Step children
@mag_keizer2007 (1282)
Canada
January 6, 2008 1:26pm CST
How close are you to your step children? I have a 11 year old step daughter. I feel like she is my own but we aren't that close. I love her to death adn she is a great child but i don't feel close to her...is that normal or is it just me?
3 responses
@dania_elm (421)
• United States
6 Jan 08
i dont have step children unless u count the dog thats his baby but my hubby had 5 of them and he is so much close to them than their biological dad is i think its wonderful he is actually going to adopt them sometimes i get jealous because the boys seem to only want me when they want something or they dont feel well when it comes to playing daddys the man
@mag_keizer2007 (1282)
• Canada
6 Jan 08
well i would never adopt her becasue she has a great mom of her own, and that is problably why we aren't close her and her mom are so maybe she thinks i will try to take her moms place...we are pretty close it not like we argue all the time or anything....but she is very close to her half sister, which i am greatful for
@funnysis (2619)
• United States
6 Jan 08
I think that if you open a door and let her know if she wants a diferent idea you are open to talk openly with her and that you would never try and take her moms place,that you only want whats best for her and then maybe you will feel closer to her.
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@funnysis (2619)
• United States
6 Jan 08
I have heard this before and still do not understand how a person can not feel close to a child and want to protect them no matter what.I have 4 step children and treat them like they are my very own and the same way I would my own children they all know if they want to talk I am there for them I will help them through what ever I can.I guess you just need to ask yourself if it is fear that stops you from being to close to them or that you may do something to hurt the relationship? I hope this helps and Have a great year.
@mag_keizer2007 (1282)
• Canada
6 Jan 08
Well its weird, We talk and hug and laugh and do things together but i feel like there is a distance between us. We talk and she knows that she can come to me if she needs to, but she is kinda like that with her dad...a few months ago she needed something and wouldn't tell us for some reason...her mother had to tell us about it...i don't know i feel like it is her not wanting to be close to me like she pushes me away, I still think she wants her parents to get back together even tho they are both married and her mother is having another child, we had a rough year with her last year mis behaving and stuff but she is fine now and coming around...she doesn't deal well with change and there was a lot going on so maybe it was just that, I'm not too sure
@kellys3ps (3723)
• United States
6 Jan 08
I don't have any step children, but my husband does. Our oldest three boys are from a previous marriage. He is very close to ALL of our boys. I usually have to remind people that they aren't his, most people are surprised when they find out that they are his step kids because he treats them like his own.
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@funnysis (2619)
• United States
6 Jan 08
I think he sounds like a wonderful father and I bet he makes a great person as well you got to dig deep to understand the children don't ask for the situation so you have to help them through.I commend your husband and think he sounds great.
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