Guys please don't hurt women

It's not just women that get hurt in relationships. Men do to. My fiance for instince is more emotional than I am. And he gets hurt more than I do. It's not a bad thing don't get me wrong. But I have seen how he gets walked all over because of him being emotional. I like having him this way. I fell in love with for who he is. So please don't be a hater on men that they are the ones that break womens hearts etc. Things happen for a reason and relationships are all different and under different circumstances. Every breakup is different and they chose to break-up for reasons that they have.

Eh...huh...what? Sorry wasn't paying full attention, I was tending to some emotional backstab and heartstab wounds women left me and thinking about those on other guys I know or read about... Alright, macabre and cynicism out of the way, you are completely correct. Women shouldn't be treated like garbage, nor should they be strung around as you described. Its too bad you didn't think to mention the women that pull this kind of garbage or worse on other men. Hmph. Maybe the cynicism hasn't left me fully yet. Because where I'm at, men are told this almost all the time by plenty of people and some famous empty flapping heads. On the other hand, when women do this kind of nonsense to men, everyone is silent and some people PRAISE the horrors that are inflicted on guys... all with conveinent excuses to boot(oh she did it out of love, she needs this..., etc, etc, etc). /facepalm. /temple rub.

Yes, I've seen these relationships almost everyday. Not that I'm pointing fingers here or was simply saving myself from what you've said, honestly I respect all the women whom I've been with before. I haven't even thought of hurting them, physically or mentally. I'm always the one whom they leave, dunno but maybe because I'm just too understanding that they tend to look for someone who have that sort of "bad boy" image. I always believe in the wonders of life, love and long-time companionship. How I wish that everyone has the same thoughts about love, but then again that is how life is all about in this world..

You are right. I also think that a girl hurts the most in the love. It is so hard for them to forget the hurt, actually. So if boys really want to break up, please be kind and try to avoid hurt their girls much.

I have to disagree with you, it's not always the women who get hurt. It works both ways. Women can be just as devious as men and I am a woman so I can say that it takes two. Maybe the kind of women who tend to be duped by such men need to look at themselves and not the men. The are allowing people to walk all over them and do them wrong. You teach people how to treat you. Women need to stand up and get the respect they deserve. Maybe if more women acted like men they wouldn't find themselves in such situations.

It is what exactly I want to say. The book of songs says:when a man falls in love with a woman,he can get rid of it easily;but when a woman falls in love with a man,she cann't get rid of it easily. Now I never believe the guys who say I love you to me.I will make me bring up.

most of the men especially on this relationship hurt women because men don't know what comes into mind when something is wrong all about it could be misunderstanding about feelings, problems, depression of feelings or heart broken.

Wrong. Marriage is not the be all and end all of life. Not every women "dreams of getting married". I sure as hell never did. There are plenty of women in the world who never want to get married. Love is not synonymous with marriage and not all loves will get married.

I agree with your intention, however some of what you say is very dependent on stereotypes. As a woman who has both hurt and been hurt in relationships, I have to say that I don't think my feelings are any more fragile than those of some of the men that I have been with. In fact, thanks in part to childhood abuse, I definitely don't assume someone loves me for life because they say "I love you". Nor do I use "I love you" only with someone I want to make a lifelong commitment to... I say it to most of my friends, or anyone else I love for that matter. I am not a fragile woman. I do not break easily. You have to be really trying to break me, for the most part. I don't think I work harder than my partner in every single relationship, regardless of the gender of that partner. It's great that you don't want men to hurt women, but personally I don't want anyone to hurt anyone, regardless of gender. And I don't think appealing to someone using stereotypes is really going to help them want to be a better person, or not cause harm to others. If we EVER want people to be able to understand each other, we have to stop using these stereotypes to define ourselves.

Hello spoiled311, I understand very much how it feels being hurt by our loved one. It happened to me once. Men and women are totally different whenever we talk about the same matter : love. For us women, love means everything. When we say we love, we do love our man; normally wholeheartedly. But it is not the same thing with men. When they say that they love, it isn't always mean love. Sometimes, 'I love you' means not that much to them. But as a woman, we always feel happy whenever we hear those three magic words. We always hope it is true, real and forever but unfortunately, it won't be that way for most of us.

I know so well what you mean. IN all fairness, I see women playing these same games.

man and woman is equal on the love relationship.but i do think woman must be stronger for we are hurted easliy. a old saying said"choose what you love,and love what you choose".so we must make our eyes clearly to choose our lover,or we would get hurt again. please get stronger,my frinder. please you will meet your heartbaby!come on!

Looks like you have just come out terribly hurt after a broken relationship.. I am really sorry if that is the case. All i say is that there are all sorts of people in this world. it is just not fair to expect everyone to think alike.. I agree, playing with anybody's emotion is downright cheap and inhuman. Love and trust comes naturally to most women and for that reason, they are more succeptable to hurt too.. My advise at this stage is just give it time.. you will definitly get over this episode.

You are right that men should not abuse women but there are also many men who are emotional wrecks because of being abused by women. Men can hurt just as easily. Maybe they don't show it as much. The bottom line is that both men and women should respect each other's feelings. The truth is that we are dependent on each other.

First of all thanks a lot for starting this discussion. it seems all the words are told from my heart. women are hurt more when they are cheated or any relationship is broken. I think it has become a rule for many guys to just take advantage of women's vulnarabilty. i join you in this request.

Men get hurt too by women leaving them.It works both ways.

It is sad when relationships sour. But that doesnt mean that both parties arent hurting. I find that so easily we rush to blame/label somebody as a bad guy when the relationship is over. When it is obvious that both parties are hurting. and while at times guys may take advantage of us. It can be said that we as women often take advantage of men.