tell you're a very caring, loyal friend. I've just sent a friend request through to you. This is a great 'myLot start' to the new year, and it proves that many people pulling together can make a difference.:) When I first started here, I wasn't sure how things worked, so wasn't really selective when choosing friends. These days, after being around here awhile, I've become much more choosy.
@webeishere (36353)
• United States
5 Jan 08
I hope she accepts mine as well. HAHAHAHAHA!! sHE WAS DEARLY MISSED BY THE MULTITUDE HERE. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
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• Canada
5 Jan 08
I'm sure you'll be accepted, Grandpa Bob! Who wouldn't want a wonderful friend like you?:)
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@TerryZ (22083)
• United States
5 Jan 08
Hi someonesmom! Thankyou for the warm welcome home! Thats exactly how I was when I first joined mylot. But Ive learned to be really picky about accepting friends here. Of course I have accepted you as a friend. We do have a great little family!Hugs!!
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@Nan110 (469)
• United States
5 Jan 08
I'm never picky about my friend requests. If anyone wants to be my friend I have no problem with it. I'm always upto meeting new friends and making new friends.
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@TerryZ (22083)
• United States
5 Jan 08
I use to think like that!LOL Not anymore! Good luck to you!
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@Nan110 (469)
• United States
5 Jan 08
Thanks Terry. You were in my thoughts and prayers while you were away and I also heard alot about you though Gabs's posts and that made you a good person. I'm always there for my friends. It's hard to find a friend to talk to now a days but I have a friend that I can talk to. It would be nice to have more friends to talk to.
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@TerryZ (22083)
• United States
5 Jan 08
Thankyou Nan I do appreciate your kind words. Yes gabs is a great friend of mine. Its good to have friends like her.
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@abbey19 (3129)
• Gold Coast, Australia
5 Jan 08
I'm glad that you are back here Terry, because I feel like I know you, and you are not on my friend list (yet), but I would love to be your friend if you will have me. (I'm not a troublemaker, lol!) I am a friend of gabs and it's through her discussions about you that I feel I've come to know you - she is a good friend to you and has supported you like a champion!
@TerryZ (22083)
• United States
5 Jan 08
Hi abbey its nice to meet you. I would gladly accept your frienship. Yes my gabs is a great friend to me!
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@abbey19 (3129)
• Gold Coast, Australia
6 Jan 08
Thanks for accepting me Terry! Gabs is quite a unique person I think!
@abbey19 (3129)
• Gold Coast, Australia
6 Jan 08
btw - thanks for Best Response.
@moneyandgc (3430)
• United States
4 Jan 08
Welcome back! :) I tend to accept everyone. I like to give the benefit of doubt. If I start getting bombarded with spam is really the only reason I have had to delete someone.
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@TerryZ (22083)
• United States
4 Jan 08
Spam is not the only reason for not excepting friends Ive learned that you cant trust some peopl on mylot.
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• United States
4 Jan 08
The only problem is, I just don't know who to trust and who not to. I don't want to deny someone who doesn't deserve the denial. Can't the troublemakers cause trouble even if you don't accept them as your friend? Does them being on your friends list make a difference to mylot? I only ask because now I am thinking of going through my friends, but then we are back to problem number 1, I have no idea who should be deleted. :)
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@TerryZ (22083)
• United States
4 Jan 08
It wouldnt hurt to go through your friends if they arent answering your discussions in a really long time then you can deleate them. But as far as accepting new people I wont do it anymore if I havent talked to them before. But thats only me sweetie. Because Ive been burned.
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@Sissygrl (10914)
• Canada
4 Jan 08
I try to give everyone the benifit of the doubt in the beginning, but i DO check out their profile before i add them, to see what type of discussions they start, and what type of responses they deliver. Like if they have one sentence or two sentence answers and a crapload of boring one liner discussions, then i will deny them. If they pass those first two checks then i'll add them :) I have heard/seen lots about you lately. I'll try adding you later on as a friend if we seem to have a lot of discussions in common :) I have haerd all good things about you.
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@TerryZ (22083)
• United States
4 Jan 08
That sounds good Sissygrl. Im glad you heard good things about me. That does make me feel good.
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• United States
5 Jan 08
good way to add friends...maybe ill try it out.
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@Springlady (3986)
• United States
4 Jan 08
Hi Terry, I usually accept just about everyone who requests to be my friend. I like to give a person a chance, you know? If I find they want to be my "friend" only to cause problems for me, then I can delete them.
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@TerryZ (22083)
• United States
4 Jan 08
If that works for you thats fine.
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• United States
7 Jan 08
It has worked for me so far!
• Uganda
5 Jan 08
Hi, What exactly happened?
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@TerryZ (22083)
• United States
5 Jan 08
It not worth talking about!
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@shinjiao (1464)
• China
5 Jan 08
Hi,Terry!Welcome to back! I don't refuse any friends' requests on mylot.I will be happy to see more and more people become my friends.I'm always nice and friendly,haha.^_^
@TerryZ (22083)
• United States
5 Jan 08
Thankyou for that warm welcome and happy mylotting! Im glad to hear you always nice!LOL
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@power926 (60)
• Canada
5 Jan 08
To be honest, on online websites like these i accept almost every friend request i get and then ask questions later :P. maybe its dangerous or something, but i wont learn until i get hurt :D.
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@TerryZ (22083)
• United States
5 Jan 08
Thanks for sharing with me! And good luck to you!
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@theprogamer (10539)
• United States
5 Jan 08
I'm not so picky on friend requests and anyone is welcome to add up when they feel like it. Even then there are a few people on here I'm friends with but not on the friends list (strange but true).
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@TerryZ (22083)
• United States
5 Jan 08
I use to feel like that when I first joined mylot but I have learned to be picky when accepting friends here. Thanks for sharing with me! And happy mylotting!
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• United States
5 Jan 08
so glad you're back. just wasn't the same seeing your avatar everywhere knowing you couldn't be here. love you terry!
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@TerryZ (22083)
• United States
5 Jan 08
Awwwww thats so sweet of you! Love you too crazyredhead!
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@subha12 (18452)
• India
5 Jan 08
Hi TerryZ, welcome back here. We all missed you and your discussions here in mylot.I really do not actually think anything before adding any friend's request. I just add them. I hope to be your friend as well. Hope you will answer my discussions and i'll do that to yours.
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@TerryZ (22083)
• United States
5 Jan 08
Hi subha!thanks for your kind words. I would be glad to be your friend!
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