I didn't make a new year's resolution.

United States
January 4, 2008 11:05pm CST
Did you? I have not made one in over a year. The last year that I made a New Year's resolution was 2005. I wanted to have a boyfriend by my birthday in September of that year. Well, that was the same year that the love of my life came back. We were dating. He even proposed.I thought everything was great. Then we broke up. I was devestated. When my birthday rolled around, I remembered what I had said. I hated my birthday that year. I was so sad. I told everyone that I didn't want to have a birthday party. My mom makes me dinner every year and that year was no exception even though I didn't want it. I didn't even want to go to my own birthday party. The only reason I did was my daughter. It meant something to her. She gets excited. Anyway, I have not made a new years resolution since that year.
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@merrydew (60)
• United States
5 Jan 08
That's a sad story. I think it's best to make a resolution that is more in your control, like kicking a bad habit, or starting a new positive routine. Some things just depend on serendipity, such as meeting someone special. Setting a time table for something like this, just puts more pressure on you and brings disappointment when the deadline passes. My resolution is to get into country music. Or at least, give it a chance. It's partly tongue-in-cheek, partly a feeling that I'm prejudiced against it, and I don't like being prejudiced. Silly, I know. But I don't think new year's resolutions should be taken too seriously. If it's so important, why wait until the new year to make the change?
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• United States
5 Jan 08
Yes, it is sad. But everything happens for a reason, right.
• United States
5 Jan 08
Because life sucks?
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• United States
6 Jan 08
Let's hope not.
@sanell (2114)
• United States
6 Jan 08
I did not in the past few years only because In 2004 one of my dreams finally came true and that was my oldest daughter. then in 2005 I became pregnant with my second daughter. I gave birth in 2006 to my second daughter and this is the first year I have finally made a new years resolution. I am working on my body to get it back to pre pregnancy weight. Now that my youngest will be 2 this month (January 25) I figured my body is ready to get back into shape. I am sorry that you and your boyfriend broke up. I hope it was for the best, even though it can be tough. My sister did that, she was with her ex for 5 years, he was her college sweetheart and finally after he was getting close to proposing, she broke it off. She knew in her heart she could not marry him, their relationship was very combative (verbally not physically) and she did not want it to be so hard. It was a very brave thing for her to do....Since her sisters, friends and other family members were already married and having kids. She is now happy, she is going to have Identical twin girls this month and we are all very excited for her. She and her boyfriend (of 4 years) are very excited for the upcoming births and HOPEFULLY he will pop the question soon, but our thoughts are that he wants to really surprise her and right now, she may just be expecting it. He also wants to wait until after the babies are born.
• United States
6 Jan 08
Congratulations to your sister! The thing is that our relationship was perfect. We didn't fight. We could sit in a room and just look at each other without talking. Still can, actually. I really truely believe we are soul mates. I feel it inside me. I don't want to settle. I think that is why I don't date other guys. I can't settle for less than how he makes me feel. I don't know where this is going to take me. I will be 30 in 2 more years. Not that numbers really matter, but I need to do something with my life romantically sooner or later. I really want my daughter to have a father. I just don't know where to go from here. It's really just a sad situation.
• United States
5 Jan 08
And you are probably the better for it ! I did not make one for the simple fact that the pressure of keeping one is so hard especially when it is less realistic than one could imagine and then not reaching that goal and so on and so on . . . so I just decided to be as stubborn as last year, motivated and intolerant of what I did not tolerate last year or any other year I went without a resolution and made it ! Best of luck to you and happy belated birthday . . . sharing the light and happy new year, Miss Erica Hidvegi, the Enlightenment_Advisor, B.A. Psych/M.A. Transpersonal Studies- Cnslng/Author, Artist, Photographer, Entrepreneur & Freelance extraordinaire
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• United States
5 Jan 08
Good luck with all that.
• India
5 Jan 08
Happy New year. Don't be dejected by events. Some resolutiion may yield expected result. Keep your mind free from emotional environment. Analyais where is fault and try to achive the goal. Be happy.You have a good affectionate daughter. Please convey my new year greetings to her.
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• United States
5 Jan 08
Thanks.
• India
5 Jan 08
Hey cheer up girl.I may not be as old as you or may not think like you.But believe that you are someone special and you someone special will turn up soon. Its no good thinking about the past and brooding over it.If you really want to enjoy life for your as well as for the ones around you,then forget your past.Go meet someone ,begin dating and colour up your life. If you permit I will draw a new year resolution for you.Get seeing someone.And bont break up with the guy. I am 21 and I have been seeing my girlfriend over the past 5 years and its great when you have stability in your life. Happy new year.
• United States
5 Jan 08
Thing is..the guy i was talking about. Well, I still see him. I know that I should probably move on. He had some probs. But we are soul mates. I really believe that. I love him and he loves me. But we aren't together really. It's confusing. And unhealthy. I know something has to give. And I'm only 28. I am starting to feel it though.
@pastorkayte (2255)
• United States
12 Jan 08
I didnt make one either however their are some things I want to accomplish however it is going to be I will do it not because of the resolution(I never keep those anyway) but just cause I want to, more of a chance of it getting done that way.
• United States
6 Jan 08
I love New Years resolutions but decided to be not so "intentse" about them. Instead of January 1st I gotta do this - i resolved I would take the whole month to get to that...how does that sound??? Usually, if I don't do things in time intended I don't do them - so maybe I need more time?
@lexus54 (3576)
• Singapore
5 Jan 08
Last year, I made a resolution but I didn't follow it seriously. In fact, I found that I didn't even think about it during the year. So this year, I didn't make any new resolutions. But if I have to make one, it will be a simple one, and that is to stay happy and healthy throughout the year.
• India
5 Jan 08
we should not wait for resolutions to be made only on new year but on the contrary these can be made on any day irrespective of day, date, month or year.
• Canada
5 Jan 08
Ya man, to gain at least 20 more pounds of muscle. You?
@bfarrier1 (2082)
• United States
5 Jan 08
I haven't made a resolution in years I never could stick to them so I just quit making them that way I don't feel guilty for not keeping them.Have a great day!